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What’s the meanest/rudest way someone had rejected you?

January 22, 2023
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And/or what’s the meanest or rudest way someone has reacted to you being not being mutually interested in them.

I have two.

Rejected me: not really the meanest but it is the one that stuck with me. I mentioned to a guy I liked that I was interested and he told me he could never be more than friends with a poc person. He told our entire friend group about it.

That was the first time I realized that looks sometimes don’t matter more than other qualities.

The rudest way someone reacted to me rejecting them: a man I met on OLD asked me if I was interested in hooking up with him after our first date: when I said no, he got agitated and started accusing me of being lazy, immature and ungrateful. He then proceeding to flood my phone over the next day or two with text messages about how I was an ugly bitch that “couldn’t even be bothered to get an eating disorder to make up for that face”. And said things about how I’d be a better woman if my dad was around. Which I was very confused about because my dad is very much in my life.

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[–]bottleblankConscientious Objector 78 points79 points  (39 children) | Copy Link

Having been asked out in high school as a joke so that they could respond with "lol you actually thought I'd be interested in you? loser" then go back to their friends to have a good old laugh about it.

[–]Alwaysaloneforever97 25 points26 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I hate that.

That just makes me angry.

[–]KommandaKoopa 22 points23 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

This is the type of cruelty that sticks to you

[–]bottleblankConscientious Objector 10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Indeed. Doesn't mean much to me this long after, that was a long time ago, but I still remember it, and I know it contributed to my struggles as a teenager (which had knock-on effects as an adult).

[–]Stonks1337 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Doesn’t help that it’s cruelty exposure in adolescence. It’s a lot easier to get rejected in mid 20s for a modern purple pill reason like not making 6 figures than it is in high school still figuring out the world and where all you can and can’t be loved

[–]SlashCo80 9 points10 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

Wait, that actually happens? I thought only 90s highschool movie bullies did that sort of thing.

[–]bottleblankConscientious Objector 10 points11 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Yup, actually a thing that happens for real. It sucks.

[–]AreOut 5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

yeah it happened to me as well, just left a similar comment in this thread

[–]SoleMatesC4SPurple Smut Peddler 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Happened to me a few times in highschool as well. Back in my day, it was the of the "passed note" variety. Said note was usually forged. Said note was also occasionally given to her instead, to goad her into coming over and ranting at you about how she'd never touch you with a ten foot pole, in spite of you having no clue what was going on.

[–]bottleblankConscientious Objector 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Urgh, yeah, that "my friend thinks you're cute, you should ask her out", then when you go and say something she doesn't know what you're talking about and gives you a verbal kicking for daring to think you're good enough. That's pretty shitty too.

[–]Sunny_Hill_1 7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yup, had that happen too. The guy apparently had a bet going on about asking out a girl while his pals watched in the background and then they'd all laugh when she was crushed by his mocking.

[–]Occhrome 8 points9 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Happened to this “weird” but harmless kid in Highschool. Some Cute blonde asked him out during lunch and he loudly responded that he isn’t interested because he already has a hotter girlfriend.

[–]bottleblankConscientious Objector 2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Unfortunately I can only imagine that backfired because nobody believed him and then teased him for trying to save face...

[–]Occhrome 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Nah. We knew he was probably full of shit but went along with it.

[–]bottleblankConscientious Objector 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Hah, lucky, I'm not sure I would've been able to pull that off.

[–]Sophiatab 7 points8 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Happened plenty of times to me in high school such that I started refusing all offers of dates to spare myself pain and humiliation.

[–]bottleblankConscientious Objector 4 points5 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Yeah, I ended up feeling the same, was never going to be a legitimate question, always a trick, so saying yes was a stupid idea. Even if it was legitimate, but who would know the difference at that point?

[–]SoleMatesC4SPurple Smut Peddler 3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I sometimes think back to my junior/senior years, when I started being more social and occasionally got offers from the "cool kids" to go to parties and such. Unfortunately, these were the same "cool kids" who'd bullied me years before. Who knows if they'd finally grown up and seen I was an okay dude, or it was just another prank? I was so anti-social in high school as a result of this kind of shit. Really does a number on you.

[–]bottleblankConscientious Objector 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yeah, I don't think I ever had any instances like that, only with girls asking out, but I can see how that would've been a thing too.

Same kind of deal, if you get trained to think any social invitation is going to be a prank, you're going to start shutting them down out of self-preservation, potentially giving up actual opportunities.

[–]anonymous-platypus1[S] 11 points12 points  (10 children) | Copy Link

We really need to teach teenagers to be better people.

[–]bottleblankConscientious Objector 10 points11 points  (7 children) | Copy Link

To be fair, that was over 20 years ago, so we'd be talking about millennial teenagers, I don't know if it's still considered funny or cool to do it now, for the younger generation.

I can't imagine teenagers have got any less... teenagery in the past couple of decades though, so who knows? I'd guess high school still sucks if you're not popular, just the boundaries have shifted a little bit and the cliques have different trendy names.

[–]PlacematMan2Male, N=0 waiting for marriage 13 points14 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Teenagers do all their bullying online these days

[–]bottleblankConscientious Objector 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I wouldn't doubt that, I'm sure it's more convenient and less likely to be seen by adults who would do something about it. Plus there's the anonymity so even if a parent/teacher/whatever did see it, they could just deny it.

[–]Creative_Reporter_35 3 points4 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

It’s still considered cool. My beautiful daughter, who is not a bottle blonde & is half Mexican, is too ethnic looking according to guys at her high school. Last week one said to her in hallway, why are you so ugly, nobody likes dark hair & dark eyebrows.

They sure like the fake blondes that go sit in tanning beds all winter.

[–]bottleblankConscientious Objector 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

That's pretty crappy, I hope she doesn't take it to heart.

[–]Dafiro93 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Do people still use tanning beds? I only hear about tanning lotions nowadays, even got a free bottle with a skincare product last year. I tan easily so never bothered with fake tans anyways.

[–]SoleMatesC4S1 points [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link

I don't know if it's still considered funny or cool to do it now, for the younger generation.

Oh, they do. 'cept they thirst-trap online (or stream live for Tik Tok) and shame anyone who dares to think themselves good enough to talk to her majesty.

[–]bottleblankConscientious Objector 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Hadn't really thought of that in a high school age context, but I suppose that probably does happen. No doubt plenty of one-way parasocial validation there.

Having said that, they don't even have to grow out of it, they may even become accustomed - even addicted - to it, and continue doing it for as long as they can get away with it.

What a miserable thought. Suddenly Instagram and TikTok culture starts to make sense.

[–]PartTimeDummy 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

You use teenagers as a blanket term.

In what way could OP have been a better person?

[–]anonymous-platypus1[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I don’t know anything about how OP acted as a kid, but the majority of teenagers kinda suck at some point in time.

[–]anon-sucks 3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

This is one of those comments I that’s weird to upvote but I’m doing it anyways. That’s the kind of bullying that takes hour sessions to get over.

[–]bottleblankConscientious Objector 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Hah, I get what you mean, not offended by the upvote ;)

[–]Wise-War-Soni 2 points3 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

This is highly disturbing.

[–]bottleblankConscientious Objector 0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy Link

I agree. But apparently not that unusual, given all the replies saying it's happened to other people, even one who says it still happens today.

[–]Wise-War-Soni 1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

I think it still happens today too but I’m also still very sorry this happened to you. The person that did that is sick. You are not and were not the problem.

[–]bottleblankConscientious Objector 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Thanks. As I say, a long time ago, so it doesn't really mean anything to me now, but I can't deny that kind of behaviour had a serious negative impact on me for years to come.

It is what it is at this point. Can't undo it, but I don't expect that from grown adults, so I don't really think about it.

I can also somewhat attribute it to them being stupid teenagers. Although that doesn't mean it's not miserably antisocial behaviour with very real, serious effects.

[–]Wise-War-Soni 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Some people are just fucked up and it has nothing to do with age. I have never done this to anyone at any point of my life because watching people sad does not make me happy. Fuck those girls lol.

[–]DumbWordsmithMulti-Pill Man 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yeah, I experienced that quite a few times. A bunch of girls made a list of the ugliest dudes in our class, and I was in the top 10. For a while, some of them thought it would be funny to fake flirting with me and then remind me of how ugly I was.

For me, the first three years of high school were hellish. I hit puberty during the summer before becoming a freshman. I was already a skinny kid in 8th grade, but I grew 10 inches within a two-month period, so I became even skinnier. I also developed a massive brow ridge and a hooked nose.

Before senior year, I packed on a lot of muscle, got my first car, and stopped giving a fuck about anything (to the detriment of my grades), so that year was actually fun.

[–]YaKnowEstacadofuck the pastryarchy, I don't knead no man 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I had boys do this to me a lot in middle school.

[–]SoldierExcelsior 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

That's a classic

[–]Reasonable-Software2 31 points32 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

OP, you’re making people live through some trauma 😝

[–]Feeling_Mousse_2191 17 points18 points  (16 children) | Copy Link

I was seeking a guy from tinder for about..three months. It started as a FB situation but we got incredibly close. We would stay up talking for hours and developed an emotional bond.

Anyway he told me that he couldn't have a relationship as he didn't know what he was doing in life. He might go travelling, move to a uni across the country..that sort of thing.

Fast forward a month and he decides to stay in town. We bang and I stuck on a record and we hugged. He kept hugging me tightly and sighing. He said he had such strong feelings for me and it was a shame we couldn't be together.

I told him that if he felt that way, maybe we could work around things. His response was "I think I want a girl with a flat stomach". I was shocked and honestly couldn't summon a response.

At the time I think I had a 31 inch waist and D-DD boobs.

Things got quite messy with us and I was young, dumb and love stick. After lots of crying (from both of us). We decided to stay friends. I eventually blocked him on everything and deleted his number. I haven't heard from him since.

[–]Dstar538888tells it how it is 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I told him that if he felt that way, maybe we could work around things. His response was "I think I want a girl with a flat stomach".

This is why I literally refuse to entertain any FWB casual situations with men...I feel like a lot of the guys who participate in these scenarios act similar to him.....you're stomach was fine when he was fucking you, but now it's not flat enough for a relationship smh...

[–]Feeling_Mousse_2191 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Thanks, that's wise.

I get so horny all the time that I just have to have sex in-between serious relationships. It's a bit of a curse.

Most men have been lovely, he was a dud.

[–]anonymous-platypus1[S] 10 points11 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

Dude being the hidden girl sucks. Or when you’re the “inbetween girl”. It’s always “I wish I could marry someone like you.”

I’m sorry you were in that situation.

[–]Feeling_Mousse_2191 3 points4 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

Thanks. It was a long time ago but it hit me really hard. I wish I had my current knowledge and experience back then.

[–]Green-Quantity1032 4 points5 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

I really can't imagine someone saying that without meaning to hurt on purpose..

I mean I fwbed girls I wouldn't have relationships with, but why would I tell her the physical reason I wouldn't.. just sounds so mean

What would your current knowledge and experience do to help? That sounds just plain insulting.

Did you go on to.. lose weight?

[–]Feeling_Mousse_2191 7 points8 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

If that happened now I would have told him to leave immediately and cut him off there and then.

I also probably wouldn't have got in that situation in the first place as I believe I'm generally a lot better at vetting people now.

No I didn't lose weight, I have a healthy BMI and I get a lot of compliments for my body - especially from men.

[–]Green-Quantity1032 2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

No I didn't lose weight, I have a healthy BMI and I get a lot of compliments for my body - especially from men.

That's good, I wasn't trying to backhand insult or anything btw, just wondered about the effect of his statement, as I imagine it could have a strong one.

I also probably wouldn't have got in that situation in the first place as I believe I'm generally a lot better at vetting people now.

Hmm, so you're saying he did exhibit sociopathic tendencies before that incident? (I don't know what other word to use than sociopath, as his wording sounded as if he's really tried to get into your head)

Anyway, sorry to hear people act like that.

When I'm with a girl I take into account she's letting all her vulnerabilities out, and I take care not to abuse that fact.

It's weird for me to hear other guys do things like that, I wonder why you'd want to hurt anyone you're intimate with like that.

[–]Feeling_Mousse_2191 3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Thank you, you're very kind.

I am very self conscious of my stomach (it never quite bounced back after I had a child). So it did hurt my feelings for a while.

No I don't think he was a sociopath, just a bit..troubled. I still don't understand why he said it, it's a bit of a head scratcher!

I did see him on tinder a while back and he looks like shit now, so that's good !

[–]Green-Quantity1032 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I did see him on tinder a while back and he looks like shit now, so that's good !

lolz

[–]prizefighterstudent 10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

"I think I want a girl with a flat stomach"

Bruuuuuuuuhhhh hahahaha

[–]Ok_Change_1063 8 points9 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

I told him that if he felt that way, maybe we could work around things. His response was "I think I want a girl with a flat stomach". I was shocked and honestly couldn't summon a response.

Post nut clarity.

[–]Feeling_Mousse_2191 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

We've been seeing each other for four months lol

[–]Dstar538888tells it how it is -1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Post nut clarity.

no, I wouldn't label that post-nut clarity...he knew what her body looked like before they slept together, so if he wasn't physically attracted to her, why sleep with her?

[–]Ok_Change_1063 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Because he hadn’t nutted yet. Hence post nut clarity.

[–]tidepodforbreakfast 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

You learned the black pill goes both ways. Men are looks based but so are women. The reason why men love the black pill so much is that women always say looks dont matter. But then as a man you come to a point when you accept the black pill and suddenly your entire life experience changes in regards to female attention.

Meanwhile an overweight woman can go on a dating app and still get a steady stream of fit ish men showing interest. Not so true for an overweight man.

Men are salty about this because the double standard is real. Women say positive body image! but then reject all men that aren't fit and chiselled.

[–]Feeling_Mousse_2191 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I don't really care about incel/black pill bs. Also I wasn't overweight lol

[–]Sofia_sticated91 45 points46 points  (53 children) | Copy Link

In college, a girl I asked out told me, "I would have dated you had you been white"

[–]anonymous-platypus1[S] 7 points8 points  (11 children) | Copy Link

So annoying

[–]Sofia_sticated91 15 points16 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

It wasn't an isolated incident sadly. Messed with my head for a while

[–]anonymous-platypus1[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yeah I’ve had that happen to me a few times. Now that I’m 30, I get more “I want to have sex with you because you are black” when I was younger it was “you’re pretty for a black girl” like dude what?

[–]FizzleMateriel 2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Are you black? Or Asian?

[–]Sofia_sticated91 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I am Indian

[–]throwaway164_3 6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Based on his previous post on arranged marriages, I’m guessing he’s an Indian man.

[–]lIllIlllIl 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Don't take it personally. That's what they want. They're unhappy bullies and they know that race is the easiest target to deeply hurt a person by just speaking a few words.

[–]FaisalAli_91 3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Annoying?

Ok if the guy is openly talking about people like that, then what the hell kind of relationship could anyone have with him?

Be thankful you got a full douchebag alert given to you before you got attached.

Men like that are probably not treating white girls like they're real people either.

[–]anonymous-platypus1[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Oh i mean the mentality. After you get it enough it can sometimes cease to be super hurtful and just be annoyed about the bigotry.

Skin tone means nothing. And it’s stupid that even some men here who hate to get judged by their height will judge a woman for her ethnicity. Even though they both can’t be changed.

[–]ParralyzedRainbow Pilled 2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Yes, racism is quite the nuisance

[–]anonymous-platypus1[S] 3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I mean after you encounter this kind of “subtle racism” it gets annoying, it’s often excused as just a preference.

[–]justforlulz12345Jester Pill 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

It's not a preference. They find them attractive but the race cancels out. The race itself is seen as a negative trait.

[–]AreOut 6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I'm curious what other excuse she had for white guys

[–]justforlulz12345Jester Pill 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Probably one of those white fetishizing girls. I don't even bother with white women anymore for this reason.

[–]Square-Pie9671 -2 points-1 points  (36 children) | Copy Link

thats on you, its a valid reason. thats not rude at all, and malicious on your part to present this as if it was any different than mentioning any other quality. its about the most non shallow physical attribute possible

[–]Sofia_sticated91 3 points4 points  (35 children) | Copy Link

No. It's racist.

I have had women stop talking to me once they realise I am not white because I look like a white guy apparently. One even went so far as to tell me I missed her intentionally

[–]Square-Pie96711 points [recovered] (34 children) | Copy Link

not its not. racism implies hate based on race. being physically repulsed by racial difference is normal, and you calling that racist is foul and bullying. if there is no hate there is no racism, and sexual rejection isnt hate. you use the label of hate to bully people who aren't attracted to physically different features.

[–]Sofia_sticated91 5 points6 points  (33 children) | Copy Link

Ah but she had no problem with my features you see. I call these women racist because they were very happy to compliment my looks, overtly flirt and be touchy while they thought I was white. It only became a problem once they realised I am not white.

You can try to justify racism all you want. If they had simply been clear from the start saying that they weren't interested that's fine. I understand what racial preferences are

[–]Square-Pie96711 points [recovered] (32 children) | Copy Link

I understand what racial preferences are

apparently not. she just rejected you because of ethnic difference, thast preference, not hate, so its not racist.

[–]anonymous-platypus11 points [recovered] (2 children) | Copy Link

You’re racist. If you’d date someone before learning their ethnicity, but not after, it’s because of racism.

But interesting question. Do you think it’s fair for women to be more attracted to taller men?

[–]Square-Pie96711 points [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link

for gods sake if repulsion is not based on baseless hate, its not racist. there is tons of way someone can be repulsive, many of which do not involve race.

you simply use racism from and as a semantic manipulation weapon to bully people for rejection race mixing.

Do you think it’s fair for women to be more attracted to taller men?

thats a stupid question. thats just how women are by nature, but most men arent super tall, so most women cant get an extreme height, and the fact that they desire it doesnt matter, thats just their nature.

there is a 50:50 distribution of female male in any race, so any person can get someone their own race on top of anything because the numbers are the same.

your just a butthurt bully. repulsion != hate. I can find someone who is ugly or dumb repulsive, that doesnt mean I seek to harm them. same with race.

[–]whyamiherewhatawaste 1 point2 points  (28 children) | Copy Link

Dude, I'm all for preferences for some ethnic groups over others (humans are tribal after all) but rejecting someone just because you find out they have African American blood is not "preference". She just doesnt want to be seen or anyone to know she is with a black man. If that's not racism not sure what that is.

[–]Square-Pie96711 points [recovered] (27 children) | Copy Link

She just doesnt want to be seen or anyone to know she is with a black man.

and?

If that's not racism not sure what that is.

thats your problem. you dont know what racism is because its a manipulative propaganda term. racism means hating someone based on ethnic difference. it means wanting to harm other ethnicities for being different.

the issue is that the media has brainwashed people to merge the immorality of hate with a rejection and value judgement of enthnicities, in order to make people feel an emotional negative response to anything negative or rejecting about ethnicities.

in reality there is no immorality because there is no will to harm, but the media has you brainwashed to use the negative stigma to mute racial rejection in order to force people to not oppose racial degeneration

[–]anonymous-platypus11 points [recovered] (25 children) | Copy Link

Okay you’re prejudiced then.

[–]Square-Pie9671 0 points1 point  (22 children) | Copy Link

I dont care prejudice isnt immoral. and its not prejudice, because the word implies that its an untrue assumption. if its true and provable, its not a prejudice but a fact, and calling it prejudice is semantic manipulation to infuse the assumption that it is untrue and unfounded, and then inevitably tries to inject the assumption of hate into it to negate and bully the rejecting party into acceptance

[–]jellybeanzandtingsModerator[M] 0 points1 point locked comment (0 children) | Copy Link

No Race-Baiting or Racially Charged Content

[–]jellybeanzandtingsModerator[M] 0 points1 point locked comment (0 children) | Copy Link

No Race-Baiting or Racially Charged Content

[–]HolyPipidastraLSD 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Was she white herself?

[–]Sofia_sticated91 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yes

[–]pyth0ns 30 points31 points  (19 children) | Copy Link

During my young, cringe days, I took a girl out for a meal. The restaurant had a staff member whom she actually wanted... (I don't think I was even being used to make jealous, certain I was just a free meal/outing)

Anyhow... Dinner ends, we go to a club. See some friends and excuse myself from her for a bit. Hour passes, etc, can't find her. Finally see her with that restaurant dude, make-out session/whatever else.

For me, this was the rudest, if you will, as I had developed the 'feels' for her, coz for the entire month prior, we were writing each other essays in DM's...

Big teaching moment though as it did show me, first hand, that, that doesn't really work when the dude that makes her wet can just wink at her and kill the entire 'bonding/pairing'...

Nowadays, I'm Mr. Make Them Wet.

Edit: as my wording might be off... I didn't ditch her to go meet friends, like many comments are insinuating.

We were hanging, she wanted to go 'toilet' and so I said I'm gonna say hello to some friends. Her 'toilet' was actually going to meet that dude.

[–]FizzleMateriel 4 points5 points  (7 children) | Copy Link

Do you look back on that as being a Red Pill experience?

[–]pyth0ns 15 points16 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

A red pill learning experience, for sure.

Did it scorn me... Nah? Just opened my eyes further to what I needed to become/achieve if I wanted to score more with the ladies :)

[–]THHBHStT 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Exactly how I felt. Never got angry, just realized this is life and I gotta work to be a winner rather than a loser

Glad you seen the same path brother

[–]Green-Quantity1032 0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy Link

What's the difference then?

Was the guy just a lot better looking?

[–]pyth0ns 9 points10 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

At that point in time, yes, I would say 9/10 would have picked him as the better looker.

In the end, it all bottled down to this... I went the deep and meaningful route, as that's what I thought you meant to do... 'Court' your woman...

He, just went for it.

[–]Green-Quantity1032 2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

In the end, it all bottled down to this... I went the deep and meaningful route, as that's what I thought you meant to do... 'Court' your woman...

Yeah I dropped that overly courting thing when I was like 17, but it wasn't until I was 21 that I had enough courage to follow through.

At that point in time..

So.. today you're the better looker? How did that happen? Gym?

[–]pyth0ns 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Gym = for sure. (Being able to lift, not only gives you a pleasing physique, but it also means you can lift women ;)

Dressing nice/sharp (still on a budget) and not being untidy (I used to think the scruffy, I just looked like I woke up from bed look, was the way of it)

Now this might be a hot topic, but STFU... (Only when I want to score, not if I want friendship, or something)... The lady has already built a fantasy in her head, upon viewing you, so let them live that fantasy, by you just STFU and playing to it, instead of essay, heartfelt crap.

But main factor... Confidence.

Eye contact, touching/flirting, going for it/knowing signals and mostly... Just being fun!

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[–]Green-Quantity1032 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Now this might be a hot topic, but STFU... (Only when I want to score, not if I want friendship, or something)... The lady has already built a fantasy in her head, upon viewing you, so let them live that fantasy, by you just STFU and playing to it, instead of essay, heartfelt crap.

What do you mean?

I understand at a party definitely actions speak louder than words..

But just on a date getting drinks - what does stfu mean then?

Yeah confidence is key, but it seems if you look really good it gives an edge there seems no way to compensate for in other ways for short-term flings.

[–]anonymous-platypus1[S] 9 points10 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

Hmm I can see how that was a shitty experience.

It’s kinda weird that you left her alone on a date though. You didn’t want to introduce her to your friends?

[–]pyth0ns 5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I put an edit in my comment, can see how it was not clear.

She wanted to use the 'toilet', so I pointed out some friends and said I'm gonna be there, with the thought she'd come right on over after the 'toilet'... 'toilet' was actually that dude :)

[–]TheOffice_AccountTilting at windmills 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

that was a shitty experience.

I see what you did there 😂😂

[–]anonymous-platypus1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I wish I could take witty credit but I left this comment before the edit…it was just a happy accident.

[–]LanzienatorSimp for humanity 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Yeah ....I'm sorry that happened but if a man left me in a club to hang with his friends, rather than introducing me, I'd leave.

[–]pyth0ns 12 points13 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I didn't do that... She said she was going to use the 'toilet' and I said I'd be going to say hello to some friends, pointed out, with the thought she'd come back over... The 'toilet', however, was actually meeting that dude :)

[–]YaKnowEstacadofuck the pastryarchy, I don't knead no man 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I mean...she probably thought you ditched her

[–]pyth0ns 7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

No. I added the edit in my comment.

[–]toasterchild 3 points4 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

You wouldn't introduce her to your friends? Her response doesn't sound really mature but it sounds like an immature response to an insulting/immature date.

[–]pyth0ns 6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I put an edit in my comment, can see how it was not clear.

She wanted to use the 'toilet', so I pointed out some friends and said I'm gonna be there, with the thought she'd come right on over after the 'toilet'... 'toilet' was actually that dude :)

[–]toasterchild 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yeah that is a totally different story HAHAH

[–]lIllIlllIl 8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

By creating fake racist text screenshots using something like ifaketextmessage.com while doxxing me all over the internet and trying to get me fired from Google. I received scary death threats for months and I was immediately banned from every social media company and even friends turned on me. All because I was having a guys night so I didn't let her join. We went on only one date...

I sued her and won many thousands of dollars and a restraining order though. I still don't know the extent of damage to my career.

[–]Spread-Em-PlzBlooming Chad 13 points14 points  (7 children) | Copy Link

I’ve never been rudely rejected really irl

The worst I got was a girl saying “Oh hell nah, you ugly as hell and don’t got an iPhone” (had a droid back then lol)

Which still isn’t all that bad imo

In reaction to me rejecting them?

Called me all sorts of names and telling me I suck at relationships, and that she I’m just a bummy bitch who uses women for their bodies.

The copery and seethery was real

[–]Feeling_Mousse_2191 15 points16 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

I've never understood the American iPhone simps.

[–]Spread-Em-PlzBlooming Chad 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Right. I’ve got an iPhone now, but the android slander still makes no sense

[–]NotARussianBot1984RPM, personal experience, not complaining. I love my life. 5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

And it's why Apple is the biggest company in the world.

If in 2012 I had known girls would only date men with iPhones, I'd be rich AF lol.

[–]Feeling_Mousse_2191 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

That's exactly what a russian bot would say

[–]bottleblankConscientious Objector 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

“Oh hell nah, you ugly as hell and don’t got an iPhone” (had a droid back then lol)

I think you probably dodged a bullet there.

[–]justforlulz12345Jester Pill 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Why would they try to insult you by saying you fuck?

[–]Spread-Em-PlzBlooming Chad 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Get someone mad enough, and they’ll just fling shit in every direction and hope it hurts

Edit: actually what she said was closer to me seeing women as just bodies

Regardless, still doesn’t really work.

[–]purplish_possum 11 points12 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

A high school GF told me I had a funny body when she broke up with me.

My second ex-wife waited until I'd spent all my money on her and then asked for a divorce. I spent 40K getting her a new body. Weight loss surgery and several reconstructive surgeries to remove excess skin and rebuild her breasts. Took her less than six months to use her new body to find a much richer new husband.

[–]Square-Pie9671 6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

your own fault, getting married and paying for someone elses plastic surgery is dumb af.

[–]purplish_possum 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I was a happy delusional blue bill chump.

[–]PMmeareasontoliveNeither casual nor marriage 5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Had a woman pantomime vomiting once.

Was going to meet another woman for coffee, when we got there she said "let's go to [expensive dessert kind of place] across the street instead. She orders glasses of champagne and various deserts then informs me she forgot her wallet.

[–]noonereadsthisstuff 11 points12 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

I matched with a girl on tinder & we agreed to hook up. We met & took a walk got along great and went to a bar. I figured we'd get a drink & I'd make a move ("Hey let's go back to to my place...to look at this....thing...I have at...my place....").

Randomly she runs into some of her friends, starts talking to them and instantly ditches me and refuses to talk to me for the rest of the night. I literally just put on my jacket and left after an hour of being ignored.

[–]brimonge 5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

This happened to me once. Not a dating app date. But it was the most humiliating experience

[–]anonymous-platypus1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yeah if someone leaves you to talk to someone else on a date you are within your rights to just leave too.

[–]DisasterPeace7Purple Pill Man 10 points11 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Had a couple girls reject me for my height, had one reject me for having " too much ni**er in me" lol

[–]anonymous-platypus1[S] 6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

…..uhg

[–]DisasterPeace7Purple Pill Man 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Dodged a bullet or a rope with that one lol

[–]justforlulz12345Jester Pill 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Better they did that than making you into Get Out 2.

[–]shockedpikachu123 5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

In the past (in high school). I was with someone who was embarrassed to be seen with me! In the hallway he would walk past me like I didn’t exist then text me to hang out after school. I broke things off with him then he got mad for some reason. He kept telling people he was single so I let him be single

In recent history, I traveled half way around the world to another country and the guy just ghosted me. Left me there all alone in a foreign place so there’s that

[–]H20man1 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

In recent history, I traveled half way around the world to another country and the guy just ghosted me. Left me there all alone in a foreign place so there’s that

That sounds horrible. Seriously, fuck that guy.

[–]SlashCo80 12 points13 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I can't say I was ever rudely rejected, mostly because I almost never approached without clear indicators of interest - in today's climate, I'd rather miss a chance than be called a creep or harasser. So the worst rejections were the few times I approached without clear IoIs and they more or less ignored me.

[–]AreOut 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

that's me after I got redpilled

but before uhh...those rejections in school were certainly most hurtful, puberty girls are bullies lol

[–]OhyarlysmilesI'm the guy in my profile pic pill 6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I've been rejected too many times to remember which one was the worst. By and large women have been kind when they've rejected me. I don't think I've ever been rejected for my race --- at least not explicitly, which is surprising.

[–]thisaccountaintrea1I Drink and I Know Things 6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Girl I had been dating for two months randomly blocked me on everything one day- we hadn't had any fights or anything, I just realized my messages suddenly weren't going through.

Still have no idea what her rationale was, and I haven't seen her since.

[–]lIllIlllIl 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Don't take it personally. She probably felt insecure and did a preemptive ghosting.

[–]Remandergrowth 3 points4 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Yesterday I tried to get a girls numper at the club after we had danced together. She shot me the middle finger and I shot it back to her laughed and left.

[–]C4yourshelf 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Let her keep the jumper maybe it was cold outside

[–]anonymous-platypus1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Huh. That’s interesting.

[–]LanzienatorSimp for humanity 3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

A "friend" who knew I had a crush on him got really drunk one night and told me he was into me and wanted me to be his girlfriend. The next day he told me none of it was true.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

lol

[–]PosmotriNaNeboDoomer Traditionalist 5 points6 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Not really a rejection because it wasn’t for dating per se, more like just connecting after a long time, but one girl gave 2-3 consecutive one word answers, then I lost interest and noped out.

[–]anonymous-platypus1[S] 3 points4 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

that was the rudest thing that happened?

[–]PosmotriNaNeboDoomer Traditionalist -2 points-1 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yes. I’ve never asked out a girl in the past nor have been asked out.

[–]Rexagon_2017 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I have heard some truly awful stories but my only experience was polite.

[–]custardandmayoslut 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Got told to fuck off with some real venom to boot for saying "hi".

[–]odd_cloud 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Had a dialogue like this: - Hi, I… - fuck off

[–]Dagenius1 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Oh man girls in Highschool were super mean to guys they werent interested in. I can remember a time a girl said “you? Really” she talked with her friends and everyone started laughing.

It helped me long term but was not pleasant then.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I never been rejected because I don't ask women out nor speak to them but one woman did say she liked me, for whatever reason, and I told her to never say that again.

The disrespect was unreal, I go out my way to stay from women and this is what I get.

[–]LucyintheskyM 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

He came onto me while I was playing pool, being really nice and sweet. When my friend went to the loo, he pulled me aside and told me he wanted to take us to a cool club to get us drinks, like whispered it sexily in my ear. He told we I was so gorgeous and wanted to get to know me more. So when my friend came back I said we were bar hopping, let's try this one this guy told me about and we left. He walked in between us, chatting to both but more to her. I was a bit icked, but whatever. When we got in, he went to get drinks, then asked her to dance. She went to the loo again after a bit and he asked me to leave so he could get with the "skinny chick". I was NOT overweight, just curvey. Like not a flat tummy but big boobs and small waist. I declined, saying my friend is deso (designated driver) and we stay together. In the end, I had to catch a cab home. Wasn't great for my self esteem, but ten years later I can look back and say "daYm I was hot then, what a waste of my time that loser was.". And my friend got a night of awkward sex and a great walk of shame.

[–]angypanda123 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I was 17 and the guy was 21. He was the first guy who ever flirted with me and I was flattered by the attention. I asked if he was interested in me or wanted to date. He responded that I was too immature for him and compared me to his last ex who was supposedly way more mature despite us being the same age.

Later he messaged me that all his ex's were prettier than me and he felt offended that I would even think he was interested in me. Right afterwards he apologized and claimed that he meant to send the message to someone else but... I'm pretty sure that was a lie because of how the message was worded.

I felt pretty humiliated and stopped talking to him. He tried to hit me up over the years but I just ignored his messages. Now thinking back he was right about the immaturity part, but the rest was really insensitive.

[–]WellThat5ucks 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I turned up to a tinder date and the guy said “nah, not for me” and left

[–]anonymous-platypus1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Oof that sucks.

[–]SoldierExcelsior 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Me:I like you can I get your number . Her: No Me: Dang why Her:cause your ugly Me:Dang that's mean Her:Don't be ugly then.

Me HI can I take you on a date sometime? Her:Don't play with me Me;I'm not playing I'm serious. Her;No Me;that's messed up Her;it's your fault. Me;how's it my fault. Her because the way you look Me;Oh

Me;hey Her no Me;why no Her;your to ugly to be approaching me with hey.

Needless to say I don't date or ask women out any more

[–]justforlulz12345Jester Pill 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Can't get rejected if you don't ask any girls.

I feel like the background character in everyone's life, just some npc made to populate the world

[–]Familiar_Egg8802 5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Chick took a drink I paid for and walked away. I would have been cool if she said she wasn't interested but she literally walked off.

[–]AcanthocephalaNew947Willing to tell you its your face not your personality. 3 points4 points  (13 children) | Copy Link

I’ve never been rejected in a rude way.

I’ve had a rejection responded to rudely though. I had a man leave a text that said I wasn’t even ‘always attractive’ and he really just had a thing for black pussy and that’s all he wanted. We never slept together thank God. He still to this day sends ‘hey’ texts. I think I’m up to 6 unresponded to at this point. I stopped interracial dating after that one. Something about my race being used against me in that manner…

[–]anonymous-platypus1[S] 5 points6 points  (12 children) | Copy Link

Interracial dating does have challenges but I refuse to have a non-existent dating pool. Non-religious and non-homophobic black men are hard to find.

[–]C4yourshelf 3 points4 points  (7 children) | Copy Link

Girls say this and completely disregard men of their own race/only date white men. Literally all of my black friends are non religious and non homophobic. They're not hard to find.

[–]anonymous-platypus1[S] 6 points7 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

I still talk to black men. I only cut men out if they say something homophobic or say something like “I don’t care what other men do as long as my son doesn’t try that shit”.

But don’t pretend like it’s the average thing for the black community. I don’t date anyone that religious or homophobic regardless of race.

Though religion can be excused if they view it as a personal experience rather than a moral compass for everyone to be judged by.

[–]C4yourshelf -3 points-2 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

It's of course not average but it's getting better. But when a white man says I don't date poc and tells everyone about it you're hurt and still remember it instead of being angry because it's on the same vein as being homophobic

[–]anonymous-platypus1[S] 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I do date black men though. I don’t date religious or homophobic men.

It’s not at all common to have both. Maybe one or the other, but an atheist black man that wouldn’t bat an eye if his son was gay is rare. It’s not like I’m not looking for him though.

I’ll take my person no matter what race he is:

[–]Dstar538888tells it how it is 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I do date black men though. I don’t date religious or homophobic men.

girl, you don't have to justify anything to that clown, you don't owe black men anything...and don't limit your options by only dating them...the goal here is to find a quality man that meets your standards, skin tone is not the goal here, quality is....I date outside my race too, and some people like to give me shit for it, but idgaf....I'm grown, and you're grown too sis, don't let nobody tell you who you can or can't date like you a child, whoever don't like it can cry about it

[–]Dstar538888tells it how it is 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

but it's getting better

no it's not lol

[–]puririnpa -1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

women who disregard men of their race are usually asian, i think it's actually statistially rare for black women

[–]Dstar538888tells it how it is -1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

disregard men of their own race/only date white men.

I don't think we should limit our options by only dating men of our own race just because we happen to be the same race....If I find a man that meets all of my standards, but he just happens to be white, I don't have a problem with that... also OP is right... a lot of blk males are super homophobic and not religious at all

[–]FizzleMateriel 1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Non-religious and non-homophobic black men are hard to find.

Really?

[–]anonymous-platypus1[S] 2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

To find both is very difficult, at least in my experience.

[–]FaisalAli_91 -1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Can I ask what area you are looking in?

[–]anonymous-platypus1[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I’m in a major city.

[–]-angels-fan-Pitbull loving male feminist 1 point2 points  (17 children) | Copy Link

Not me, but I went to a dance with my bitchy work friend.

A guy that looked like Napoleon dynamite asked her to dance and she got this look of utter disgust on her face, looked him up and down and said "ew, no!"

He sulked away and I told her that was so mean! She didn't give a fuck.

This girl was a total butterface too. Like, a low 6 on her best day.

[–]anonymous-platypus1[S] 4 points5 points  (16 children) | Copy Link

See someone describe Gugu Mbatha-raw as a six the other day and this is just proving my point that the number scale means absolutely nothing.

[–]-angels-fan-Pitbull loving male feminist 1 point2 points  (15 children) | Copy Link

Well, her rating was irrelevant to my story.

[–]anonymous-platypus1[S] 3 points4 points  (14 children) | Copy Link

I know it just made me think about the rating system. The other guy admitted to finding gugu really attractive too, so like is six above average or no?

[–]Square-Pie9671 -1 points0 points  (13 children) | Copy Link

the scale is not linear. 5 is neutral meaning not attractive but also no ugly, deformed or repulsive, 6 is some attraction, and it goes up from there. 4 and below is physically repulsive and objectively ugly.

[–]anonymous-platypus1[S] 1 point2 points  (12 children) | Copy Link

Have you seen Gugu Mbatha-Raw, in no world is she a 6. Wouldn’t you also say 5 would have to be not especially attractive. The average person is still attractive in some way physically.

[–]Square-Pie9671 -1 points0 points  (11 children) | Copy Link

Have you seen Gugu Mbatha-Raw, in no world is she a 6.

I think thats a pretty objective rating, Im white so I would give her a 4, but thats me personally and is not an objective rating.

5 is a person you dont pereive as negative or positive. 4 is someone who causes unleasantness and the thought of touch repulses you. 6 has attractive qualities and elicits a mild positive response and the thought of physical touch seems pleasant. 7 is clearly attractive, 8 is very attractive, 9 flawless, 10 flawless with unusually subjective appeal.

[–]anonymous-platypus1[S] 0 points1 point  (7 children) | Copy Link

You’re white so you would give her a four? Racist are really freaking annoying.

[–]Square-Pie9671 0 points1 point  (6 children) | Copy Link

your a leftist race mixing bully. its normal to perceive different ethnic features as foreign and repulsive.you use racist as a semantic and manipulative weapen to bully other ethnicities for refusing to dilute and genocide their own stock and culture.

[–]anonymous-platypus1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Race mixing is not an insult, I’m not a bully, you just don’t like being called out on your obvious racism.

[–]anonymous-platypus1[S] 0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy Link

It’s not normal to see “foreign” things as repulsive. Different yes, but you shouldn’t be repulsed by someone who has darker skin and wider hips than you. That’s your racism showing through.

You’re literally showing that you’re racist with your explanation dude. Black people aren’t diluting your family line.

[–]Haunting_Syllabub617 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

Do you think your whiteness is a large factor in who you can find attractive?

[–]Square-Pie9671 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

yes. women who have features of other ethnicities dont get registered by my brain as mates, just like in any amimal on the planet. its a clear consequence of evolution.

[–]Haunting_Syllabub617 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

What features only occur in one race of people? And as a modern human in a modern world, it’s hard to understand not being able to identify said features across different cultural groups, to the point of being unable to find someone attractive.

And animals do mate with things that aren’t their natural mates - indiscriminate humping comes to mind - as well as humans all being within the same species, so I’m not sure if evolution covers that…

[–]Green-Quantity1032 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I spoke to a girl and her friend was like "go away, you're bothering us".

When I come to think of it - the worst reactions are always from her friends, not the girl approached.

I even remember one time the friends were like "bye bye bye" and the girl going "no this is interesting I wanna hear him out".

Worst was when I was like 17 and a girl actually pushed me the fuck off repeatedly, but I was probably out of line trying to grind from behind, and I guess she was already pissed from other guys trying to pull off shit like that and I just got in the wrong time.

It was actually pretty traumatic for me, but I guess it shouldn't have been, it's easy to see why she'd react that way

[–]revente 1 point2 points  (12 children) | Copy Link

She told me to go away. I said bye and went away.

Guys make up some horrible rejection scenarios in their heads, whereas I’ve approached hundreds if not thousands of attractive (8-9/10) girls and 99% of time she’s either positive or neutral.

[–]anonymous-platypus1[S] 1 point2 points  (11 children) | Copy Link

I’m kinda seeing that. Most of these are pretty tame. But rejection still sucks.

[–]revente 0 points1 point  (10 children) | Copy Link

But rejection still sucks

Not really. Most attractive girls have a bf. Some are lesbian/crazy/undatable. Some are on a period or have to take a shit badly.

By the end of the day, before your attractiveness/approach tactics even come to play, you’re left with like only 10-15% of girls.

Probably much more in clubs/bars because many girls go the with an intention of meeting someone.

[–]anonymous-platypus1[S] 2 points3 points  (9 children) | Copy Link

I don’t mean it sucks as in physically hurts. Just stings sometimes when someone doesn’t want you back. It’s more embarrassment I think.

[–]revente 0 points1 point  (8 children) | Copy Link

doesn’t want you back. It’s more embarrassment I think.

Stop taking this personally as it’s not personal. If she has a bf she’ll reject you even if she’s attracted.

[–]Green-Quantity1032 2 points3 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

Oh but a lot of times it is personal.

She says no to you, but to someone else maybe she goes home with him tonight.

But I like to see it as if she has already rejected/accepted - the question is only if you have the courage to find out.

I mean as long as you don't do anything weird, she already has an idea of what she'll do if a guy such as yourself comes up to her.

[–]revente 0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy Link

She says no to you, but to someone else maybe she goes home with him tonight.

No, it’s not personal.

It’s just her taste. Has nothing to do with who am I as a person.

[–]Green-Quantity1032 1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Do you think taste has such a large variance? I mean, some guys can get 30% of girls, other guys 2% and the girls are less pretty.

That's.. personal.

Yeah you don't have to take EVERY rejection personally, but statistically.. it does say a lot about how you're perceived in women's eyes

EDIT: I'm not trying to say people shouldn't approach or anything, on the contrary. But I do think it's not surprising people take it personally.

[–]revente 1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Well I totally get why people take i personally.

But if you take a reasonable care of how you look it’s not a failure on your part but a physical reality influenced by your genes and the other person’s taste.

The only real failure is cchickening out and not approaching at all.

[–]Green-Quantity1032 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Haha well yeah, it's even harder when it's a gene fault as it's way harder to change (i.e it's easier to go to the gym for 6 months than it is to do jaw surgery).

But yeah I agree, as the old saying goes field is king, always approach.

[–]anonymous-platypus1[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Im a woman.

[–]revente 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Oh ok, but that doesn't really change anything.

[–]theitchcockblock 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Had a girl saying that I was rude in table manners because I did not knew how to hold a fork in my hand and that I would embarrass her wherever we would go in a public setting

[–]Birb-brainedNo Pill -1 points0 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Rudest/meanest way someone has reacted to me not being mutually interested in them :

Got drunk in my garden, smashing bottles and singing and trashing the place while I hid upstairs and called the police. Fun.

Another one SA’d me anyway, friend had to call police because he would not leave her house.

Also, I’m so sorry you experienced such horrible POS behaviour OP.

[–]Birb-brainedNo Pill 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

Just want to offset this by also saying, I have had guys who were absolute gentlemen and very gracious about it, which I really appreciated, and we are still friends.

[–]AreOut -2 points-1 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

guys do not stop being sexually interested in you after you say them you are just friends, so either they were not genuinely interested in you or they aren't genuine friends with you

[–]Birb-brainedNo Pill 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Oh god this was so long ago, half of them are married with kids now. Lots of people are attracted to lots of other people as teenagers, it happens. We were all part of larger friendship groups.

[–]mackenzie013_02 -1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I haven’t had anyone rejecting me poorly. It’s always been polite.

Me rejecting them: - It was at a bar and told him I’m not interested in going home with him so he followed me home anyways and tried to enter my house - I told him I’m not interested in hooking up and he proceeded to go on a rant how I should stop being such an idiot, religious prick (I’m an atheist lol), and how I’m missing out. - We were seeing each other casually and told him I’m not interested in long term; he sent me like 100 texts with details how he’s fucking other women, then got drunk, cried on my voicemail about how he’s sorry, and then showed up at my house at 4am unannounced. 😬

[–]AstronautLoveShackSuccubus Demon whose every motive is pure evil 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

It was in Jr. high school and he made fun of my acne.

[–]Ana-Hata 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I once cruelly rejected a guy by getting into a serious relationship 5 years before I met I him, because once I told him I was in a relationship he shunned me for three years - he was a professional colleague and he made a point of leaving the room (even in the middle of a meeting) when I walked in. For three freaking years. Because I didn’t dump my fiance for him when he asked me out, I guess.

[–]Reasonable-Software2 -1 points0 points  (9 children) | Copy Link

I was at the gym and I approached a girl when she was on the treadmill. This was during covid times and she told me I couldn’t be next to her and pointed at the sign on the treadmill I was on and told me to leave. This was within a second or two of me saying “hi” to her. I think what got her agitated was that I waited minutes after we made initial eye-contact and then approached her.

[–]anonymous-platypus1[S] 11 points12 points  (7 children) | Copy Link

Maybe don’t approach people at the gym. I know many of my friends find it annoying.

[–]prizefighterstudent 7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Unless you've got heavy eye contact, or it comes out of an organic conversation, approaching at the gym just because you're interested seldom works out.

[–]Reasonable-Software2 0 points1 point  (5 children) | Copy Link

I had every right to approach her at the gym — she had every right to reject me.

[–]Feeling_Mousse_2191 11 points12 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

How to get banned from the gym 101

[–]anonymous-platypus1[S] 2 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Okay. Do you feel her rejection was rude or mean spirited?

[–]Reasonable-Software2 2 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Maybe, why does it matter? She can act whichever way she wants.

[–]anonymous-platypus1[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I was asking about particularly mean or hurtful rejections or reactions.

[–]DarkSparkyShark 3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

It matters because that's the post topic.

[–]TSquaredRecovers 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yeah, don't approach women when they're in the middle of working out. No bueno. I would have been irritated as well, especially since it was during the pandemic.

[–]EulenWatcher -1 points0 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

I don’t have much of experience of getting rejected tbh. My school crush was decent and kind about it.

My classmate tried to guilt trip me into dating him after I’d rejected him multiple times. He also tried to kiss me using force and carry me into his parents’ bedroom. That was pretty scary.

[–]AreOut 0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy Link

now imagine if it was his grandparents’ bedroom

[–]EulenWatcher -1 points0 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

What would it change?

[–]AreOut 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

now that would be even scarier, imagine if his grandpa comes back from the field

[–]EulenWatcher 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I have no idea what you’re talking about tbh.

[–]FusiontronNo Pill 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I think it's a reference to a movie, but I don't remember which.

[–]RocinanteCoffee -1 points0 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

They hired someone to trip me at the top of a flight of about thirty steeply-angled marble stairs.

Fortunately, I caught myself (I could have died or been severely injured).

Fortunately, also someone else observed the exchange of money for tripping and reported it and the person who arranged it self-reported on themselves (when they said it was just supposed to be a hand-delivered message to me through the person they paid), and they had consequences (that I had no part of, I initially didn't even suspect it had anything to do with the person I had considered dating, I thought it was an accidental tripping).

[–]Birb-brainedNo Pill 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Omg that’s despicable!

[–]anonymous-platypus1[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

What the hell. This was after you asked them out?

[–]RocinanteCoffee 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yes. I asked on a Friday. This was the following Monday.

[–]anon-sucks -1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

You really that 80% of the people here are probably over of this right?

[–]anonymous-platypus1[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I’m not sure what you’re trying to say?

[–]Academic_Snow_7680 -1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

It's hard to choose.

Once a popular guy asked me at a school dance if I wanted to dance but didn't listen when I said sceptically "with you?" and said "then go dance" then he realized what I said and looked so stupid I couldn't help but laugh

The thing is guys have repeatedly pre-emptively tried to use "I wouldn't fuck you if blabla" so often that it is hard to choose. Totally pre-emptively because I was beating them at a debate contest.

Once a guy lied that I had slept with him and I confronted him, to which his friend came to his rescue with "well I wouldnt' fuck you if you begged me" again this just looking so stupid that it was more embarrassing for him.

I don't know what it is about these guys who think "well I wouldn't fuck you..." as some sort of insult, I wouldn't fuck most people and that's not an insult, that's me being normal.

[–]Academic_Snow_7680 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

It's clear that truth hurt somebody's ego here lol

[–]HolyPipidastraLSD -1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

First, I refused to dance. Then, I said no thanks to him offering to buy me a shot. Then I stonefaced his pick up line. Refused a dance again. He thought it was a great idea to ask me if I want to Netflix and chill on Tuesday, and it was Thursday. I said: “I said no like five times, there is absolutely no way in the world you will be fucking me by Tuesday”. So he blew up on me. We were both rude, but he started stress testing my patience himself so

[–]anonymous-platypus1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

No he deserved that one.

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[–]TigerRude4 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I don't approach much, but one woman I barely know thought I was gay.

[–]OriginalThought171GrillPill 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

My rejection story: We were friends at work and she started flirting with me profusely, always wanting to hang out and doing so much flirty shit. I asked male and female friends who sometimes observed this behaviour and they told me that she is definitely into me, some even assumed we were already hooking up.

However, my friend was already sort of dating someone else at the time. Since i didn't wanna be "that guy", i refrained from doing more than flirting back a bit.

After i learned that she dumped the other guy, i just told her straight up. Likes something like(different language): Hey you know what i like you, like alot.

I wanted to ask her out 1 on 1 but before i could do that she started laughing and said something along the lines of "Hey of course i like you too, you are a great friend" and some such. I didn't say anything further and just took this as a soft rejection i guess.

However, in the weeks and months following she started to ignore me like, treating me like air, she started making snide and belittling comments, started lowkey insulting me and she started heavily flirting with another colleague who already has a gf. Idk whats going on between the two of them but i have my suspicions that make me sick to my stomach.

This part of the rejection really hurt me. Like a switch flipped in her mind where she decided i was apparently worthless trash who needed to be put in the trashcan.

Now, about three-four months later she is back to being somewhat pleasant to me. But i am done with her and want nothing to do with her anymore, even tho i still have strong feelings for her that are eating me up inside.

My story rejecting someone else: They called me gay and that i probably have a small dick. Not very creative but thats the rudest way someone reacted to me rejecting them.

[–]anonymous-platypus1[S] 4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

My mom always told me “how you got them is how you’re losing them” if she was flirting that heavy with you when she was already in a relationship then you definitely don’t want to pursue anything with her if you’re not poly. She’s clearly the super flirty type.

Sucks that she started treating you like that. But would you have preferred for her to keep on being flirty and friendly?

[–]OriginalThought171GrillPill 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Now in hindsight i totally agree with you and probably would reject her if she, for some reason, now clearly came on to me and tried to seduce me or someshit.

But honestly, in in that moment three months ago, i would've wanted her to date me and not make me feel worthless and starting going after a guy thats already taken when i'm here and avalaible. Stupid hormones.

[–]prizefighterstudent 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Never rudely rejected, usually just immaturely.

Girl tells me she "doesn't drink" when I ask her out for one, after the subject coming up several times in conversation.

Setting up a date well in advance, girl coming up with some other activity just a few hours prior to the time agreed on.

It can weigh down on you, but gotta get those reps in.

[–]jackedsoon||| 0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

was having a good time w some girl in club. made out w her a lot and saw her near exit later. her friend comes and takes bk back to the floor. shes resisting and wants me to join. her friend says 'girl hes ugly' and i just went bk to friends n they left.

i wouldnt say its rude or got to me. but the only way ive been rejected via insult. rest r 'no sorry'

[–]anonymous-platypus1[S] 1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

So the girl you were dancing with didn’t insult you but her friend did?

[–]jackedsoon||| 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

yes her friend did.

[–]King-SAMOWhy are you like this? 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

The worst rejection was the young woman who immediately made it a race thing and was deliberately hurtful about it.

there have been a few bad reactions; lots of shit talk, several cock-blocks, some stalking, two different women who got me wasted and took advantage of me, and one drink thrown in my face. I’m only talking about 4-5 women over more than a decade here. Most women will either try to be cool or try to disappear in the face of rejection. Apparently I tend to attract a third sort of woman…

[–]ZealousidealAd7191 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Ive never actually been rejected in a mean way. Every-time I’ve been rejected its always been in a fairly kind way. Even in high-school when i got my heart broken when an upper-class-men that id liked for a long time and started kinda going out with ditched me to go to prom with a another guy because he had a car, she was nice about it. She even apologized afterwards because she regretted it, but no girl/woman has ever been mean to me really.

[–]BIG_PHARMA_SOLUTION_ 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Not rejected, but was dating a girl for 2-3 months, ended up going out of town for a relative's wedding (we literally face timed that weekend I was out). The day I get back, I text her, doesn't reply.

Texts me like 3 days later, "Hey I suck for responding so late, but I don't think I'll be able to see you much for the next few months" — I try asking why, doesn't reply (leaves my on read). I tried giving her a call the next day but just rang and never returned the call.

Truth be told, I've learned to just expect nothing (if you're a dude in your 20s in today's dating game — you're going to deal with a lot of stonewall ghosts) to really last so I largely didn't feel anything, but that was probably the most negative open response I got from a woman.

[–]begayalldayRainbow Pill 🏳️‍🌈 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Asked me for my best friend’s phone number.

[–]CaptainLee9137 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Just the fact that I was stood up, by two different dates, left alone at the restaurant. It was terrible. However, I got a free sympathy milkshake for one of those occasions. Shout out to Chili’s for that gift.

[–]Head-Language-2977 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Mine is specific to a location, a bar. I always thought the biggest slap in the face was when I approached a woman to say hi, she would look at me and say hi, and then turn her back to me.

To me that said, I think you’re so far beneath me that I won’t even have a 2 minute polite conversation before rejecting you.

[–]anonymous-platypus1[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Really? I tend to that if I don’t feel like making conversation at all. I’ll say hi, but if I’m not in the mood to be friendly I’m not sure what else there is to say.

[–]SoleMatesC4SPurple Smut Peddler 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I've told this story before. Apologies for the copy-and-paste.

I decided once that I liked a friend-of-a-friend. We met at a party, spent the evening chatting. I couldn't tell if she liked me or not, but I figured at the time that as long as I wasn't pushy, I could keep pursuing her until I got some kind of hard no. At said party, she kept mock-arguing with a female friend of hers. The two of them kept saying, jokingly, "We're not a lesbian couple. Honest!" in reference to the fact that they kept at it like an old married couple. This will be important eventually, so remember it. Anyhoo, like a week later she posts on Facebook, "It's national Hug (her ethnicity) Day!". So I shot her a PM and said, "I've got a hug for you, but it's a very old hug that's been in my family for generations. I'll have to give it to you in person." Cringe? Who knows. The friend I related it to after the fact thought it was clever and funny. YMMV. Either way, she didn't respond, so I said to myself, "self? That's a sign. She doesn't like you, so you should leave her alone." So I unfriended her and went on with my life. About a week or two after that, all of us were at a big backyard barbecue. My crush was once-again griping at her friend, so as the two of them wandered past my particular group of conversationalizers, I quipped, "Are you sure you two aren't a lesbian couple?" The guy I was talking to raised his eyebrows at the non-sequitur and said, "huh?" My "crush" turned towards us and said - loudly enough for anyone in a fifteen-foot-radius to hear - "He's just mad because I wouldn't give him any play. I would never stoop that low! My standards are much higher than that!" Then, she stormed off. AFAIK, nobody heard her outburst, but I did find out later through my friend that she was confused as to why I'd unfriended her. You can't win, guys. Also, this "my standards are higher than that" out-weighed me by fifty pounds. Just sayin'.

And/or what’s the meanest or rudest way someone has reacted to you being not being mutually interested in them.

Oo, forgot this part. It's another good story.
So, I used to know this gal who eventually started dating my best friend. And lied to me about him hitting her, but that's beside the point. Anyway, we were at a party - for my birthday, no less - and she starts getting nosy with me about the other girls in the bar we were at. Kept asking me what my "type" was, and who I thought was the prettiest girl in the room, that sort of thing. I think I was still in my "Asian phase" so I quipped "They're all cute, but they're no Zhang Ziyi." I think I said this mainly to get her to shut up, because I'd asked her for a date like a year ago and she'd dodged the question, which I'd taken for a no.
So she gets all up in my business (She was Asian - and by "all up in my business" I mean she literally leaned in and started emphatically poking me in the chest as she spoke) and start ranting about how nobody ever paid her any attention in high school and how it was "people like me" who kept passing her over for, quote, "Hong Kong models". Now, before I carry on with this story, let me remind you that A) she was fucking hot, B), she was fucking my best friend, and C) she'd already turned "people like me" (IE, me) down when I'd asked her out, so this was pretty fucking ballsy of her. I fixed her with a look and said "redacted, I asked you out a year ago and you said no, so don't give me that shit."
The best part? She recoils, stares at me for a second, and then says, "You never asked me out!".
JFC. She's living in Germany now. Good effing riddance.

[–]IamHere-4U 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

he told me he could never be more than friends with a poc person.

Oooof, this is rough

[–]autismo_3point0Purple Pill Woman 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

That 2nd dude sounds just ridiculous I wouldn't worry about that guy

[–]depressed_DiscusOverdosing on Pills 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

She looked at me and said Ewww and pretend to throw up. This was in 9th Grade, so I don't care about it anymore.

[–]Weird_Stick_2962 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

The meanest rejection I experienced was in high school. My best friend at the time liked this one boy but she thought I liked him also. She convinced me to go with her to the cafeteria to discuss it. I stupidly followed instead of taking my dumb ass to class. When she approached him and asked him if he knew I liked him and if he was into me, he said “who would date that?” and laughed with a group of his friends. I was very embarrassed. The stupid thing is I wasn’t interested in him. I was just trying to save my friendship, however stupid that was.

[–]The_Piperoni 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Matched a girl on tinder. She was fat but I was like fuck it cus I can’t match healthy weight women. We had a date planned and she asked me to Snapchat her. I look exactly the same as my tinder pics (you can check my post history to see what I look like). And after I sent her a Snapchat she said nevermind and deleted me from snap and tinder.

[–]NoInjury1499Traditionalist 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I was once talking to a german girl I had met on 4chan. We both sent pics of each other "You're brown".

[–]KingWhoCared86 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Literally laughed in my face. Coincidentally, that was also the last time I asked anyone out.

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