My real life doesn't match up with what I read on PPD and manosphere.
All of my friends are social beings. My female friends, male friends, etc..
Since middle school, I've always had a large co-ed friend group. HS. College. And 20s.
I'll focus on my male friends.
None of them seem to struggle as much as the men I've read about on Reddit. Some of my male friends are (very) short, some are overweight, some are athletic , some are hipster skinny, some super facially attractive, some are not - but they're all fun sociable guys who like to brunch, vacation, go to parties, throw parties, go to Happy Hour, go to BBQs, go to literary salons, art shows, music shows, festivals, work events, go bowling, etc..
They're all guys who know how to get along well with other guys and have their own little "wolf pack" or "crew," but also know how to have natural fun-loving platonic relationships with women.
My hypothesis is that men who know how to naturally "friend" with other men have an easier time casually "pal'ing it up" with women, which may lead to more (and often does).
It seems to me men in the manosphere are so focused on "getting laid" and "procuring sex" or "getting a woman" they haven't even covered the basics... do you even "friend" well? Do you have friends? Male friends? Do you have a coed friend group? Do you normally socialize around others and other women? Do you even socialize period?
In my estimation, crossing that bridge first makes it phenomenally easier for men to liaise that into romantic opportunities with women. It builds comfort and ease and rapport. You meet friends of friends which could lead to your future GF or FWB or wife. And it all happens more easily than "pick up." And let's say you are into "pick up." Actually having a fun bunch of male friends makes "pick up" a lot less intimidating.
Thoughts?! :)
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