It’s a cardinal sin in my book to ask women to show their hands in poker here, but screw it. I’ll file it under “can women articulate to men why they personally got married to their husband”. And for the single women that want to get married, what would marriage bring you that you don’t already have with a committed relationship?

 

Maybe it’s my problem, but when I hear it’s out of convenience so that there is a tax break or because I get to visit my spouse in the hospital, I don’t trust the answer. That’s a huge commitment so someone can hold your hand while you are being monitored by nurses.

 

So maybe there’s a translation I’m missing. I got married because I wanted to have kids. I wanted a consistent sex life. I wanted a little lake side front of the world that was mine, which I could share it with, and watch the world go by. The world is very impersonal and I wanted a spouse that gave a fuck if I got hit by a bus tomorrow. Someone I could care about too.

 

Now, I can get all that shit without marriage. I don’t think it’s the right way to raise kids unless you actually are married. So to me, the value is to make and raise well-adjusted children.

 

In your personal life, what does marriage get you that being in a relationship doesn’t already get you?