I'm fucking tired of men complaining that women judge men on 'immutable' traits, and this isn't fair. Or that women are wrong for being more selective than men because it is unfair to leave so many men without women.

This line of argument will never go anywhere. Women don't care. Why would they? You are getting mad at them for not sacrificing their happiness for yours.

There's plenty of evidence that in many demographics, women's inflated and distorted standards are getting in the way of women's OWN happiness. Many women know this, too. But on an individual level, it is tricky to bring distorted personal standards back in line with what is best for oneself because culture is a tyrant to us all. Still, with the right type of effort, you can have no small degree of success reigning in out of control standards.

So this is where men's argument's about women's standards should begin and end: with what is in it for the women. With how it can make the women happier. With looking at things from the male perspective. Women are not gonna change to make men happier at women's own expense. Why would they? There's no way in hell men would if positions were reversed. And women know that.