Lets say you you are a guy who has put in the effort and went to gym, got some money, groomed, got a friend circle, attended events and hobbies, built your personality, approached, got on apps, texted, and did all the stuff you needed to do. In this example it is verified and confirmed that you did put the effort and tried not just gave up.

But after all that effort you decided you just are not the guy that women find interesting.

You came to this conclusion with logic and reason by using the proof and real life examples of what occurred for you such as:

  1. When you try to make eye contact with women they look away immediately and try to avoid you after.

  2. You text but never get texts back.

  3. Zero or almost zero matches. If match then rare or zero replys.

  4. You try to approach but women are not receptive.

  5. Women test you and make it difficult.

  6. No women pursue you when you stop making it a priority.

  7. All the while you notice the opposite happening for your friends. Women gravitate towards them, text them back, are receptive to approach and even initiate, don't shit test them, and they get the benefits of the classic "dude when i stop trying i get the most attention hurrr durrr"

Thus, you give up and you tell people that it just isn't in the cards that you got dealt.

So then why do others not accept this? Why can't they just say "Hey dude it seems like you put in your best effort and you came to the logical conclusion that you have close a 100% chance of being alone for your life"

They always have to fight you on it. Like "are you trying this and that and blah blah"

Do they not like the idea of someone being defeated by this? Do they think that everyone has a chance if they keep putting more and more effort? "Just look at Danny Devito bro he gets laid"

Why can't they just see that this guy is just not that sick with girls even though he tried and its probably not going to work for him.

Its the same platitudes: "Oh dude there is someone for everyone" "Shes out there wondering where you are too" "You can't have light without the dark"

You always have to put up a stupid facade like girls are giving you their number without you asking and coming over for dinner and you are doing great.

Anyway, as you could probably tell, I've pretty much come to the conclusion its over for me. Next part of my journey is going to be really accepting it and making peace with it some how.