Q4W: How many male friends do you have?

Texastentialism · 2019-02-02T04:06:16+00:00

Hard to quantify, especially because I met most of my friends (male and female) through other friends so your stipulation is weird to me.

I'll say five. There are a few others but they're friends of my husband or the SO's of my female friends so I won't count them for the purposes of this post. I'd still consider them my friends though.

Obligatory caveat that "friend" to me means "person I hang out and chat with on occasion," not "person with whom I have a close spiritual bond and share all my deepest thoughts and secrets."

Atlas_B_Shruggin · 2019-02-02T04:03:43+00:00

many when i was young and single. always had to get rid of them when taken. always preferred male company. whatever LTR ive been in has fulfilled that when taken

Hungry_AF · 2019-02-02T03:59:37+00:00

Zero. Men are trash and I want nothing to do with them, including platonic relationships.

Cho_Assmilk · 2019-02-02T05:01:20+00:00

are you trying to find out if girls have lots of orbiters or that they would rather have no male friends if it doesn't benefit them?

_Neon_Shadow_ · 2019-02-02T08:27:12+00:00

None. Men are boring as hell. My brothers are pretty cool though.

Electra_Cute · 2019-02-02T03:56:16+00:00

In real life, zero. Online, just a few.

_Neon_Shadow_ · 2019-02-02T04:21:52+00:00

2, they're a gay couple

[deleted] · 2019-02-02T05:04:01+00:00

My male friends are guys that I have known since high school, or dudes that I have met through work. I work in defense and national security; no shit most of the friends I meet through work are male.

azngirl7689 · 2019-02-02T03:53:27+00:00

All met through work. All aware of SO’s existence so no romantic intentions there.

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coratoad · 2019-02-02T04:00:42+00:00

When I had real life friends I had a lot of guy 'friends' but they weren't people I could talk to, we just all went on camping trips together as a group. There were maybe 8 of these and then I did have 1-2 guys that I considered true friends since I could talk to them about personal stuff or eat lunch with them one-on-one.

darla10 · 2019-02-02T04:01:03+00:00

None.

vanBeethovenLudwig · 2019-02-02T04:21:40+00:00

I have male colleagues that I work well with (I'm in an artistic field).

But outside of work, none. I keep in touch with a few guy friends from college but it's really just a few catch up messages once a year. I never go visit them or spend time with them.

Scatre · 2019-02-02T04:42:14+00:00

1 male friend. Although I talk to more, he is one I trust, although he has expressed some feelings towards me.

Nodoxxintoxin · 2019-02-02T04:48:07+00:00

I have one that I hike with and we share a hobby. We do something together about once a month. He just moved much closer to where I live, so hopefully I’ll see him a lot more often. Most other male friends are old friends from the past that I share with my husband and don’t see often.

At one time I had lots of gay male friends, and have a real affinity for gay men. Since I live in the middle of nowhere Bible Belt now, I don’t encounter many gays in the wild anymore.

philomexa · 2019-02-02T05:12:13+00:00

One of my oldest and closest friends is a man, we gre up together so we have what amounts to a brother-sister dynamic. All the other men I'd consider friends I met around the same I met my husband.

Married life doesn't have much room for independent male friends, I got married young so all my subsequent relationships inevitably involve my husband.

Despite accusations of being a cool girl, I get along better with groups of men than groups of women. Before my husband and I got together I lived in house with 5 other dudes and it was pretty chill. Much better than when I had two female roommates.

Cumulatively I'd say I have one real independent male friend, the rest are tangentially related to my husband.

PennnyLame · 2019-02-02T05:44:45+00:00

Dozens. All gay or taken. I have 1 or 2 single male friends who I text maybe once a month and read the exchanges to my husband.

shoup88 · 2019-02-02T06:13:03+00:00

I’m not totally sure what you mean by know through other people. Almost every single one of my friendships has started through another person.

If I’m not counting party/festival friends that I only see in big groups, and I’m not counting people I generally think of as “blank’s boyfriend”, then I would say 15.

Young_Oryx · 2019-02-02T07:08:31+00:00

One, and it's my dad

RibenaFae · 2019-02-02T08:12:39+00:00

As a teenager and woman in my young twenties, I had quite a few. However, only 3 of them never made a move on me and respected our position as friends. These days in mid twenties, none. I have those I'm social with on facebook but I only have lady friends I regularly talk to and catch up with.

chubby_leenock_hugs · 2019-02-02T09:47:14+00:00

Zero—which is kind of annoying since they're usually the ones with phalli which are conspicuously absent from my friend-circle.

edit: I think asking for the ratio is more interesting than the absolute number by the way.

lefactorybebe · 2019-02-02T11:41:00+00:00

A bunch. Maybe like 7 friends, with two being pretty close and one being very close, we've been best friends for years. Most of us have known each other since high school (we're mid/late 20s mow). Then there's like idk 4 guys I go to school with that I've been in a bunch of classes with for the past couple years, we've gotten pretty friendly. And then like 3 co workers I've worked with for years that I'd consider friends at this point.

goatismycopilot · 2019-02-02T12:54:46+00:00

Close friends? None. Aquaintances, a few some guys I know from hiking a couple of guys I chat at the gym with regularly we know one another's names we talk about stuff while we are working out, a few guys from yoga I have gone for a beer with a few times.

esiemualB · 2019-02-02T14:31:29+00:00

I have three close male friends and several not so close male friends (like people I know through uni or hobbies, and we sometimes hang out, but we're not so close that we'd talk about serious/personal stuff). Of the three close male friends, all have girlfriends and all are aware that I have a boyfriend.

i_have_a_semicolon · 2019-02-02T15:39:17+00:00

I have a male friend from a previous job and I consider my team of coworkers to be friendly with. I went to an all girls highschool and focused my college efforts on romantic relationships. I also hooked up with too many guys to be friends with them still lol

PuleaSpataru69 · 2019-02-02T15:41:47+00:00

None

KikiYuyu · 2019-02-02T16:26:48+00:00

None but I only have 2 friends outside of family

CatchPhraze · 2019-02-02T16:42:41+00:00

Honestly about 50%. I'm into some primarily male hobbies and most of the kids around my neighbourhood happened to be guys.

Willow-girl · 2019-02-02T17:17:13+00:00

Other than my man, none.

nohappyhere · 2019-02-02T17:21:13+00:00

I don’t have friends of either gender really. So the answer is 0 for male friends and 0 for female friends. If I include my partner, then I really only have one male friend.

Freethetreees · 2019-02-02T18:40:39+00:00

I have probably four close male friends and three close female friends. I still am platonically close with a ex who I talk to online, also.

My friend group typically hangs out together all at once, most of the time, so it’s a mix gendered group.

slavicgypsygirl · 2019-02-02T21:41:02+00:00

None bc men only ever want to have sex with me so I either date them or reject them

mistresswhat · 2019-02-02T22:18:18+00:00

Three. Two quite close (which is two thirds of the friends I consider close) one less close now but we were roommates for nearly a decade. He's the one I've known the shortest time out of all of them, so these are all very longterm friendships.

pngmafia97 · 2019-02-02T23:08:13+00:00

Probably a 70/30 split between male and female friends. It's because my energy is generally pretty masculine, even fratty at times.

I have always had a few female best friends, with whom I would get up to all my promiscuous shenanigans i.e. going clubbing, concerts, etc. Activities that are only really possible in pairs or small groups of females. I absolutely divulged and still divulge in the privileges women enjoy in virtue of being young attractive girls.

The rest of my friends were males with whom I would chill, kick back, talk about life, as opposed to get made up and go out. I do a lot of experimental drugs, and usually only male peers are interested in these sort of recreational activities. Most girls want to get bought drinks, not order shit off the dark web, ya know?

I find most females pretty vapid in terms of conversation and interests. The only females I am close with are very strong-willed and open-minded. I can't stand neither frigid women who are afraid of the world nor entitled SJWs.

cocksuckaddict · 2019-02-03T00:38:56+00:00

Friends since we were kids. He is gay (yes relevant to mention here).

we-are-men-with-ven · 2019-02-03T02:13:24+00:00

About half and half.

That's pretty much the standard amongst my demographic.

Good for you for trying to find more female friends :)

[deleted] · 2019-02-03T02:31:30+00:00

Friends that I always see in group settings/ don't text frequently: I think 3 or 4. Close? None. I don't believe in close male-female friendships. I don't think it's very healthy, as a general rule.

[deleted] · 2019-02-03T07:11:36+00:00

I have the guy I'm fucking right now, my friend's boyfriend (I basically third wheel for them as he tries to find me a man), and some male aquaintances. I can only have male friends that are in relationships because I know they aren't trying to fuck, and I have to be friends with their gf now.

I find it hard to be friends with men because tbh they're good friends for a while until they get too horny one day and try to escalate. I stopped really having male friends unless they're gay or in a relationship. I basically just drop in the fact that I'm fucking somebody, and if we can continue the conversation, we're friends. If he gets all upset and has feelings for me and thinks we're "talking" or w/e, then we're not friends.

Maybe it's because I'm so cute and cuddly and irresistably sexy that men can't be friends with me :-^o

JezebeltheQueen5656 · 2019-02-05T18:16:47+00:00

none. i cut males out of my life.

Title	Q4W: How many male friends do you have?
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