It sounds stupid, but i like stupid things. So here's the deal:

To me Online Dating means Social Media. In my case, Instagram. Not Tinder or anything like that. I'm not just a face, so i don't accept to be judged as such. I think Tinder is crap and no intelligent person should use it. Plus, just checked it out recently after years from testing it for the first time and now it's triple garbage. Over half of the girls there are just promoting their instagram, and pretty much nobody talks. Not sure what the hell is going on with that garbage app. It has always been garbage, but now is just hardcore nonsense.

Anyway, Instagram is a nice place to meet people, for me. I mean, at least i can say that to the girls, and in my case that makes all the difference, because in many, many, many occasions, they ignore the first "weak" message, but if i put a little effort into it and DM her again, she responds. So, it's not even a question that what you say and how much you want it matters a lot. I've dated girls just because i contacted them more than once.

However, one thing that i've noticed is that since around 2018 meeting people online just got much, much, much harder. And i'm talking about a drastic change. I feel like i'm probably having 10% of the opportunities i used to have pre-2018. It might be because i'm running out of options in my area since, to be fair, i've talked to thousands and thousands of girls over the years, so, i guess there's a limit. It can also be because they're burned out from online dating. It's no longer a novelty to anyone and any girl just gets countless messages, so it becames harder to get noticed. I don't know, but the fact is that there was a time where it was quite easy, and now sometimes it seems almost impossible.

I don't show off very much online, and that plays against me. I don't play the usual narcissistic game.I don't post countless selfies, i don't spend my days displaying myself on social media. So that always damaged my chances. I have a few photos of myself, and mostly post pictures of other stuff, taken by me. I do have a decent following(around 4k), but i don't notice any benefit from it, comparing to when i had 300. If anything, that number hurts me. I've been asked a lot why so many girls follow me. So they notice it.

So, since i'm a scientist i decided to test exactly how hard it is to get a date just by DM'ing people. I decided to only DM girls that i don't know. They follow me because they enjoy my content or whatever, but we don't know each other. I also decided to only DM girls that live in my area.

I've been doing this for 3 months. Didn't send nearly as many DM's as i wanted, but maybe we can already draw some conclusions. It's something i always wondered "how much time i need to waste". And it's definitely a numbers game. For most people at least it will be. You gotta go after it.

The messages that i sent were all "whatever". I proposedly sent a lot of bad messages, such as "hi" or "wow, you're hot", because i wanna know the results in a scenario where i don't put that much effort into it. Sometimes i comment their stories and post something a bit more creative. But what i'm trying to do is being spontaneous. I will say whatever comes to my mind.

Results:

- I messaged 65 girls. Never talked to them before.

- Went on a date with an 18 yo college student and nailed her. She is easily a 7.5. I'm probably a 6, but have been 7.5-8 in the past.

- Even though i actually only fucked one, there was around a handful of "could have". This means they showed sexual interest in me but we ended up not meeting, usually just because i lost interest or didn't have the opportunity to be with them.

So, based on this, to fuck 1 i need to DM 65. But from those 65, 5 wanted to meet me. I have an 100% nail success with girls i meet in person, because i only go out when they show sexual interest online, and when they do, it's always a wrap. I never meet anyone who just wants to go for a cup of coffee and simply get to know me better, bla, bla, bla. I don't have time for that.