Question for Blue Pillers: Which STDs, If Any, Have You Ever Contracted And How Much Risk Are You Willing To Take?

jacks1000 · 2014-12-14T19:00:30+00:00

Never contracted any. Condoms and routine testing are a wonderful thing.

M_rafay · 2014-12-14T18:54:52+00:00

Uh none. If you want to sleep around, the safest thing to do is ask prospective partners to get tested. Also, based on this logic, TRP men shouldn't be sleeping around either, as they are also quite likely to contract something.

TL;DR: Getting tested is a good idea.

[deleted] · 2014-12-14T23:17:48+00:00

I've never contracted any disease sexually. I do have herpes simplex virus type 1 (HSV-1) and I've gotten cold sores on my mouth on occasion since I was very little, though this was most likely from sharing cups with other kids. I do not have any problem whatsoever telling this to prospective partners prior to things getting physical. Although I don't think something like HSV-1 is a big deal in the grand scheme of things, some people develop much worse cases than me (especially if they are immune-compromised), and it has the potential to cause genital lesions. I think anyone with a communicable disease should disclose this to their partners prior to sexual activity, regardless of whether or not they think it's a big deal. Some people don't even think HIV is a big deal these days, but they sure as hell should tell their partners if they're positive.

Obviously the presence of incurable and drug-resistance STI's makes unprotected sex and sex with many partners risky. Whether or not this is an "acceptable risk" depends entirely on the person...it's not really an acceptable risk for me, personally. However, things like slut-shaming and ostracizing people who have contracted STI's doesn't do a damn thing to make people behave in a less risky fashion, and really just makes people more secretive about their activities. Similarly, ultra-conservative attitudes and abstinence-only sex education don't do anything to decrease teen sexual activity, and actually result in higher teen pregnancy rates than comprehensive sex education.

If anyone wants to avoid sexual relations with another person with a high partner count, that is entirely their decision and there isn't anything inherently wrong with that. There is a substantial difference, however, between saying "I'd rather not date/sleep with you because we have incompatible, disparate views about what healthy sexuality is" and saying "OMG GROSS YOU ARE WORTHLESS AND SHOULD DIE BECAUSE YOU BANGED 10 DUDES YOU DISEASED WHORE."

taiboworks · 2014-12-14T19:58:33+00:00

a better question for red pillers - if you don't trust women, how would you ever believe what she said her partner count was?

Those_Who_Remain · 2014-12-14T19:03:29+00:00

No STDs so far. Then again...I don't have casual sex and my partners were tested before I had sex with them.

[deleted] · 2014-12-14T19:35:37+00:00

Never had an STD. I get tested 2-3 times per year depending on how sexually active I am.

A few years ago I dated a girl with herpes for a while and it wasn't a big deal. She'd only had 3 outbreaks in ten years, and none while I was seeing her. Nonetheless she was nice enough to tell me before we had sex.

She's married now with a kid.

[deleted] · 2014-12-14T20:25:36+00:00

No STDs. I use condoms and/or dental dams and gloves. No unprotected sex until after full panel screening. I do full panel STD screening 4 times a year even when I am only having sex with one person. I donate platelets so I take being clean very seriously.

tomatostew · 2014-12-15T15:08:13+00:00

I have never had an STD and I use many types of prevention methods.

I think the problem with your question is that you assume not caring about partner count = mindless sexual shenanigans. We can still be careful without judging people based on their number of sexual partners.

Sexual freedom =/= sexual carelessness

17b29a · 2014-12-14T20:11:06+00:00

I don't have any, I'm a virgin.

I've read Blue Pillers suggesting that the "social stigma" against incurable herpes is "overblown" and that incurable herpes is not really that big of a deal. Do you agree with that?

yeah, it doesn't seem that bad.

do you still consider it an acceptable risk to rack up a high "partner count?"

I don't consider it an acceptable risk to have unprotected sex unless you know your partner is clean and stuff, but otherwise no.

powerkick · 2014-12-14T20:51:11+00:00

None. Believe it or not, we can be careful too.

[deleted] · 2014-12-15T01:19:31+00:00

None.I wonder that RPs don't seem to worry about STDs. Seeing as the purpose is to get laid as often as possible. Partner counts can get very high. I'm sure most of the "successful" RPs have had at least one STD in their lifetime.

That's just odds.

jacks1000 · 2014-12-15T10:47:34+00:00

Considering that "partner count" is a significant risk factor in catching STDs

Why, you don't use condoms? The only good reason for not using them ever is when you both actually want a child.

This is pretty much a no-brainer in my experience - due to AIDS scare I was hardly even been in puberty, being 14 years old around 1992 when my parents made me alway carry a condom in my wallet. I don't think I ever went to a music club or anywhere without it.

GuildedCasket · 2014-12-17T23:35:43+00:00

So, I mean, men should avoid racking up theirs too, right?

No STDs. Communication and condoms.

You don't have to worry about partner count if you get tested together.

goatismycopilot · 2014-12-14T19:33:09+00:00

Never had an STD.

relationshipdownvote · 2014-12-14T18:57:50+00:00

Just to nip it in the bud, I'm sure many people will say "people with multiple partners know to be safer".

There was a strong association between number of sexual partners and having an STD: those women with 5 or more sexual partners were 8 times more likely to report having an STD than those with only 1 partner, even after adjusting for age at first intercourse (odds ratio = 8.1; 95% confidence interval = 1.99, 32.64). http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/1411843

jacks1000 · 2014-12-15T10:47:02+00:00

Wow - hey Red Pillers, you can see by the downvotes that the Blue Pillers are quite uncomfortable with discussing STDs.

They keep telling us that promiscuity is ok, that "no one would care about someone's sexual past" - but look at all these fact based discussions of STDs and how they are being downvoted.

So, folks, who wants to put a ring on - or put a dick in - Syphilis Mary?

What's the matter, are you insecure?

lulz

Title	Question for Blue Pillers: Which STDs, If Any, Have You Ever Contracted And How Much Risk Are You Willing To Take?
Author	jacks1000
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Date	December 14, 2014 6:51 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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