As a single woman in my 20’s who has dated lots I have one piece of advice to men out here.

With women, it’s all about how a man makes her feel in his presence

I have dated guys who were physically attractive and successful but they were cocky, had a chip on their shoulder, and lacked tact. They were so used to easily getting women based off looks alone it felt as though they were purposely being tools to see what they could get away with.

Conversely, I’ve dated men who were easy going, kind, charismatic, so-so, or down right not my type in the looks department. And shit let me tell you, I was head over heels for some of them

One guy who was 5’6, 25 with adult braces, and acne put me under a spell.. I was admittedly crazzzzzy about him for years.

I think this is why

Braces dude was cool, calm and collected. He made up for his other ‘deficits’ ( we all have them btw) just by how he interacted with me and how he made me feel.

Big dick energy or ‘BDE’ is a REAL thing, my friends and I find ourselves attracted to guys who aren’t even our type because damn there is something about them! If you’re friendly, confident, assertive, and easy to talk to I guarantee your experience with women will improve.

Also never tell a woman you have zero experience or bad luck in the romance department - not saying pretend like you’re slick Rick, but it’s something they don’t need to know!!

Woman of reddit comment below if you agree or have something to add to this discussion!

I don’t think men truly understand how powerful this is.