So, I have read today on threads about settling. The most recent one was asking if women felt similar like men. Men have the fear that they are being settled for, meaning said women will get together with said men not because they find them attractive but because they think of him as a purse, an ATM so to speak. I think this circumstance is being labeled as BB? Surely this is happening, I don't know in which magnitude though.
The OP of that thread had turned the question onto women "do women ever feel like they are being settled for?", meaning that men get together with said women just because they cannot do any better. Some women like to label this as "starter girlfriend/wife", this means he is only together with her until he can find a "better option" so to say.
As a side note, in both cases said men and women are being simply objectified and not treated as human beings.
Reading through the comments, it puzzled me that noone thought of the third option. Couldn't it be possible that he is being with you and he simply has no other options? I could imagine cases in which the man (I am speaking of the male perspective because I am male) finds her attractive and because he had no options he learnt to also appreciate and value other traits much higher than the purely shallow ones, for example being religious, moral values and humor.
I could very well imagine a guy who learns to value other less shallow character traits in women because he mostly has no options. Thus if he ends up with a woman, there is the possibility that he actually truly loves and finds her attractive despite everyone labeling him as someone "who just settled, who just couldn't get any better options".
What do you think?
[–]Siukslinis_acc 9 points10 points11 points (2 children) | Copy Link
[–]Mundane-Currency5088 0 points1 point2 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]Flightlessbirbz 5 points6 points7 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]Orange_PaisleyNARWHALT 12 points13 points14 points (6 children) | Copy Link
[–]lostwanderer28[S] 1 point2 points3 points (5 children) | Copy Link
[–]Orange_PaisleyNARWHALT 2 points3 points4 points (3 children) | Copy Link
[–]lostwanderer28[S] 1 point2 points3 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]StacksFifthAvewoman loving red piller -1 points0 points1 point (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]Orange_PaisleyNARWHALT 2 points3 points4 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]Trikger 1 point2 points3 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]Cauligoblin 3 points4 points5 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]sarkington 2 points3 points4 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]flapperfemmefataleew gender roles 2 points3 points4 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]fakingandnotmakingit 2 points3 points4 points (4 children) | Copy Link
[–]lostwanderer28[S] 0 points1 point2 points (3 children) | Copy Link
[–]fakingandnotmakingit 4 points5 points6 points (2 children) | Copy Link
[–]lostwanderer28[S] 0 points1 point2 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]fakingandnotmakingit 0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]girlindolor 2 points3 points4 points (2 children) | Copy Link
[–]Shredddz -1 points0 points1 point (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]mackenzie013_02 4 points5 points6 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]xQueen-BxState Line Status: CROSSED 5 points6 points7 points (87 children) | Copy Link
[–]NotTheBestMoment 3 points4 points5 points (3 children) | Copy Link
[–]lostwanderer28[S] 1 point2 points3 points (2 children) | Copy Link
[–]NotTheBestMoment 4 points5 points6 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]lostwanderer28[S] 0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]Plopolok 2 points3 points4 points (22 children) | Copy Link
[–]chasingstatueszion was part of the matrix 1 point2 points3 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]Plopolok 0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]xQueen-BxState Line Status: CROSSED 3 points4 points5 points (19 children) | Copy Link
[–]Plopolok 1 point2 points3 points (18 children) | Copy Link
[–]xQueen-BxState Line Status: CROSSED 3 points4 points5 points (12 children) | Copy Link
[–]tonyghow 1 point2 points3 points (10 children) | Copy Link
[–]xQueen-BxState Line Status: CROSSED 1 point2 points3 points (9 children) | Copy Link
[–]tonyghow 1 point2 points3 points (8 children) | Copy Link
[–]xQueen-BxState Line Status: CROSSED 1 point2 points3 points (7 children) | Copy Link
[–]tonyghow 0 points1 point2 points (6 children) | Copy Link
[–]Plopolok 0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]Mundane-Currency5088 0 points1 point2 points (4 children) | Copy Link
[–]Plopolok 0 points1 point2 points (3 children) | Copy Link
[–]Mundane-Currency5088 0 points1 point2 points (2 children) | Copy Link
[–]Plopolok 0 points1 point2 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]Mundane-Currency5088 0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]lostwanderer28[S] 0 points1 point2 points (59 children) | Copy Link
[–]xQueen-BxState Line Status: CROSSED 2 points3 points4 points (58 children) | Copy Link
[–]bluefingerblue 1 point2 points3 points (32 children) | Copy Link
[–]xQueen-BxState Line Status: CROSSED 1 point2 points3 points (31 children) | Copy Link
[–]bluefingerblue 0 points1 point2 points (30 children) | Copy Link
[–]xQueen-BxState Line Status: CROSSED 5 points6 points7 points (28 children) | Copy Link
[–]bluefingerblue 2 points3 points4 points (3 children) | Copy Link
[–]xQueen-BxState Line Status: CROSSED 2 points3 points4 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]CimZim35F Autistic Egalitarian 1 point2 points3 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]bluefingerblue 0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]Mundane-Currency5088 0 points1 point2 points (15 children) | Copy Link
[–]lostwanderer28[S] 0 points1 point2 points (14 children) | Copy Link
[–]Mundane-Currency5088 0 points1 point2 points (13 children) | Copy Link
[–]tonyghow 0 points1 point2 points (7 children) | Copy Link
[–]xQueen-BxState Line Status: CROSSED 2 points3 points4 points (6 children) | Copy Link
[–]tonyghow 0 points1 point2 points (5 children) | Copy Link
[–]ledatherockbandBased & Red Pilled 0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]iamthemovie1992Wannabe Fuckboy 1 point2 points3 points (24 children) | Copy Link
[–]xQueen-BxState Line Status: CROSSED 2 points3 points4 points (23 children) | Copy Link
[–]iamthemovie1992Wannabe Fuckboy 2 points3 points4 points (22 children) | Copy Link
[–]Mundane-Currency5088 0 points1 point2 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]iamthemovie1992Wannabe Fuckboy 2 points3 points4 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]Mundane-Currency5088 0 points1 point2 points (6 children) | Copy Link
[–]iamthemovie1992Wannabe Fuckboy 1 point2 points3 points (2 children) | Copy Link
[–]Mundane-Currency5088 0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]Mundane-Currency5088 0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]lostwanderer28[S] 0 points1 point2 points (2 children) | Copy Link
[–]Mundane-Currency5088 0 points1 point2 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]lostwanderer28[S] 0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]xQueen-BxState Line Status: CROSSED -1 points0 points1 point (12 children) | Copy Link
[–]iamthemovie1992Wannabe Fuckboy 1 point2 points3 points (11 children) | Copy Link
[–]xQueen-BxState Line Status: CROSSED -1 points0 points1 point (10 children) | Copy Link
[–]iamthemovie1992Wannabe Fuckboy 1 point2 points3 points (9 children) | Copy Link
[–]Basic-Distribution14No Pill 1 point2 points3 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]Pilling_it 1 point2 points3 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]Demasii 1 point2 points3 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]daddysgotanew 1 point2 points3 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]VyrnoaNo Pill 1 point2 points3 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]REEE_XD 1 point2 points3 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]NarniaFox 6 points7 points8 points (18 children) | Copy Link
[–]BassPotato 10 points11 points12 points (9 children) | Copy Link
[–]NarniaFox 7 points8 points9 points (7 children) | Copy Link
[–]BassPotato 2 points3 points4 points (6 children) | Copy Link
[–]NarniaFox 1 point2 points3 points (5 children) | Copy Link
[–]BassPotato 0 points1 point2 points (4 children) | Copy Link
[–]CatchPhrazeMaster Of Memeology 2 points3 points4 points (2 children) | Copy Link
[–]BassPotato 0 points1 point2 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]CatchPhrazeMaster Of Memeology 0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]NarniaFox 0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]PaidByPutinBot123 1 point2 points3 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]TheJim66Red God-Emperor of Slut Country 2 points3 points4 points (5 children) | Copy Link
[–]tonyghow 1 point2 points3 points (2 children) | Copy Link
[–]NarniaFox 0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]TheJim66Red God-Emperor of Slut Country 0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]NarniaFox 0 points1 point2 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]TheJim66Red God-Emperor of Slut Country 0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]Plopolok 0 points1 point2 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]NarniaFox 0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]AngelxEyez 2 points3 points4 points (3 children) | Copy Link
[–]FizzleMateriel 0 points1 point2 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]AngelxEyez 0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–][deleted] (9 children) | Copy Link
[permanently deleted]
[–][deleted] (5 children) | Copy Link
[permanently deleted]
[–][deleted] (4 children) | Copy Link
[permanently deleted]
[–][deleted] (3 children) | Copy Link
[permanently deleted]
[–][deleted] (2 children) | Copy Link
[permanently deleted]
[–][deleted] (1 child) | Copy Link
[permanently deleted]
[–]Mrs_DrgreeWomen Are Right About Islam[M] -1 points0 points1 point (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]AldabruzzoI get to decide 0 points1 point2 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]cautionTomorrow555 -1 points0 points1 point (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]BooexgirlfriendPurple Pill Woman | if there's no ring there's no cheat? 0 points1 point2 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]lostwanderer28[S] 1 point2 points3 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]AutoModerator[M] 0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]Mundane-Currency5088 0 points1 point2 points (6 children) | Copy Link
[–]lostwanderer28[S] 1 point2 points3 points (5 children) | Copy Link
[–]Mundane-Currency5088 0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]Mundane-Currency5088 -1 points0 points1 point (2 children) | Copy Link
[–]lostwanderer28[S] 0 points1 point2 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]Mundane-Currency5088 0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]Mimoxs 0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]LackOf_Empathy -1 points0 points1 point (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]ruboyuri 0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]sine120Married nerd 0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link