What is your advice to men on how to get the most sex? What is your advice to women on how to get the best relationship?

Eastuss · 2021-11-06T13:29:31+00:00

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superloveydovey · 2021-11-06T14:08:39+00:00

Best advice anyone can give men is try to be attractive and try not to be unattractive.

Best advice anyone can give women is vet all men accordingly. Don’t fuck one man after one date and then make another guy wait three months.

jbo99 · 2021-11-06T13:58:17+00:00

F20s, blue.

I have a comment saved with advice for women:

Take care of yourself, both physically and mentally. Eat healthily, do sport, do therapy if you have a history of shitty relationships/you suspect that your preferences in men fail you/you have communication issues etc.
Have your own goals not really tied to dating and work on them. Chances are you won't meet "the one", being okay on your own is important.
Figure out who you're looking for (and why), how realistic it is to find one and whether you're okay with your chances to find them. If you aren't, you probably should tailor your preferences a bit.
Try to think who this person could be attracted to, check whether you pass. Improve if necessary
Work on your social circle.
Vet carefully, pay attention to any yellow/red flags. It's better to be single rather than waste your time on a dead-end relationship.
Improving your looks usually gives you a wider dating pool.

But I'm honestly not sure that I should give this kind of advice. My dating experience is extremely fortunate and narrow, so things I've listed are mostly common sense stuff. Some I've done and that helped me, but maybe I just got lucky.

I don't have any advice for men seeking casual sex though, as I've never had it myself.

Eastuss · 2021-11-06T16:22:48+00:00

Cut the bullshit with the unnecessary steps.

Want sex? TALK TO WOMEN.

You don't have to lift for 5 years first. You don't have to socialize with shitload of people. You don't have to know her. You don't have to be well groomed or on top of yourself. You don't have to go to therapy first. you don't have to lose these extra pounds. You don't have to have money or interesting hobbies. You don't have to be at proper social gatherings.

Improving is nice.

But improving isn't the first step. The first and only step is talking to women. Everything else is a bonus to increase your odds, not prerequisites for talking to women.

skunkbear444 · 2021-11-06T19:01:33+00:00

For men:

Desirable centrally located residence in a dense city or metro with a large number of single women. No roommates, nice furniture and decor. If there are lots of transplants, newcomers, and tourists all the better. These new girls are looking to meet new men.
Be lean and have decent musculature and clear healthy skin and teeth.
Have a stylish wardrobe and haircut.
Get a part time or full time job that has you interacting with lots of women: bartender, bouncer, barista, front desk at a yoga studio, fresh juice counter.
Be carefree, gregarious, and act like your on top of the world when meeting and hanging out with people. You have zero problems to voice and give only positive feelings out to others.
Practice socializing with attractive women and with men that are successful with women as much as possible.
Get into multiple social circles that have attractive single women in them and help grow them by leading small get togethers and going from there. "A few of us are going to X after work join us!". Build it up to bigger events like larger groups taking a trip together or a large group going to a local event like a street festival.
Ask as many attractive women out as you can and always be looking for the next chance to ask a woman out.
Put this lifestyle carefully curated onto social media and add every cool person you meet to your social.

CosmicBioHazard · 2021-11-06T13:47:22+00:00

What is your advice to men on how to get the most sex?

Find a woman who’s “done with the games and ready to settle down”, maybe she sees you as the beta option, don’t worry about this for now, just follow the plan.

Tell her a relationship sounds like it would be nice, but your last relationship left you feeling numb to romance so you don’t know if you can be of any help.

Congrats, you’ve unlocked the mode where her beta-securing strategy shifts from “hold off on sex so he doesn’t think you’re easy” to “literally bully him into sex so he’ll come out of the numbness and catch feelings”

let her keep doing that until she tells you she loves you, hesitate to return the sentiment, you’re broken, remember? She’ll get frustrated and unceremoniously ghost you. Rinse and repeat.

kyjolski · 2021-11-06T13:53:24+00:00

Stop the damaging pursuit of short term hedonism if you want long term happiness, find someone you're compatible with on every level and who you love spending time with, marry them and have all the sex you want, benefit from a strong and happy marriage that revolves around genuine love rather than sex

DeliciousPussyNectar · 2021-11-06T17:39:48+00:00

Have lots of real life conversations so you stop being a socially awkward loser, focus on getting a good job so you can flaunt it, and have good hygiene and make sure you don’t look like a doofus, find a look that works for you.

Dukhaville · 2021-11-07T11:27:04+00:00

Advice to both: lower your standards.

Men: the best women aren't going to fuck your mediocre self free when they have better options

Women: the best men aren't going to castrate themselves for your mediocre pussy when they have better options

xQueen-Bx · 2021-11-06T13:21:45+00:00

well theres that whole, i dunno, "the red pill" thingy, perhaps someone on this subreddit has heard of it.

Orange_Paisley · 2021-11-06T14:52:32+00:00

Get into a long term relationship with a girl who is into sex. That is how you will have the most sex. That first year or two will be like fire. It will start to slow down a bit but still be consistent.

SaBahRub · 2021-11-06T14:24:11+00:00

For men, pay, maxx, and dumpster dive, as long as you are ok with it making you undesirable for LTRs

For women, don’t accept shit treatment or attitudes. And of course, maxx, which will decrease the shit treatment in the first place

AnonymousAndy2018 · 2021-11-06T13:27:13+00:00

Women: “guys should be nice sweet and caring! And do chores! That would get them more action in the bedroom!”

Men: facepalm 🤦‍♂️

TotalTravesty · 2021-11-06T14:14:32+00:00

Honestly, the best way to get the most sex is to join communities that celebrate sex: kink communities, swinger communities, sex clubs, etc.

Are you going to want to have a lot of sex with the denizens of those communities? Probably not. But it’s there if you want it!

Men who ask “how to get the most sex” either subconsciously or deliberately leave out the end of their question, which is “…with a lot of super hot women.” For that, just be a rich celebrity. Ta-da!

Edit: fine I’ll play along with the second part. For women, don’t expect a relationship to solve all your problems. Make sure your life is clean and tidy and you’ll suddenly find that your relationship is better too.

Blackheart201992 · 2021-11-06T15:09:06+00:00

Improve your looks. It is by no means a guarantee of success, and depending on what you have to work with, it may be a hopeless endeavor... but it is the most reliable way to increase your odds of getting laid.

If you truly lost out on the genetic lottery, my advice is get money and fuck prostitutes.

Kanonicman · 2021-11-06T16:02:22+00:00

In most cases, if a man is in a relationship, he probably gets more sex then with multiple different partners. So I included the desired traits for those who are looking for a LTR as well.

Men should focus on the following to get the most sex:

Taking care of your appearance and fitness, build muscle
Making as much money as you can
Learning game
(For a LTR - Choosing a partner where you both desire and admire each other)
(For a LTR - Being trustworthy)

Women should focus on he following to get the best relationship:

Taking care of your appearance and fitness
Making enough money to take care of your basic needs
Choosing a partner where you both desire and admire each other
Being trustworthy

MrManwithNoName2021 · 2021-11-06T13:32:53+00:00

I get a ton of sex. There isn't any crazy advice or needing to look like a hunk. I am simply a gentleman, honest, and attentive. Honestly is mostly likely the most important ingredient.

For women? Find a guy who is like a high quality block of clay. Someone who is honest, fun, understanding, attentive, and then shape/mold into the man you want. Alot of males don't know how to be great relationship men. The "real" great ones are willing to learn.

Fudstersecured · 2021-11-06T15:53:47+00:00

Men: dress better, groom in a manner that suits you, have interests and passions outside of the pursuit of women, put yourself in settings where you can display your strengths, know that you will do better anywhere that lots of single women are present and receptive to being approached, cultivate and express a healthy sense of masculinity (more rare than you think), learn the power of physical touch, seduce her with your words and storytelling, become a closer (a lot of inexperienced men struggle with taking women to bed even when they are super receptive), don’t kiss and tell.

LotBuilder · 2021-11-06T18:17:03+00:00

How to get the most sex and best sex… pay for it. I recommend sugar baby’s over escorts but both are better and most cost effective over time than traditional relationships.

Murphysmongoose · 2021-11-06T15:41:11+00:00

Men: Make sure she enjoys herself as much as possible, she'll want more/be more willing to be down or motivated for more.

Women: Be smaller than the man you want, and pick one who is more of a giver/pleaser than a taker. Assuming she's not a giver type.

Edit: Also men: Sleep with women less attractive than you. They'll always want more. Also overweight women tend to always be hornier/have higher libidos.

JacobMoogberg69 · 2021-11-06T15:07:34+00:00

Male, no pill.

Male advice: learn to like and respect yourself, embrace your masculine energy which allows you to effortlessly and playfully lead women on an adventure she wants to go on. Overcome your fear of disapproval and be a male who cannot be manipulated or subjugated (alpha male). Women won't be able to resist you.

Women: drop the act, drop the need to play hard to get, lose the shame for having casual dirty sex, embrace who you are deep down and show your charming sexy side. Men won't be able to resist you.

stasiafl · 2021-11-06T14:43:58+00:00

I'm female, 18 and redpill leaning. I'm married with 1 baby and one on the way.

My advice for women and man is basically the same but slightly different. Find someone you love and who loves you.

My advice for women: find a guy who loves you and takes care of you because he actually values you and wants to protect you. Find a guy who feels happy when you are happy. Stay a virgin until you find him and once you decide you want to be with a man, stay loyal to him for life. Until you find him work on yourself and figure out exactly what you want.

My advice for men: Find a girl who is obsessed with you. Preferably low previous partners. Best would be none. If she ever loved another guy truly before you she will never love you. It's just how women work. Insecurity is the top one libido killer for women, so if she is insecure about her appearance you will probably end up almost never having sex. Hope it helps.

Wildhouse83 · 2021-11-06T16:24:55+00:00

For men: 1) Top tier guys: sex is everywhere. 2) Lower 80 % of men: Hookers

For women: Just be nice and pleasant to be around, do not get fat, do not be a slut. You are already born with all what it takes. Simply do not screw it up.

AtomicMGTOW · 2021-11-06T17:20:17+00:00

Red pill.

Men: well you're going to have to be hot. And it helps when you are around women that are in one of their highest breeding phases. It has been my observation that women go through three main breeding cycles in their lifetime.

The first and longest is between 16 and 22. After that you're going to have to wait until they're about 27 to 30, this is also called The Epiphany phase where women start to think more seriously about having children and a committed partner. They still feel entitled to hot Chad and that's difficult to overcome but they are actually starting to look at some practical considerations like comfort and security. But I have to stress that comfort and security is still very small compared to their want of a hot guy.

The third and final stage is just before 40. Not only is this their last kick at the can but they're tired and they don't want to work anymore. At this point they I've already done it everything sexually under the Sun so nothing really excites them anymore. This is really truly when they will accept the beta bucks. Theyll accept a man that is average looking but they're pretty much going to resent him. In their mind, they're still looking for a reason as to why they didn't win the man-lottery and they'll resent you as if it's your fault.

They will be quite submissive and they know they're going to have to f*** your brains out to try and get you hooked. But once you are hooked they manoeuvre themselves back into a power position and withhold sex from you.

Women: if you want a better relationship you're going to have to be more democratic agreeable and negotiable but don't fake it otherwise you'll end up resenting him.

The point about being more agreeable/submissive is that it suits both the man and the woman. Men feel the desire to lead and provide and protect and women want men to lead provide and protect. But you don't get to have him lead provide and protect when it's convenient for you and then decide that you are 50/50 or in the leadership position when it suits you.

By being more submissive you will then get to see if this guy is a good leader and provider and protector. It also will demonstrate your patience and perseverance in supporting him in his leadership role.

Men want to see that you can control your impulses and emotions and take no for an answer sometimes. We want to see this because we instinctively know that women are more submissive / passive / agreeable than men. And that has been proven through plenty of psychological studies that demonstrate that women are on average more agreeable than men.

But you also have to protect yourself so that you don't end up becoming a carpet for him to walk on. Both sexes have areas that they need to find a better balance so it's not that only a woman has to put in effort to control herself but a man must also.

Stop competing with men. We compete all day in the world we want to come home to peace. A woman that is a noisy spirit (a living poltergeist) makes men stressed and anxious.

Furthermore, you need to find something else to negotiate with besides your holes otherwise you're just shy of being a prostitute.

Think of your relationship with your man a little bit like your relationship with a pet. (Be very careful here because we are not pets)... All I'm saying is that when you have a pet you take on certain responsibilities that must be met to keep that pet healthy. A pet needs to be groomed and fed and some of them have special needs that you need to identify and provide support around. Some dogs even have to have their anal glands expressed on a regular basis.

Your man needs to be groomed / petted, he needs to be fed and his testicular glands need to be expressed on a regular basis. If you can't handle those responsibilities then you shouldn't have a man.

YtBlue · 2021-11-06T16:39:44+00:00

Push boundaries, come off better than and somewhat aggressive. Get in the gym. Never show weakness under any circumstances. If you really want it. Get on a steroid cycle. Get your bloodwork at least 3x a year, low dose test and other safer compounds. Please learn for a year before trying though. Lastly play the numbers game while doing all the above.

Master-Edward-3 · 2021-11-06T17:28:57+00:00

How can women still have trouble finding relationships when there are countless men out there still seeking relationships and it’s often said if you are counting online dating that men always outnumber women. So by virtue of those numbers more men are seeking a relationship than are women.

Men are understandably struggling more with both the casual and exclusive. You take a man and woman both set up a online dating profile to seek a relationship or casual sex and it’s the woman’s page that will still have the most offers.

Now let them set up a page posing as the opposite sex and the man will see a confidence booster while the woman will become quite frustrated with her own sisters when she’s dealt with that ugly reality of the male perspective.

Bara-enthusiast · 2021-11-06T23:39:21+00:00

Men: Become gay. Better relationships too

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superlurkage · 2021-11-06T16:09:10+00:00

For men, it depends on whether you’d prefer to trade effort for risk

For women, it depends on what “the best” is?

f1vepointoh · 2021-11-06T16:19:43+00:00

If a man wants to get the most sex he must tirelessly swipe right on all 5 dating apps, go out drinking, do drugs, party make girls laugh at parties then take them home after. Normal women will only get picked up in public places by a chad she wouldnt be able to say no to. Regular guys like me can pull you just have to put in about 15 hours or more a week into texting and swiping during the day and going out at night. Why do that when you can build an empire with all that time and have money that gives you chad status?

Ruben_the_Fish · 2021-11-06T17:34:14+00:00

Lower Your Expectations.

Reisiluu · 2021-11-06T17:38:06+00:00

Find a good relationship and have lots of sex. It's the same outcome for both.

Beltadowa · 2021-11-06T17:58:51+00:00

Blue pill woman

Men- marry a woman who you click with who really enjoys sex. Hint- if she masturbates and has done since being a teenager then you know she really likes sex. Women- get really fucking thin so everyone wants you, then don't settle.

Disclaimer- I'm a greedy impulsive bastard who didn't follow my own advice.

sunkized · 2021-11-06T18:26:56+00:00

I've been thinking about getting into the porn industry. In my private loveshy group we had a guy do that, but he got herpes

4everrekt · 2021-11-06T18:29:53+00:00

Make your attention the most valuable that it possibly could be, make it worth a lot. If it’s demonstrably valuable, many women will throw pussy at you because they think it’s their best chance at getting it.

Educational-Ad6210 · 2021-11-06T18:32:42+00:00

Female, blue

For women: don’t appear stupid. You can appear funny, or not knowledgeable, but please don’t appear stupid. Anyone who is willing to have a relationship with you at this point is either stupid too or has weird intentions. Dont have sex on the first date, but appeal to his sex drive. They hate it but it works.

For men: look in the mirror. If you don’t find a Greek god look in your wallet. If you don’t find money there, go work. A woman has no reason to give you anything of value since you ve got nothing to offer. At least not yet.

PlayfulLawyer · 2021-11-06T19:49:59+00:00

M, I had a multivitamin pill this morning

For men to get the most sex, date a woman who matches your libido

For women to get the best relationship, being Social Circles with the kind of guy that you want, and be a compliment to his life, make his dick hard and keep his life relaxed not the other way around

Novadina · 2021-11-06T20:15:13+00:00

For men to get sex - get into a long term relationship with someone you like and who likes sex. That results in the most sex for everyone of any gender. Improving appearance can help attract partners (gym, skin care, hair care, clothing).

For women to get a relationship - look for a man with similar interests and life goals. Improving appearance can help attract partners.

Honestly I don’t think relationships are hard to find for women in the same way men find it hard to have casual sex. Tons of men want relationships and are trying to get women into them almost as much as they try to get sex.

Greedy_Principle_342 · 2021-11-06T23:13:56+00:00

The way to get the most sex is to either:

A. Be good looking.

B. Get into a relationship with someone who wants regular sex.

C. All of the above.

theosamabahama · 2021-11-08T01:48:38+00:00

26M - Red ish

For men:

Learn social skills and how to be a good conversationalist.
Learn how to pass shit tests and how to be chill.
Learn how to flirt and how to escalate (both verbally and physically).
Dress well, wash, groom and hit the gym (this last part isn't essential, but it's a bonus).
Increase your social circle, put yourself out there, make new friends, meet new people. That way you will meet lots of new women, but within a social context.
Be bold, take chances and don't miss opportunities (strike when the iron is hot).
The most important of all: BE CONFIDENT
Lastly watch Todd V on YouTube. The only coach that ever worked for me who isn't selling bullshit.

For women:

Meet more people, go out more.
Be more than just a pretty face. Have a personality, hobbies and interests. And look for guys who share the same hobbies and interests as you.
Be more approachable and don't be afraid of approaching guys.
Be chill, don't play mind games and avoid starting unnecessary drama.
Watch out for red flags. There are many videos and websites talking about it. Google it.
The hotter you are, the higher the chance guys will want to date you. But they aren't necessarily the best match for you. Many will want to date you just because you are hot. So choose the right guy.
Choose a guy who has the same prospects of a relationship as you. And talk about it openly with him.

Zerofication · 2021-11-18T18:45:06+00:00

For men, hit the gym, make more $$$, learn game and always take charge. For women, well it doesn't matter because women are like the water that takes the shape of its container, which is the man.

vanilla__chai · 2021-11-06T17:17:48+00:00

Men: Seek God. Realize that sex has a context and a purpose. Become worthy of the context and purpose.

Women: Seek God. Realize that relationships have a context and a purpose. Become worthy of the context and purpose.

Otherwise? You're all just going to stay miserable.

social_mule · 2021-11-06T22:12:34+00:00

Male, red pill. The post doesn't specify but I'm assuming you want advice for men on how to get the most casual sex from multiple partners. I don't know why I assumed that, I just did.

Anywho, if you wanna cut through 100% of the bullshit the best way to have lots of sex with multiple partners is pay for play. Buy the services of sex workers. Find your budget and work within those boundaries. There's almost endless variety in terms of age, race, ethnicity, body type, fetishes etc.

If you only wanna cut through 80-90% of the bullshit I'd say increase the number of women you're exposed to. OLD, travel, hobbies, travel, gym, travel and let's not forget travel. The United Nations is comprised of 193 members. And there are a few nations that aren't members of the UN. This isn't a rant about geopolitics, I'm just saying there are roughly 200 nations on this great big planet of ours so you should never feel that your only choices are the girls in your neck of the woods. Get a passport, get on a plane and explore what the rest of the world has to offer. The whole dynamic of how men and women interact with each other is vastly different once you set foot on foreign soil.

If you only wanna cut through 50% of the bullshit I'd say try OLD. Upload pictures of yourself with a dog, on a boat holding a fish, at the gym etc and swipe right like it's going out of style. I hope you like to laugh and travel and are fluent in sarcasm because the women you meet certainly will be.

If you absolutely love bullshit and want to wallow in it like a hog in mud I'd say go to a local bar and try to pick up the most high-maintenance skank you can find. Offer to buy her drinks and if that doesn't work just go to the next one. Just approach as many different women as you can and use the smoothest pick up lines you can come up with. Somebody's gotta say yes eventually.

Hope this helps.

Ohyarlysmiles · 2021-11-06T22:29:15+00:00

Come to terms with the fact that most of your success with women are baseball Stats here: height face race cash and performing masculinity ("personality").
Boost what you can as much as you can.
When interacting with women, depersonalize rejection by understanding that regardless of what is said, rejection is determined based on arbitrary nonsense factors.
Talk to many many women.

sootlord · 2021-11-07T00:14:46+00:00

For Men my advice is if you want more sex be an asshole. It's so cliche but it's honestly true as fuck.

trail22 · 2021-11-07T01:49:05+00:00

Women, date in your friend group. Is the guy genuinely capable of being friends with a women married, single, old and young. Do women genuinely enjoy being purely platonic friends. Lower your standards and date that guy.

For men, look like you care about your appearance, have no standards, go out a lot and be willing to approach every women without shame and directly ask.

Title	What is your advice to men on how to get the most sex? What is your advice to women on how to get the best relationship?
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