Almost all of these dating problems would go away if people just followed this rule. Let me explain.

If you’re a woman and you only have sex with a guy when you want to have sex, then why would you be worried about being “pumped and dumped” and why would you need a thee date rule (or god forbid, a three month rule) before you will sleep with someone? The answer is you don’t, because whenever you genuinely want to is the right time for you. If you see sex as a bargaining chip then you’ll always be upset if things don’t go your way, but if you do it because you enjoy it, and only when you want to for the sake of it, then how could you ever be upset?

Likewise, if you’re a man buying a woman dinner, she doesn’t owe you anything. If you don’t want to buy her dinner for the sake of having dinner with her, don’t do it. If buying a woman dinner isn’t your idea of a good time, then maybe that’s an indication that’s not a good date idea for you. Personally, I’ve never regretted having a conversation with an attractive woman over a drink, even if it was on my dime.

For those of you who may rebuttal that you have to give something to get what you want, perhaps the person you’re dating isn’t a good match for you. If you guys don’t have anything you can do together without some sort of reciprocity then what is even the basis for your spending time together?

All this talk about “getting fucked over”, or “should I pay for a date?” or “how long should I wait to have sex?” Would be fixed if people just stopped putting these fake baseless expectations on each other.

Of course there are times for compromise, but agree to the terms up front to avoid resentment.