Q4MEN: Men who had successful career mothers, did you also end up marrying successful women?

Aaren_Augustine · 2018-02-01T14:12:31+00:00

My mother was terrible. I married a successful and ambitions wife who has a very similar personality to my father.

It wasn't the career, much like n count, its the inability to invest in your family. I could be pissed about her selling houses and blame how successful she was at that, but really it was her inability to bond appropriately for close family members that drove her to make a fuck ton of money. Couldn't eek any satisfaction in her child or spouse. Never learned how I suppose

crackrocksteady7 · 2018-02-01T14:31:43+00:00

My mom has an ms in computer science and makes something like 175k. I'm currently dating a crazy nurse

RadaNotaTaakaDaPills · 2018-02-01T15:29:06+00:00

Would becoming a high school teacher be considered successful? As I understand, she wanted to be a SAHM but since her husband couldn't enough money to provide a decent life, she had to work herself. She started doing odd jobs and caring for the elderly. Went to school to complete her masters. Got a job as a teacher. She's been working over 15 years and is ready to commit to a few more to maximize pension.

I am not married.

polyconfused38 · 2018-02-01T18:33:21+00:00

My mother stayed home and then had an unprofitable vanity business from home and was pretty lazy about both. It always bothered me how little she contributed compared to my dad so I think I unconsciously wanted to marry someone with more work ethic and responsibility and I did. Not a high-flying career woman per se but both works and contributes a lot at home.

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[deleted] · 2018-02-01T18:17:51+00:00

Caveats: mom comes from a wealthy family, turned poor (read, middle class) after WWII. She gave my grandfather the middle finger and married dad... a mechanic, 11 years her senior. Well, he was, indeed, college educated but everybody knows you need money to live and he's always been really good with making things.

She went on to work as a banker and made the money to sustain the family.

Now, I am married to a CEO. My brother married a doctor, though

PhucCheet · 2018-02-01T22:35:53+00:00

Career does matter. Where's this AMALT bullshit coming from?

My mother was a 6-figure earning professional and involved in the community. I won't consider an LTR with anyone without both a high level of education and a successful career.

For casual sex it matters less, but education strongly preferred.

SmeggingRight · 2018-02-02T00:46:28+00:00

My mother is the best woman I know. She was never a successful career woman, but she worked lots of jobs and kept us afloat after dad ran off and left us. All while looking after us and making us feel loved. That's successful in my eyes.

I want to marry a woman who is well educated but who is willing to take years off to become A SAHM. Watching my mother struggle to do everything was enough for me. I'll do the bringing in money thing and my future wife can do raising children thing. If she's ambitious, maybe she'll start her own business that she can combine with raising kids.

daveofmars · 2018-02-02T01:14:30+00:00

My mother has a successful carrier as a military contractor doing data analysis for the US Navy. She went to college for computer science back when you had to run computer programs by feeding punch-cards into mainframe computers.

But she didn't have a successful marriage. She divorced my dad when I was 10 and as a single mother she didn't provide the guidance I needed because of that career. I ended up leaving her care when I was 16.

My wife is successful because she's competent at what she does, not because of the ambition to get to the top of the hierarchy. We both work to live, not live to work.

[deleted] · 2018-02-02T03:56:52+00:00

My mom had a successful career in marketing research and spearhead various projects one of which still around today. That said I am not dating anyone nor am I remotely married. I've had dated women who where ambitious or that pursing well paying careers tho. Its kind of a requirement for me dating wise.

MercedesBenzoAMG · 2018-02-02T12:09:43+00:00

I look for women who have their own thing going on and won't have to depend on me but I wouldn't want to marry a woman like my mum.

I love my mum and always looked up to her as a kid but being in a relationship with someone like that just ain't for me. Her job made her stressed out all the time and she spent a lot of time miserable.

And to be successful in business you need to be dominant which she absolutely is. It's an admirable trait in the business world and useful in other aspects of life too, but again the opposite of what I look for in a romantic partner.

All my partners have pretty much been the opposite of my mum.

[deleted] · 2018-02-02T17:31:14+00:00

Yes.

ExposeTheFAUX · 2018-02-03T11:57:43+00:00

lol @ thinking a 9-5 job is "success".

SlimLovin · 2018-02-01T17:14:23+00:00

My mother was a Civil Servant, like me, like my father.. She worked for a county welfare agency until my older sister was born in 1985. Then she and my father had three children, each 1 year apart. So mom stayed home and raised us from 0-10ish. Once we could all walk to the bus stop together, she went back to work for county welfare, where she finished out her career until being diagnosed with MS.

My girlfriend is still young (22), but she's certainly an ambitious woman. She's held a job since she was 15, and has never missed a day of work in her life.

My previous fiancee and girlfriend of 10 years was so amibitious, she left me when her career started to take off. She's a major runway hair and make-up stylist now. My girlfriend before that ran off to art school and is now a high-profile graphic designer living in a huge US city.

So yes, I am attracted to ambitious women.

Eastuss · 2018-02-01T16:40:46+00:00

career doesn't matter

When it comes to sexual attraction. Unlike women.

Ordinate1 · 2018-02-01T15:08:33+00:00

WhiskersNT · 2018-02-01T16:44:03+00:00

I had a successful and ambitious mother. Hard driving career woman type.

My LTR girlfriend (who I’ll likely marry) is not ambitious. She’s not a driven career woman type. She does not drive hard to get shit done. She’s very likeable and easygoing, and she is successful in the work world more because everyone that she meets loves her.

Title	Q4MEN: Men who had successful career mothers, did you also end up marrying successful women?
Author	vanBeethovenLudwig
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Date	February 1, 2018 2:06 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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