Emotionally immature, demands to be dominated sexually, loses libido and claims to be asexual after failing to seduce me, completely indecisive when faced with a crisis, and too often...but not anywhere close to always... defines friendship as a one way emotional release.

So, breaking up with someone has never been this easy before. It's the first clean break I've ever experienced.

But.

She's also unmedicated, not by choice, and suffers from wild mood swings that are tearing her apart. Borderline is cruel.

She needs professional help.

So, the immediate question that comes to mind, is -

How did she get to be the AWALT poster child? The redpill seems to have overdosed on the whole bottle and started tripping, hard.

I've been told again and again, that there's no sign a woman is someone trustworthy, but that's bullshit. Just by comparing her to the woman I love most in the world, or my mom, my grandmom, my favorite babysitter, my closest friends, I can see a few obvious differences -

  1. You can't bring up problems with her. Any difficult conversation results in a shutdown or an attack. A good partner may challenge you, because they have their own perspective, and for sure, mistakes will be made - but the goal is to find out how you both can be happy, and clear up communication problems. And it will actually happen. You'll both find ways to make it happen.

  2. A good partner makes sure you know what you're both contributing to the relationship. Because if one person is doing all the giving, it's a co-dependency, or just abuse.

  3. You'll actually look forward to seeing a good partner. And not for reasons of addiction. You can't just be in love with being in love. That drug doesn't last. Love needs to come from a deeper source.

All this talk of pills, and strategy, can only signal that you're potentially someone worth getting to know better.

It's what gets your foot in the door, not a safe way to prevent getting hurt.

If you need to keep frame 24/7, they're not really in love with you. They're in love with a fantasy, and it will only last as long as you both can provide that fantasy.