Like this is something that is just bugging my mind right now.

Most guys who try to do something about their dating lives and getting what they actually want either give up on that for what is available or never succeed.

Most guys slowly drop any standards they might have, be them physical, about nature of relationships, personality, in the end most guys just end up going for literally whatever actually likes them back and call it a win, except they don't actually like that option and resent it.

Then the men who don't drop their requirements, end up likely alone, in spite of some effort, which is honestly kind of conclusive to it not being their fault, especially the guy nearing his 30s or something, and the younger ones see them and obviously call the advice bullshit too.

With all that said, why are the men supposed to just not bother or be upset by this, as in it is no big deal?, because honestly being upset by this is totally valid but somehow not acceptable to complain or point out except to maybe a therapist.

Do you guys have seen any people getting ostracized IRL because of this too?, like this is a topic i and friends who opened up got mauled by jokes and shaming when they spoke up, really this is just normal?, what is the common experience?