The underlying assumption of women increasing their standards as they grow older is that men should accept women as they come into their change (RP term: Epiphany Phase) and men should simply wait around for these women to finally fit their enhanced standards.
My exchange with kandyapplez was instructive of women's general view of the topic.
Essentially: A guy should wait around for a woman to find him worthy regardless of how she behaves in the meantime. A woman should have have high(er) value men waiting for her to select them. A guy should accept her new, reformed self as a more compatible option for a LTR, her behavior in the preceding time period doesn't matter and he's wrong for taking that into account:
Wait until I decide you're good enough while I have fun and party, then when I'm done and don't do that anymore I'll think about settling for you, k? You just wait there like a good boy, and don't judge me, k?
It seems awfully unbalanced to me, and very strange why women here on PPD don't understand why a guy would object to the paradigm of being rejected until a girl decides she wants to settle for him. And let's be honest, she settles for him, not with him.
Sheryl Sandberg famously endorses this behavior
While warrior poet Mike Jones takes the other side as he became famous:
Back then they didn't want me, now I'm hot hoes all on me
Q4All: Why should men wait? Why shouldn't men reject these women?
Q4W: What do women bring to the table with your newfound maturity and increased standards that matches the increased value of that guy who waited around?
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