Q4MEN: What are your experiences dating women at various age differences?

PhucCheet · 2018-07-27T12:02:28+00:00

My age: More overlap in social circles, interests, experiences, tastes, and stage of life

3-7 years older: More confident and stable, less drama. More sexually-awakened. They really knew what they wanted, enthusiastically asked for it, and sex was great. Much easier to give them orgasms. But biological clock ticking and more in a rush for LTR/kids. Faces really showed signs of aging.

3-7 years younger: Youthful skin. More open to spontaneous adventures and staying out later. More sexually submissive, less sure of what they want, but also more willing to let me do anything and try it once. More willing to have a prolonged casual phase, less in a rush for LTRs. More insecure, more immature petty drama.

BirdManBrrrr · 2018-07-27T13:29:15+00:00

Younger: (<30) More energy, more party, more superficial, less refined, less depth of thought and experience, can't stop fingerfucking their god damn phones all the god damn time.

My age: (early/mid 30s) Both the most relatable and most divergent cohort in life experience. Kids vs no kids is huge, but generally everybody is having their own existential crisis on some level. There's an odd sorting and hierarchy taking place on dating and availability. Half and half on fingerfucking their god damn phones all the god damn time.

Older: (>35, specifically >40) The most assertive, sexually fun, sophisticated, and deep/mature in conversation. Out of my range with life goals since they're too old for kids but I'll be damned if they aren't fun to be around. Very selective on partners yet the horniest bunch of them all, these broads are freaks IF and ONLY IF you're a guy worth fucking and you're attractive to them. These gals respect dominance and presence in men, if you're weak or meek you're not even on the radar. This bunch generally doesn't fingerfuck their phones constantly but do love social media.

I'll end up with someone in my age bracket who is generally more mature; I can't deal with the immaturity and nonsense of younger women even though they sure are pretty.

locinity · 2018-07-27T12:29:11+00:00

I’m close to 30 & I’ve dated/had friends date women of all ages near this one. So here goes:

Women 5 years or younger :

Full of energy, usually come with unrealistically high expectations for the future, and loads of fun. It’s not until about 23-24 that most women start to envision a rational picture of their life. Before then, most women can really only picture a husband and short-term career options for the next 5 years, especially those who plan on being stay-at-home mothers. Many are still expecting Mr. Tall, Rich, Handsome, and Perfect to show up and will hold out until about 24 before they realize they need a real human being to connect with.

(In their defense, most guys their age also hold grand delusions about life)

Young girls can sometimes have trouble piecing their life with yours as you attempt to move into a more stable environment. While many have explored the physical world (travel, career, sex, social life) many still want to explore themselves internally and sometimes their uncertainty about who they are will creep into your own life. Many guys in their late 20’s and early 30’s simply don’t have time for this. Younger girls can be incredibly independent and typically feel strongly about discovering themselves while being single in order to maximize their experiences. The independence of these girls + the independence of these older guys usually makes for a collision in which the two value their own lives more than the relationship at hand.

Most successful relationships with this kind of discrepancy come from guys in their late 20’s / early 30’s who are late bloomers. Guys who still want to travel, want to explore the world, and want to have fun and with someone who provides a high level of energy for them. With a stable job (money) + the inclination to stay attractive (looks) + maturity, they make a fantastic pairing for younger girls who wish to have a strong dependent partner to grow with. They’re not necessarily in search of travel, sex, and fun. They seek something a bit deeper. These more mature young girls want someone dependent, and contrary to popular belief, it isn’t their younger looks that attract late bloomers (though it doesn’t hurt! ), it’s their energy. Most females in their late 20s and early 30s are settled in and are much more efficient with their energy, using it for work, sex, social events, and such. The constant energy of younger girls is truly something special and, in my opinion, incredibly underrated. I’ve found that these girls challenge me to be not only a good lover, but a good role model and supporter at the same time. These girls want a good guy but love that remaining mischievous side that many guys “left behind”/“got out of their system” years ago.

“Older” women.

For me, this means women in their mid to late 30’s.

This is typically how it goes:

Is she divorced? If so, she is typically looking for a rebound if she is engaging with me or a younger guy my age. Any divorcee in the range of 35-38 is tricky as most of them still have their looks and try incredibly hard to maximize them before they’re totally gone. Most of them just want sex and validation. If they’re hitting on me/talking to me it’s a sure indicator that they’re fun, they’re sexy, and they’re vain. I’ve never had (and have rarely seen) a relationship like this one where it isn’t understood from the beginning that the basis of the relationship is sex. Everything is smooth down to the breakups for the most part. I was essentially a boy toy for one of these women until she found a nice older man, and when that happened I was ironically just super happy for her. Sex is fun and so is the thrill of these vain women.

Dating women in their mid to late 30’s who aren’t divorced:

These women typically seek marriage. Just like the naive 22 year-old who thinks you will be her Superman, both women I dated who fit this profile expect you to be their savior: the mature, sexy, 29 year old with a good job who will take a chance on a 35 year old. It’s not their age that turns most guys off, it’s typically their low expectations and the lack of challenge they bring to a relationship. These women are mature, straightforward, and don’t play games. They put up with bullshit, and they give men infinite chances to change because it’s better than restarting all over again.

Odds are, these women are flawed.

(personality flaws, commitment issues, mental health, and career-obsessions are the most common reasons for them being single )

Odds are, these women have fixed their flaws.

Unfortunately, these fixes probably just came a bit too late.

Like I said before, they usually have low expectations for a guy at this point. It’s usually kind of sad because most of these women are actually great people who are caught in a quagmire with Father Time. I tried to be a good partner but I found myself constantly feeling guilty because I was bored in both relationships I had with women like this. Many of these women have removed all their “spice” because they don’t want to risk that being a red flag for future guys. Moreso than the divorcees, I truly hope these women find someone who will value their maturity.

Women my age (28-32)

Fucking shitstorm.

If you can figure them out, let me know.

prodigy2throw · 2018-07-27T15:00:01+00:00

The only real takeaway is that age is in no way reflective of a persons maturity level. The most mature girl I’ve dated is younger than me and the most immature woman I dated was older than me

hammerhaunts · 2018-07-27T16:05:15+00:00

Older = better

squiddy_s550gt · 2018-07-27T11:55:54+00:00

I've dated up to 12 years younger and 15 years older.

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[deleted] · 2018-07-27T12:28:03+00:00

My experiences vary considerably. I've dated women who is 20 years younger than me, but happens to be adapt, and adroit as many women 10+ years older than she is. Likewise, I've dated a woman who was just 10 years younger than me, but who was not quite all there. I have not dated any women older than me, because most of those women are married or in relationships.

SadElvenMermaid · 2018-07-28T08:17:44+00:00

your flair is interesting

EdwardBarnes1913 · 2018-07-29T02:11:18+00:00

Younger: Although a proud manospherian I disagree with Red Pill on this. I find younger girls (18-25) pretty horrendous company. Its funny RP says due to social media and thirsty and clueless young guys these young girls egos are out of control (agreed) but also exalts this age group as optimum (though I do understand this is generally speaking a strictly physical appraisal).

Often loud, obnoxious, self-obsessed and used to being treated as goddesses just for being young women by society. Obviously these are generalisations but societal trends push most this way.

Same age: best match. I’m 31 and feel women develop humility and much more interesting personalities 26-30. I know RP would say this is out of necessity but I don’t fully agree but do acknowledge that sex-crazed young men don’t really push or challenge young girls to be more in the same way it happens vice versa.

Older: possibly the best for purely sexual relationships if both know the score. But if not as such nearly always she wants things you don’t want or wants things much before you do. Not viable for a healthy LTR IMO.

IncomeByEtnicity · 2018-07-27T17:47:11+00:00

I've never dated younger. I never saw the point. My wife is a year older. Why invest in a casual relationship with someone who has seen less than you, who understands less than you, when you can invest that time with someone you can learn from.

3-7 years older: In my late teens and early twenties, all my sexual partners were in this category. I have to admit, I wasn't a good partner to these women, but I improved at a steady rate.

18 years older: In my late twenties I dated one much older woman. I had a 5 year relationship with a gorgeous late blooming 6'3" MILF in her late 40s. She had curves unseen on a white woman in a 100 mile radius and a sexual appetite I could barely keep up with. I could go on and on about the head turns she got, and the slightly fearful yet super special treatment you get from strangers when you are with tall gorgeous Amazon, but I'll stick to the topic at hand. In those 5 years I matured a lot and gained the confidence needed to be a good supporting partner. For her, she found in me a renewed youth, optimism and innocence. She was in a lot of debt and in an exploitative job when I met her. Using only advice, encouragement and 1 excel file from me, she changed her life around. She felt sexually successful with a younger man, and that success spread to her work life. I felt nurtured and special to her and it freed me from the chains of insecurity. Though we always knew it wouldn't last forever, it was a mutually rewarding experience. Without this, I wouldn't be the happily married man, I am today.

And while I'm recommending older women, can I just recommend taller women. My wife is also 4" taller than me. Sure, you need to be packing for them to consider you, but you get in return, a feminine gentleness that you wont find in short women.

reaper555 · 2018-07-27T12:44:26+00:00

Youngest was 18 years younger then me. I was 38 at the time: sexually open, submissive, Insecure and worrying about trivial shit. Hooked on updating her profile pics and social media. Youthful, pretty and feminine. Low maintenance, disloyal, dishonest.

Oldest was a year younger: Wrinkling in face, lost shape, mentally unstable. Laundry list of needs. High maintenance, devious, drama queen, jealous of younger girls.

reluctantly_red · 2018-07-27T11:50:30+00:00

Younger girls are easy to impress but clingier. Never dated older only plated one married woman. My serious ltrs have all ended up being the same age or close somehow

1Badmunki · 2018-07-27T16:01:24+00:00

Me: Mid 30s, attractive, tall, well paying career, no kids, never married etc.

Late 30s+: Rarely date this group, all of the women I date in this category look younger and i dont find out their age until we hang out. These women have seem to almost given up on finding a life partner and have almost zero fucks to give about the whole dating experience. There is no chase here, if you want to have sex with them you can, very easily.

Mid 30s women: I can pretty much have my pick of the litter. Most I meet are out of a long LTR and want to move things FAST of course. These are the women who will chase you and chase you and try to convince you they are "the one" in so many ways, sometimes after a handful of dates. Its all business here, the fun and agreeablness in the beginning is a facade to lock you down for marriage/kids.

Late 20s/early 30s: These women are viewing the dating landscape and determining what they can get/what they cant get. A lot of women start finding out how hard dating can become in this age range and will often start making consessions. Some will still be very picky of course. If you are an overall good catch open to commitment, you will do very well. Women can still be very attractive in this age group, if well maintained. Some can be youthful and fun others have battle scars from past relationships and it shows but this age group tends to want more than fun, seems like a transition period from the fun of your 20s to marriage and babies. Its a mixed bag in this age group, 27 to 33 or so

Mid 20s/early 20s: carefree, full of life and good energy, not a lot of baggage, these are the girls that are very fun to hang out with, sure some can be immature, but hanging out with a hot 24 yo can be great. You have to bring your A game here, these girls have so much attention thrown at them, girls can be flaky here due to so many options.

themormonchurch · 2018-07-27T17:37:17+00:00

right now i'm enjoying them 13 years younger. nice firm skin

Title	Q4MEN: What are your experiences dating women at various age differences?
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