The fact that the most offensive thing you could ask a woman about is her age inevitably proves that women are aware of the wall itself

87AudreyHorne · 2019-10-11T18:32:56+00:00

That's also older generation women (not "women of a certain age", l mean same women who used to feel awkward to say they were 30+ and are now 60+... most 35+ of today wouldn't bat an eye). Also slightly cultural. Most European women I know have zero issues with it. Asian women do.

WestsideMoonWalker · 2019-10-11T18:24:25+00:00

Nah. The most offensive thing you can ask a woman is "when are you due?", if it is someone you do not know especially.

diffdedbed · 2019-10-11T18:32:34+00:00

It used to be never ask a woman her age. This was before obesity became a protected class.

Now the most offensive thing is her weight.

Nevidimka- · 2019-10-11T20:25:28+00:00

When people here say, "the wall does not exist" they mean, "this concept that trp build around aging is not or not entirely correct ", they don't deny 100% that aging has any impact.

There are debates here on the impact of the wall, there are debates here about the exact age, but no one is actually denying age has any impact. If they were, they'd argue there's no difference between dating a 60 year old and a 25 year old, and I've never seen anyone here argue that.

sparksjoy · 2019-10-11T21:34:48+00:00

Trust me, they get equally annoyed when girls ask. I went to an all-girl school and it was common knowledge that asking our teachers for their ages would get us chewed out.

If this were about the so-called wall why would they gaf if a girl asks them.

mandoa_sky · 2019-10-11T23:48:41+00:00

Really? I’ve met many guys who get offended by both age and income questions - and I have to ask these questions as part of my job 🤷‍♀️

kandyapplez · 2019-10-11T20:16:32+00:00

Lol come to new york and no one of any gender wants to talk about their age after 28 and its considered a pretty weird/tacky question

and why do men here keep saying that women are ignorant about aging being a bad thing for women? lol

flamingoinghome · 2019-10-11T19:55:00+00:00

a.) Men get weird if you ask them their age too.

b.) 17 and 18 year olds are literally children.

c.) It's not the most offensive thing. Not by a long shot.

AggravatingTartlet · 2019-10-11T21:56:54+00:00

Lots of women don't care about revealing their age.

Some men and some women care about revealing their age.

Women care more because of the age and beauty standards placed upon them by society.

Men caring:

https://www.latimes.com/home/la-hm-1108-affairs-20141108-story.html

https://www.independent.co.uk/news/world/europe/man-change-age-netherlands-emile-ratelband-court-arnhmen-gelderland-a8623421.html

https://metro.co.uk/2018/11/23/why-do-men-lie-about-their-age-on-dating-apps-8170382/

https://www.latimes.com/health/la-xpm-2013-sep-06-la-he-lie-age-20130907-story.html

red-priestess · 2019-10-11T21:01:40+00:00

It is more old women who dont want to be asked their age because that is an old fashioned thing. I doubt its because of "the wall" but rather because if you were not married by like 25, youd be considered a spinster. Now i think its just perpetuated by people who had it ingrained in them to just not ask. Just like income. Ive dated many foreigners and theyd ask about income no problem, but in america it is a huge no no. Studies actually show people would rather be honest about their drug use than income.

Its just culturally ingrained for no reason that it is rude to ask. If you go to another society thats not the west where age is valued, they'd happily tell you how old they are.

PennnyLame · 2019-10-11T18:33:36+00:00

I can think of about 17 things more offensive to ask a woman. But really asking anyone’s age just kinda sounds immature akin to “WHAT GRADE ARE YOU IN?”

philomexa · 2019-10-11T18:32:22+00:00

I like telling people my age, cause I always get the follow up "no, really? you don't look a day over ___"

I'd probably feel different if that quip stopped coming tho.

When have women ever denied we were concerned about aging? The entire skin care and beauty industry is built around this concept.

There are far more offensive things you could ask a woman, I'm not sure why you think age is some taboo topic based off one conversation you had with a coworker.

You don't talk to many women do you?

ginwithbutts · 2019-10-11T21:00:21+00:00

Well, maybe it's because they know men judge women based on age because men believe in the "the wall."

Biden_Wins_2020 · 2019-10-11T19:05:36+00:00

Any conservative or traditional culture is acutely aware of the wall. It's only in soft, nerf western society where feelings are the primary focus that it's not. Although over 25 (the Christmas cookie) or whatever is no problem, it's once you get to ~40 where it's a problem

FlavFal · 2019-10-11T22:05:56+00:00

This is a funny topic. All of my male friends had a mini existential crisis when they turned 30, I dealt with it much better than all of them. I'm always telling people my age and every time I don't wanna do something I say "I'm too old for this" and I'm always telling people about how things were "different back in the stone age when I was a teen".

Almondxxx · 2019-10-11T19:31:47+00:00

I don’t know. Women are aware of the wall since I’m sure they were told youth is powerful blah blah through out their whole life. They don’t all necessarily believe it but apparently some men claim age is a defining factor for a women (eye roll.) Which is why we lie about age. But men suffer from aging too. We all do. It just happens. Like we all can’t be 23 forever. Essentially that would get quite boring!

My mom shaved off 10 years since she was 15 years older than my father. She damn well fooled me until my older brother figured out the real year she was born! She looks 10 years younger and a classy broad! Compared to my dad lmao.

This was a long post. I do have to add I personally think it’s a welcomed challenge to age beautifully. Take care of yourself. See what you can do to make yourself your best self! I see beautiful men and women well into their 70s. It’s really great.

Orange_Paisley · 2019-10-11T19:36:41+00:00

The most offensive thing you could ask a woman is her weight.

buartha · 2019-10-11T22:04:17+00:00

This is one of those things that I hear about people caring about much more than I actually see them caring about it. While I agree that it's seen as a bit rude generally, when I've seen it be asked of anyone around my age (think 20-40) they just answer and above that the women usually just chuckle and make some sort of non-committal comment.

Yonderlander · 2019-10-12T04:55:58+00:00

Yeah I think that harks back to RPs golden age of 50s culture, not so taboo now.

EspressoCappuccino · 2019-10-11T18:28:55+00:00

They probably arent aware of the wall because of all attention they are getting. However, some women are still fucking beautiful in their 40s. For some the wall happens waaay later. But for most it does happen before they can take it, thats why they settle.

maljo24 · 2019-10-11T19:28:06+00:00

Nothing to do with a wall. Everything to do with vanity.

throwawayemotions34 · 2019-10-11T22:24:26+00:00

Lol how is that offensive?

I love that question - but probably because at 26 I still get that I look 18-19 so...

Mountain_Fever · 2019-10-12T00:42:29+00:00

I enjoy telling people my age. I'm 35. People are regularly shocked. They usually don't believe I'm "old enough" to have three kids yet. But I didn't even start really early, I just look like I'm still in my mid-late 20's.

heycool- · 2019-10-12T05:15:14+00:00

It’s silly that the age question is seen as so offensive.

Vegetas_Haircut · 2019-10-12T10:23:53+00:00

I have never in my life encountered this mythical "never ask a woman for her age" maxim; it's something sometimes seen in fiction.

In general if you ask, you'll get an answer.

TheLaughingMelon · 2019-10-12T18:00:09+00:00

Feminists want to know your location

katymarx · 2019-10-11T18:31:26+00:00

I think it's a stupid remnant of old times and annoys the shit out of me when women get all triggered by age and proclaim to be 21 repeatedly..I keep it inside tho because most of my girl friends are like that and I have to maintain my already lowly rank in the FSM

If I didn't look so damn good for my age i might think differently lol

Aaren_Augustine · 2019-10-11T18:22:38+00:00

You were too direct.

If you were playing poker with a bunch of men, you'd be the dude asking to see people's hands before placing the bet. And they'd all give you shit for being naïve enough to ask.

Part of the whole "he needs to just get it" is to understand and dance to women's indirect nature.

Whisper · 2019-10-12T03:04:29+00:00

The most offensive thing?

Sure, some women don't like to tell, but don't you think they get more upset if asked about weight or sexual history?

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nevomintoarce · 2019-10-11T18:44:32+00:00

Is this a gotcha?

NaturalQueer · 2019-10-11T21:10:46+00:00

I way prefer someone ask cause I hate when people would tell me I looked 18 or 16. Lol

Dustin_Bromain · 2019-10-11T21:56:10+00:00

Meh, I’ve noticed this with people in general, not just women. People just get antsy about their age as they get older and they feel less fulfilled in their life choices.

TheBookOfSeil · 2019-10-11T23:05:16+00:00

I think it just proves that women are self-conscious, which isn’t news. They don’t want to be perceived as “old” or “a slut” or “stupid.” The list could go on for quite awhile.

supertroop · 2019-10-11T23:57:13+00:00

Ouch.

JasonBourne_13 · 2019-10-12T07:05:56+00:00

I ask women their age because I don’t care about whether that’s acceptable to do

lemonfluff · 2019-10-12T09:25:19+00:00

Women are more than aware that after a certain age or weight they'll get treated like they're invisible by men. This is a well known fact, not some big revulation.

The-Pokester · 2019-10-16T00:14:22+00:00

I’m new what is “the wall”

99babytings · 2019-10-31T21:01:38+00:00

Of course women are aware of the wall. I’ve been aware of it since I was 16 and even though I’m only 19 now, me and most of my girlfriends know that things will get worse in terms of looks for us. Why do you think girls look for personality in long term partners

oct0_t1t · 2019-11-05T01:49:25+00:00

Tbh that’s only way older women (like baby boomer generation. I don’t see other women really caring

theoracleofosiris · 2019-10-11T22:01:47+00:00

I beg to differ. Asking her about her n count is definitely more offensive than her age.

TruthyMicTruth · 2019-10-11T22:02:41+00:00

I've asked far more offensive questions, like "Don't you feel lucky you're unrapeable?"

Title	The fact that the most offensive thing you could ask a woman about is her age inevitably proves that women are aware of the wall itself
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