So, this debate happens a lot where some people present women as extremely passive, insecure, and gun shy who won't make any first move and the SuperChad crowd who believe that prodigal amounts of looks, money, or status, but mostly looks, override this general rule.
In terms of direct and to the manner approaching, which is essentially her making an actual total unambiguous zero acquaintance her wanting to be with you sort of thing (think I think you're hot we should hang out together sometime as an opening line)....
...that's pretty rare.
Unambiguous statements of interest, i.e. just her telling you you're really attractive or whatever, not so much. Same for her maybe inviting her ti talk wirh her group at the venue or whatever shit. Happens to me all the time.
But the manner in which they do it is...
Put it this way, the caricature of how a creepy "bets male niceguy" approaches women, wirh a lot of lingering, hovering, and finally action/escalation attempt = women approaching.
Which means that, if you're a guy who likes efficiency or doesn't like to waste time, or whatever, when a woman approaches and you let her lead, almost invariably you're going to have to either take the lead or just let something that should have taken 2 hours take 12 hours or more.
Yes outliers exist but on average.
If I had to grade female approaching acumen when they are the ones trying to lead, it'd be a D+ (ha). The score are an average of several common "game" components
Logistics: F triple minus Ability to escalate/pull trigger: C (about the same as your average inept dude) State control: D Cute factor: A+ (they really are adorable in the process most times, no bullshit...)
So idk women do approach but how they approach and their general skillset tends to necessitate you taking the reins anyway
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