INTRO

I plan to post one of these every week unless mods remove them, in which case they will go in r/purplepillcirclejerk instead. I will stop this series when we get to Purge Week 2019, when I will go back to posting about Good Men^(TM) or whatever I'm allowed to post about depending on this sub's stance regarding topics pertaining to sexual/romantic isolation. Otherwise I will stop when I get to #WEEK 52 and after Purge Week 2019, I will change my approach up if I still haven't had dating success but I want to keep my journal up anyway. If I have dating success, my username will become "Sexy & Romantic Unicorn". My weekly journal posts will contain the following info:

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MAIN INFO FOR ADVICE SEEKING

  • GENERAL info about my week (conversational stuff, really) [click here]
  • MINIMUM one core lift a week for 3 sets of 8 (bench, squat, deadlift and / or barbell row) & GENERAL conditioning stuff (muay thai shin and elbow conditioning, cardio, bag workouts, yoga/stretching, etc.) [click here]
  • ONE social event I did (e.g. visit an art gallery, went to a writing class, that kind of thing) PLUS one social interaction with a woman per week MINIMUM (either warm [social networking] or cold [street, bar, night club]) PLUS details - this gives me a week to brainstorm creatively how to do a warm approach before I resort to cold [click here]
  • ONLY one shirtless picture every week (proof of muscle gains) [click here] (confirmation picture [click here])
  • MINIMUM one ideological concept related to pill theory (dating strategy and / or gender dynamics) [click here]
  • ONE new meal I cooked (n.b. the potato / broccoli mash + white meat is my basis for clean bulking, so that is what I will post this week but every new week it will be something different) [click here]

N.B. No I did not do everything this week. That's because I'm trying to get into the swing of things.

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CONTEXT (EXTRA / SUBSIDIARY DETAILS)

I am a late in life male virgin that feels stigmatised and emasculated by his experience with sexual and romantic isolation. Because I need to redeem my masculinity to overcome feelings of inadequacy, I want to be the one to approach in real life rather than online and not have to pay for dates and stuff (because then I don't know that the woman really wanted me for me rather than because she found me sexually attractive). I am 6ft and only looking to date a woman in a similar sort of league to me. I would prefer not to commit my first time because I don't want someone to be my first if I am not hers and then fall in love or feel guilt tripped to staying with her forever because she doesn't like players or whatever.

I identify as an outsider: "disillusioned about certain tenets of society and dating. We might see the requirement for men to pay for dates as sexist and something to avoid. We're sometimes referred to as "omega" but this could sound misleading as if we have no positive traits (like being in shape physically, being career oriented, engaging in self-improvement, etc.). We can feel isolated by society and experience apathy. Some might say we over-analyse things."

What exacerbates the negative impact of being an outsider is the fact that we live in a culture where people are increasingly isolated by technology, social media and online dating rather than authentic human interaction; night club culture, competitive individualism and clique mentality ostracises "outsiders" (not just omegas"; and for men in particular we have to deal with a culture of body and sex positivity that is oriented towards female sexuality but does nothing to accommodate male sexuality, in fact people are fearful of male sexuality and consider it predatory, aggressive and so forth. In fact, that last point is just one double standard: men are expected to pay for drinks and dinners and they are also shamed, ridiculed and sexually/romantically isolated for sexual inexperience (being a late in life virgin male).

Any advice on how to get sexual and romantic success would be appreciated. If you care about my ideological framework, check out this PPD post I made. of particular interest are the links "A New Conceptualisation of Dating Advice for Men, Part I & II".