When we want quick sex, we actually prefer high N women. Because we have better chances and need to spend less effort to get sex.

When we want a relationship spending extra effort is worth it to get a woman with which other men will have to spend extra effort to get them to cheat.

We do have a right to have any preference whatsoever when it comes to sex and relationships. And there is no point arguing about the fairnes nor logic behind it.

For women with which we can't have sex or a relationship and are not a family member, well their N doesn't really mater to us.

As for other men, well heterosexual men do not see them as relationship material nor somebody to have sex so other rules apply. We might see a high N man as high value and somebody to emulate because it is hard to have sex with lots of women.

Women do have their right to have any preference for men they want to have.

If women prefer high N men for sex and low N men for a relationship. Or fun guys for sex and rich/stable guy for a relationship. Men can just accept those rules and play the game according to those rules.

And that's the only thing women can do really. Accept our rules and play by them.

Arguing about the fairness of those rules while having your own unfair rules is the only hypocritical thing in this whole story.