Why single women are happier compared to single men ??

Noodles_R · 2022-10-14T18:32:34+00:00

Women generally have larger and closer friend circles and family relationships, so they can get their social needs met there.

An LTR or marriage is a nice bonus on top of that but it’s not 100% necessary unless you want kids, and really not even then.

Women tend to be brought up now to look after themselves, get good careers etc and not be taught to marry for security like used to be the case.

mistressusa · 2022-10-14T19:00:27+00:00

Mostly wrong, OP.

Women in general have stronger relationships with their families and friends. So even if they stay single, they still have stronger social network than men. Single women find fulfillment in volunteering to help others and enjoy being the "cool aunt" to their nieces and nephews. They also tend to take better care of themselves in terms of health. Women are natural care takers (not all women, but more women than men).

Pacman124 · 2022-10-14T18:06:18+00:00

I guess it's more because of an abundance mentality which men don't have. If men had more opportunities to get into relationships as they wanted, a lot would be content being single aswell.

Tell a kid that spends too much time playing video games in their room that they can't leave it from now on and they all of sudden will have a problem with it

We will never have this abundance of opportunities as mostly average/below average men. That's just something we have to accept. In contrast, we have to avoid the scarcity mentality. Finding a purpose besides women that is

eye_fuck · 2022-10-14T18:05:21+00:00

They're not 'single' in the same way men are

2022-10-14T20:28:27+00:00

Taking care of a man takes a lot of work. Especially once you're older and work/kids/life gets busier. My man is worth it, but if anything happened to him I wouldn't be in a rush to take that on again. He has to be someone really special.

Swordfromthecement · 2022-10-14T23:42:40+00:00

If I had the options women had instead of the radio silence I’d probably be happier with being single too.

Liberated_Asexual · 2022-10-14T19:50:28+00:00

Ayesha Curry is unhappy being married to an NBA legend and superstar because men stopped approaching her after she got married, apparently. Lol.

ehooehoo · 2022-10-14T20:24:35+00:00

i think people care way too much if they have a partner or not. it’s almost an obsession and the ones that are usually obsessed with finding a partner are ‘half’ a person, seeking their ‘other half’. meaning they are not happy on their own so they seek it from another person

AnUnstableNucleus · 2022-10-14T19:36:12+00:00

Because single women can get a guy whenever they feel the itch, and still have some emotional support from their social circle. Men often lack both of those.

panascope · 2022-10-14T18:56:34+00:00

I'm sort of surprised that people haven't done a little more deep diving. Only one other person in the comments has noted that Paul Dolan's study on spousal happiness (and the "shocking" outcome) has been completely debunked. Essentially his claim revolves around women's responses to a question regarding happiness while their spouse "isn't in the room." Paul took this to mean that they asked the questions to the couples, then had one person leave, then asked them again. But what that question actually meant was spousal happiness for couples who are separated (i.e., likely in the process of divorce), which was higher for women than for men. Which basically makes sense, as women are the initiators of divorce in most cases, so it's reasonable that they'd be happier for the relationship to be dissolving.

Rickyrider35 · 2022-10-14T23:17:51+00:00

Probably because a lot of women who are single choose to be whilst men are forced to be by their own uncompetetiveness / unlikeability.

Also, I’d wager that a solid percentage of the women who choose to be single do so because they’ve had one or more examples of men being so shit that they’ve convinced themselves that all men are not worth being in relationships with, and therefore they find happiness and fulfilment in their relationships with their friends and with the activities they enjoy doing. They also don’t seek sex as much as men (I don’t have a source for that, and I’m sure it could be debated whether this is true).

Men on the other hand, whilst a lot of them categorically think negatively of women, still deep down crave relationships with women both because they seek sex more but also because society keeps telling men that having a good woman is synonymous with success.

MasterTeacher123 · 2022-10-15T04:17:55+00:00

The single women in my circle who are happy are getting dicked down by one dude on a regular basis.

The single men I know who got pussy on tap are happy

ThorLives · 2022-10-14T19:52:24+00:00

Men are constantly told that being romantically unsuccessful is deeply shameful and embarrassing. "Virgin" is an insult. The whole "can't get a woman" insult is frequently thrown at men as an insult - even in cases where that clearly isn't true. I've seen that insult cheaply thrown at men for saying things that women don't like - stuff like "and that's why no woman wants you". For example: https://ifunny.co/picture/richard-cooper-rich-c-why-do-women-train-for-ripped-dt2ceyEs8

This reinforces the shame around lack of marriage and lack of a relationship. It reinforces the idea that lack of romantic success means "There's something wrong with you. You're a broken and unlikeable person".

This kind of shaming used to be used on women, too. "Old Maid" and "spinster", for example. But society no longer does that. Instead, there's a while bunch of celebration around women having careers, not needing a man, being a "boss babe" or whatever. It's considered misogynistic to push marriage and relationships on women. It's considered wrong to tell them there's something wrong with them for not being married.

Society also confirms this when people complain about the dating scene. If a man has trouble getting a relationship and says "it's because women are trash", society shames him for being misogynistic and delusional. In other words, society blames him, which can cause him to blame himself. And one of the findings from incel studies is a very high degree of self hatred. Conversely, if a woman has trouble getting a relationship and says "it's because men be are trash" society nods in agreement. In other words, society blames men, which confirms her belief that there's nothing wrong with her; it's mens' fault.

SmarmyPapsmears · 2022-10-14T17:59:01+00:00

After having been in a few relationships; I can say the fuss is over rated. But I could see how someone's who has never had a relationship would be salty. It makes sense for men who are left in the dust.

dynospectrum7 · 2022-10-14T17:54:42+00:00

Yeah so that psychology today article that you linked, didn’t list a single data point. So you either a) didn’t read it, or b) used a shit article to make a point. You can do better than this.

Tricky_Dog1465 · 2022-10-14T19:06:20+00:00

I'm no longer single, but after my marriage I was extremely happy being single. My husband was controlling, it was WONDERFUL to buy the square plates I had always wanted (silly I know, but he hated them, it was amazing to own what I wanted for a change. )

Not having to ask permission to go anywhere, not being coerced into things I didn't want to do.

Now I don't ask, I make sure we don't have plans already and let him know where I'm going. I enjoy just riding on my moped, long walks in the woods. I've never been unfaithful, I just enjoy my alone time.

If I end up single again, I'm ok with that. I love my old man, we went to high school together, found each other again after 22 years. But I'm just as happy alone.

cisra_returned1 · 2022-10-14T18:02:23+00:00

It seems we have this post like once a week.

...says happiness expert

Hmmm, almost all of theses articles come from what a happiness expert said. Would not be more accurate to use statistics and studies?

For example, we know older women use far more antidepressants regardless of civil status, but men kill themselves more.

I would happiness evens out but women take more pills while men just end it all.

ar_menelos · 2022-10-14T18:34:57+00:00

Validation. Women get it a lot from their family, friends, and strangers. Men don't.

Vronicasawyerredsded · 2022-10-14T20:15:08+00:00

I’m a single woman by choice.

I was married (well, still married, but have been separated for 2+ years).

I followed the supposed women’s ideal blueprint for life and family.

It was an awful experience, and I thought I married one of the “good ones” one of the “nice guys”.

I am leaps and bounds happier than I ever have been in my adult life.

I signed up for Facebook dating on whim about a year+ after my separation, thinking I might as well in case I decided to date eventually.

My inbox filled up with HUNDREDS of requests and continues to.

It was overwhelming, and just the few dozen I attempted to chat with, nothing was really there that I found appealing or meaningful. Many were quite demanding actually. And not just for sex, it was their desperate need for an instant relationship, emotional intimacy and to not feel lonely. I think many are just so afraid they’ll die alone.

I am alone, but I am not lonely.

I have a rewarding career, I have a good relationship with my children, I have deeply intimate relationships with female friends that have been cultivated over decades, and I have close relationships with some of my family members.

I don’t need a romantic relationship, and right now I don’t want one.

Ladies, don’t listen to people who tell you that you have a shelf life and that men won’t desire or want a relationship with you after you’re 30+ years old. It’s not true. I get requests from men of all ages.

My 30+ year old single girlfriends aren’t hurting for dates and have lots of opportunities for relationships.

deznue · 2022-10-15T00:10:57+00:00

Well, the way I see it is that average looking women are able to get sex as easy as a male celebrity and average men are rarely able to get as much sex unless they pay new escort everytime. The whole suicide thing could be byproduct of unfulfilled career choice, money, loneliness, health and many other things.

coconutcasserole · 2022-10-14T19:49:36+00:00

Being single as an average woman: “I went on a few tinder dates, in between seeing my go-to fwb, nothing serious, oh my god I almost forgot I totally hooked up with that hawt guy from the bar last weekend!”

Being single as a normal guy: “I haven’t touched another human being in 4 years.”

LEARN THE DIFFERENCE.

howdoiw0rkthisthing · 2022-10-14T19:51:27+00:00

I agree with your list with some modifications:

I don’t think single women are celebrated, at least not by everyone. How many times have you heard “enjoy your cats” lobbed at a woman? Especially because of point #1, men love to imply that a woman will end up loveless and alone as an insult.
I think it’s more that women are likely to be passive in their sadness, not lash out at other people. Maybe you could say that’s more mature or civilized but I think that more would be the case if women did have as many violent or aggressive impulses as men and just did a better job of suppressing them, which I don’t think is true.
Of course men kill themselves for plenty of reasons other than being lonely.

And I would add a few:

The first, and most obvious, is lower sex drive.
The caretaker role that women often shoulder in hetero relationships can be exhausting and make it not even worth the effort of being in a relationship. I think this is why women remarry at a lower rate than men as well.

trap4pixels · 2022-10-14T18:21:40+00:00

Women have far bigger support networks, wether that be family, friends or coworkers. Men often do not have any support whatsoever in really any aspect of life or atleast to a comparatively minisucle degree.

Right off the bat we have to focus on building ourselves up completely solo, young men know that know one is going to help them. Not even family. The amount of pressure and stress that they face to add up to something early in life, when they have nothing and zero support is very hard.

Women in general tend to have people bending over backwards to help them. Ranging from teachers, mentors, their family & friends, they always have a safety net of people to tell them and show them that they are valued.

With men it's the opposite, they are acutely aware how little they matter and know that they are going to have a long road ahead. For men to be in a relationship shows to them them they have some perceived value because they don't get those feelings of support elsewhere when single.

TLDR: Women are supported more.

wtknight · 2022-10-14T17:53:20+00:00

Men are often sexually thirstier than women, and many can’t find casual sex to satisfy their urges. Paying for sex is an option, but that is expensive and most men cannot pay for sex all of the times that they want it.

Steakman1 · 2022-10-14T20:26:08+00:00

This is completely theory on my part. But I think a big factor with women is the fact that while they’re single, they’re still frequently having options thrown at them. It isn’t until they’re getting close to middle aged where women might start having problems with being single because reality kicks in. Even though they might still have some options, pretty much all the good men are paired off with someone.

Meanwhile with men there seems to be a frequent pressure and feeling like the longer they stay single, the harder it gets to find someone especially if they’ve never been in a relationship.

I think if single women didn’t have men approaching them frequently, then they would be much less happier being single. Women might be single but they’re still getting plenty of attention. But unless a single man is actively out there trying to pursue women, he’s completely isolated.

bunnakay · 2022-10-14T18:55:47+00:00

My experience is that a lot of men really need a woman to take care of them in some way...sexually, emotionally, and/or through housework. The flip side of this used to be that in exchange, a man would support a woman financially. However, women no longer need this now.

redbluepie · 2022-10-14T20:01:59+00:00

Handling emotions, access to mental health treatment or at least a friendly ear stack things against men.

But also unintended complacency. The world has changed and some men are not ready for the shift. While women have continued to pursue settling down with a partner, they also embrace living independently out of choice , some men continue to place their whole life on being a provider for a woman, that contentment in other things are put on the back burner. Less women to go round and then theyre stuck.

ObjectiveCow59 · 2022-10-14T20:14:04+00:00

The men who have lots of women interested are happy being single, arguably more happy than the women all chasing after those few (often rich) men.

JumboJetz · 2022-10-14T20:53:13+00:00

You can’t measure happiness. People post this stat because women on Reddit get very pissed off at men on Reddit (sometimes for good reason) and there’s this “study” to pretend it’s an objective truth that women are better off without men.

Other studies have shown women are way happier being homemakers but no one posts that study.

It’s also true that if I polled heroin users who just injected they’d be happier than anyone but it hardly means heroin use is sustainable happiness.

Snekky3 · 2022-10-14T23:10:35+00:00

Women have closer relationships with friends and family. A lot of us are also not particularly interested in sex.

14ers4days · 2022-10-15T01:50:34+00:00

Men and children decrease our quality of life so much that going without them is shedding a massive burden. For one thing single women make a lot more money.

For men it's the opposite.

Opening_Pattern_301 · 2022-10-14T19:17:40+00:00

>Single women are actually encouraged and called strong and independantso they got support from society while single men (especially virginmen) are shamed and called names such as 'misogynist', 'creep', 'incel','weirdo'...etc. (My thoughts are that virgin shaming is what leadsthese men to become misogynists).

Sums up the main reason pretty much, if men werent raised to believe they need validation from women this issue would be non existent

modidlee · 2022-10-14T19:28:50+00:00

Because single women know they can snap their finger and get a man for sex or companionship whenever they want. Single men have to actually put in work and go out there and make that happen if they want it. It’s similar to how a millionaire isn’t pressed about buying a foreign sports car. Because he can get one whenever he wants. But the guy that has to work for $25/hr dreams and fantasizes about that foreign sports car because it isn’t readily available at his fingertips. He’s almost obsessed with the thought of it because it seems like it’s impossible to get.

andrejusilva123 · 2022-10-14T18:21:26+00:00

Both of the links mention Paul Dolan which have been debunked already https://www.vox.com/future-perfect/2019/6/4/18650969/married-women-miserable-fake-paul-dolan-happiness

BruddaMSK · 2022-10-14T19:17:17+00:00

Because for a woman being with the 'wrong' man is much worse than staying single whereas men just want someone. This simple fact is the source of everything dating market related.

pan3639 · 2022-10-14T19:22:26+00:00

5 . Single women are still hooking up with someone.

cowfishAreReal · 2022-10-14T18:45:41+00:00

Women have closer friendships with other women than men do with other men

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/happiness-is-state-mind/202112/exploring-the-differences-between-male-and-female-friendships

Women get a lot of their emotional needs met by friendships, you can't feel lonely if you share most of your life with someone else. Men on the other hand tend to be closed of from their male friends so they can't fulfill the same needs

Flightlessbirbz · 2022-10-14T21:00:44+00:00

I would guess it has to do with more social interactions and closer ties to friends and family.

Also, men benefit more in relationships past the early stages. Women can get tired and disillusioned after having to care for men and not getting a whole lot in return.

LTBR1955 · 2022-10-14T22:11:02+00:00

Just from teading the title i feel like the obvious answer is sexual frustration is a bitch .

2022-10-14T23:44:41+00:00

They have more community in terms of friends etc etc

social_mule · 2022-10-15T02:44:30+00:00

Idk if this has been asked before

Only a couple hundred times but who's counting?

SaltoDaKid · 2022-10-15T05:30:54+00:00

Single women are more cared for then single men, also more loved unconditionally by family members, also can find mate much faster then men. I had so much experience with family members, friends, and even myself. Most men don’t choose be alone. But I seen girl complain being alone (for a second) just for infinity people reach out with concerns. Not saying women don’t go through hard time alone, but men single life is huge struggle don’t even in same category with single women

WilliamWyattD · 2022-10-15T06:01:40+00:00

I take these studies with a whole heap of salt. Nevertheless, my conjecture is that it is not about the lack of a relationship per se. In fact, I think not having a romantic relationship and children probably causes more unhappiness to women than to men if we are talking strictly about these two things.

But men often have relied on their wives and families to tie them to a community. The wife often curates the social circle they do have. And older men without families are often viewed more suspiciously by outsiders as more dangerous than their female equivalents. So it is all the things that in current society tended to be correlated with a man being unattached when he is older: a general lack of society and community, few close relationships, little physical intimacy, etc.

I think if you compared say 50+ year old men and women who had equivalent levels of community, sexual intimacy, friendships, etc. but were without a romantic relationship and children, the women would be unhappier.

HazyMemory7 · 2022-10-15T05:08:12+00:00

Because we live in a gynocentric society that demonizes men at every turn and treats them as disposable.

Can you imagine if gilette released a commercial painting all women as sexual abusers like they did to men? Or if a man admitted he drugged and robbed women like cardi B? I don't see anybody de-platforming her. Wheres that same energy women were showing to Andrew Tate?

A small number of deranged lunatics commit violence and then people demonize all men for it. It is socially acceptable to vilify and demonize men.

jj24pie · 2022-10-14T17:58:37+00:00

It's hilarious how The Red Pill and the Manosphere go to such pains to try and sell the idea that women will all be depressed and bitter cat ladies if they don't give the "average man" a chance and settle down, when study after study is showing women are happiest and most successful financially single.

Supreme_Salt_Lord · 2022-10-14T19:12:37+00:00

Women have better support groups than men. Participate in more fulfilling hobbies. They pursue higher education goals they find fulfilling. Everything a single woman does is for her fulfillment. I suggest men learn to do the same. Thats why they do better single than men.

Warm_Gur8832 · 2022-10-14T18:23:30+00:00

Woman-woman friendships contain more love (or at least emotional support) than guy-guy friendships, which leaves men much more reliant on romantic relationships for all emotional support.

(Unless the guys in question are gay.)

AstronautLoveShack · 2022-10-14T18:04:30+00:00

Men marry for free housekeeping. Women don’t marry because they don’t want to provide free housekeeping.

Lookingforlove1997 · 2022-10-14T20:27:24+00:00

Being single and child free is a positive for their earnings and free time. For men it’s not a huge difference either way. Having more time to do whatever you want and more disposable income would make almost anyone happy.

belladonnaisjesus · 2022-10-14T22:16:12+00:00

Because they get attention from players and men trying to get them into a relationship with everything in between. She just has to worry about her career and let tinder/IG/SC/Hinge do the hard work. If she gets premium and works on her account and body then the sky is the limit.

baroque_obamna · 2022-10-14T22:27:50+00:00

for the same reason a middle class person with a 5 bedroom house and 2 cars who goes 'glamping' in yellowstone park is "happy" but the person sleeping in an abandoned shack in the woods with nowhere else to go is not.

TheEyeOfInfinity · 2022-10-14T22:59:21+00:00

I'm sure it's men's fault, somehow

neetykeeno · 2022-10-15T03:07:51+00:00

Well a lot of it is that as a woman, society has less expectations that you win and more expectations that you exist in a certain form. You might for example be expected to be nicely built, pretty, stereotypically feminine...but if you aren't one of these things you get punished directly for not being that thing...not for having failed to get an appropriate man you actually like.

So we start being punished at puberty. And somewhere along the line we connect the thing we are being punished for directly to the lowered prospects we face and eh whatever we've hurt as much as we're ever gonna we've cried ourselves dry.

I think it is one of the reasons we are so aghast at below average men's shocked and surprised outrage as fully grown adults over not getting the outcomes they want because they are short, bald and socially inept. I mean duh, of course being the unwanted thing is y'know, unwanted...why is it such a surprise to you...oh it is because until this point you haven't been shat on by your entire peer group merely for being...you got an extra almost ten years of not being particularly tormented then only found out after multiple polite rejections. Cry me a river, guys, cry me a river for every preteen and teen girl who has contemplated suicide because she's the ugly, inept one.

https://youtu.be/VMUz2TNMvL0

HimNeutron · 2022-10-15T03:57:08+00:00

These single women still have romantic/intimate and social lives while the men at most have friends.

lostbutokay · 2022-10-15T04:56:28+00:00

And single women and feminist still try hard to become men, dress like men, have same ambition as men, talk like men , join mens clubs and recreational activities group, etc. So which one is it? If women are happy then why they want to become men?

The answer is that they are not happy. Women are hat trying to show to the world that they are happy. Like a narcissist on instagram.

Silver_Switch_3109 · 2022-10-15T11:53:18+00:00

Most single women have large friend groups, most single men have no one.

throwaway_kcal · 2022-10-15T13:08:12+00:00

Women are privileged ¯⁠\⁠_⁠(⁠ツ⁠)⁠_⁠/⁠¯ Women can get fwb, effortless sex any time they want. They generally have larger social circles. Nobody in turn is interested in the single male, his sex drive is miles higher, his social circles are narrower, his love life before was probably less active as well (again, while having much higher need for intimacy).

But muh statistics show that men are having sex

Drastically less, and 1 in a year still counts, also the ones who have to pay for it because the majority of the sex buyers are male.

the-lone-squid · 2022-10-15T15:42:32+00:00

Allot of “single men” include divorced men who lost their kids, wife, house, etc..

And since average men struggle with casual hookups after a certain age It’s really a double whammy.

PM_Happy_Puppy_Pics · 2022-10-14T18:46:23+00:00

I disagree, women are never happy.

KayRay1994 · 2022-10-14T18:10:20+00:00

part abundance mentality, part being less driven testosterone, part social liberation (seeing that women were far more pressured to be in a relationship in the past), and part being more in-tuned with themselves emotionally - there is also less of a need to impress other women by having a man

Lord_Thanos · 2022-10-14T20:52:56+00:00

This is obvious. It is because 99.9% of men have no purpose other than women. I’ve seen a few comments on here which I thought were a joke but I expect to much of people. Anyways the comments were from males along the lines of “I want to pass to pass my genes on.” So I was right about majority of people being chimps. But again as I’ve said that’s good. There needs to be “slaves” so that the few competent people make all the progress.

icefire54 · 2022-10-15T01:13:29+00:00

Because men love women more than women love men. Simple as.

Willow-girl · 2022-10-15T13:09:10+00:00

The single women don't have to clean up after a man.

The single men don't have a woman to clean up after them.

kinhk · 2022-10-14T22:30:36+00:00

Idk if single women are happier. I think it's an age thing. Up until about 35 I agree. But Ive never seen a woman post 35 who was happy about being single.

Such_Substance_320 · 2022-10-14T23:19:21+00:00

If those statistics are true please answer why are so many more women on antidepressants?? Surely all the women taking these medications aren’t all in some sort of relationship

InfamousBake1859 · 2022-10-14T20:14:11+00:00

Can we stop propagating that virgin men are hated? Virgin men aren’t. Incels? Maybe.

GloryToChadlantis · 2022-10-14T19:00:42+00:00

Really think this depends on the age range.

30 year old single girls seem really unhappy. But 20 year olds are happy as fuck

100percentmaness · 2022-10-14T20:04:04+00:00

Because they arent actually “single”. They just say that in the surveys

gymbro718NYC · 2022-10-15T02:18:46+00:00

Men can't stand spending time with themselves but expect that some woman will want to spend time with them? It's like saying "My dick is so gross even I wouldn't touch it, but wouldn't it be nice to get a woman to suck it".

Specific-Tough5411 · 2022-10-15T01:23:38+00:00

I’m hesitant to comment this here because I know the audience and the vile comments I’ll have to endure, but here it goes. God said it wasn’t good for men to be alone. That’s why women were created. Men are supposed to love, cherish and protect women, but that has been perverted. Women needed men in the past for financial support and protection. Women can be perfectly fine alone today. We can earn our own money and the world isn’t so dangerous that it would drive us to tolerate a man who wasn’t up to our standards. If men want women, they are available at every age, but the ones worth having require men who are worth having. I see the woe-is-me posts on here and I can put my finger on why most of these men have problems.

2022-10-15T12:14:51+00:00

Men who don’t experience romantic relationships are not average men. Men who are called creeps misogynists etc are called that way for a reason.

NationalistGoy · 2022-10-14T18:23:29+00:00

It's a relative thing.

Young men have it more difficult than young women, hence they are more unnhappy. But mature men tend to be more happy than mature women.

ashleyrose56 · 2022-10-15T05:47:14+00:00

Most women don't need a man. They don't need it, so why would someone be unhappy to not have something they don't need? They do want them, but if they don't meet anyone that meets their standards they are happy being single. Whereas men do need women for sex and emotional support, since they don't have the opportunity to have those on a regular basis outside of a LTR.

Since women at this day and age provide for themselves, the only thing that made men indispensable is no longer a thing. A single woman can have a happy fulfilling life. A single man can't.

Men themselves should work on making men needed in women's lives again. Most men are too immature to even be a great source of emotional support. So, if men don't provide, don't offer good emotional support (and sometimes, they don't even provide great sex), wtf do women need you for?

Acceptable-Change204 · 2022-10-15T16:10:42+00:00

Statistics are only as good as the sample group, often not a good representation.
I’m an older single male that spent 19 years of my life married and trying to stay married. But once I was tossed, against my will, into the single life, I quickly discovered the ‘gift’ of being single. The biggest challenge is accepting‘singleness’ as a positive option that can make you so much happier and content …

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hungrychick404 · 2022-10-14T19:33:23+00:00

I just think that sometimes being a working mom can suck more sometimes than being a single childless woman. I don’t know how it wouldn’t be exhausting even in a two parent household to have to both work full time and take care of a bunch of kids with how expensive and underfunded childcare is.

Also the article debunking the study brought up that women who are getting stepped out by their partners add to a lot of the gap in happiness between single and married women. But that is one part of being married: sometimes your partner cheats on you, mistreats you, or abuses you, and I don’t have to worry about a romantic partner doing that because I’m single. I haven’t been married, but I’ve dated a guy who was a cheater, and my mental health has been a lot better since we broke up (though it dipped down for a bit right after the discovery of him DMing women the second time and subsequent breakup). I get hit on when I was both in a relationship and now when I’m single, but when I was in a relationship, my self confidence was affected a lot by how my bf saw me, but now I can get self confidence from other things than my beauty because I don’t have to worry about comparing myself to the women in his life he may potentially cheat on me with

Immoral_devil · 2022-10-14T19:37:12+00:00

It’s because for women being single is a choice. They are happy being single because they know whenever they want a relationship they can get it at the drop of a hat

domdomdom333 · 2022-10-14T19:41:58+00:00

More romantic experience, social encouragement, more maturity might be ovjective fact but even if it is, it's not as impactful as most other research.

If I remember most studies the general consensus is that women have far more general friend and aquaintaince circles with whom to keep in touch, not neceserily even meaningful or deep relations. Where as men at best have a the odd amount of life long friends, usually close to none or one by the time they hit 30+.

Men are also a lot more willing to give up everything in life just to chase bread, which leaves even less time for self care let alone interaction with other people. This sense of community that many men lack is what women have far more of and what keeps their minds healthy, and a healthy mind is a healthy life.

Only way to get single men back up to the same level of healthy mindset and relation to a community is not only less stigma for being part of a local community but simply more communites where single men can be welcomed if they do their part.

jayda92 · 2022-10-14T20:34:36+00:00

I do think single women are happier because they instantly dropped or lost a lot of heavy weight. You can spot it also: first we're sad, and rapidly you will see us change our hair, our clothes, drop literal weight, rekindle and look for support from friendships. The more time passes, the more of ourself we can become again. There is never a lack of attention, whether you're in a relationship or not. You only have to cook and clean for yourself; much more fulfilling than doing that for someone you're no longer happy with.

With men, you see the opposite. The more time passes, the more they change into a shell of the man they once were. Sometimes for a very long time, they pull back. They cut contact with others, have to take care of themselves again. It's a harsh reality.

Most Women experience at least one romantic relationship in their lives while some men are unable to experience such things in their lives (which means women already know how it feels like to be loved by another individual while some men don't).

I have yet to meet a man who put work in, and didn't succeed.

Single women are actually encouraged and called strong and independant so they got support from society while single men (especially virgin men) are shamed and called names such as 'misogynist', 'creep', 'incel', 'weirdo'...etc. (My thoughts are that virgin shaming is what leads these men to become misogynists).

That's not true. The times I broke up with guys I was shamed and pressured by almost everyone around me. Even insulted for breaking up simply because I was unhappy. Treathened by some sort of timetable/clock I did not even feel. Mostly by men and older women; more so than my male friends.

Women are actually more emotionally mature and handle life better than men.

I don't think so, I think we are tolerated less from an early age on. And there are more expectations for women; so we are forced into maturity earlier or fake it till we make it.

Maybe men are depressed and commit suicide for other reasons (keep in mind that those suicide studies don't exclude men who are in a relationship).

While when we look at single men, they either become depressed and bitter to the point of commiting suicide or cause serious harm to others as well

I think it has more to do with socialization; women are taught to take care of others, life for others and sacrifice for others. Suicide is a very selfish act.

Ramzabeo · 2022-10-15T00:08:20+00:00

I havent any studies or anything but my guess would be because women even if single know they can get a relationship if not at least casual sex if they really wanted to.

Most men probably dont have that chance so they end up having negative emotions or thoughts.

I was happy as hell when single tho so who knows?

LetMeSleepNoEleven · 2022-10-15T00:24:40+00:00

I think because the standard of marriage in the cultures where those studies were done was built around women facilitating the lives of men, and the lingering effects from that are that girls/women are better taught how to manage life than boys/men, so they are more able to manage their own lives as single people than are men.

travellingryan · 2022-10-15T01:24:37+00:00

I'd say they're equally as miserable. Happiness while not in a relationship is an excuse for self-loathing. Humans need relationships and connections with other humans. It's in our biology to mate.

Ass-a-holic · 2022-10-15T06:02:54+00:00

This same thread is posted a lot, as much as how creepy it’s for older guys to desire younger females.

We get it ; females live life on Uber-recruit mode so they r happy under any circumstance and that guys that can’t get pussy turn into complete psychos or suicidal lol, which is absurd

Powerful-Poem6051 · 2022-10-15T12:47:12+00:00

Single women 30+ are the largest demographic for anti depressants

RegTextoffender · 2022-10-15T12:59:20+00:00

Just last week I posted articles showing single women die sooner and are less healthy than married ones.

I'm too lazy to relook as no one pays attention to anything there anyways.

Added how does one define happiness? Hawaii is often stated as "the happiest" state in the US. I've been to Hawaii many times, its not especially happy or idyllic. Another one had Alaska as number one which shocked me but they added one thing to the "happiness" scale which is a sense of purpose, which is big in Alaska probably because its still very frontier like. I recall one UN study which had the US pretty low on the happiness scale. Like you gotta be kidding me low. Turns out they had happiness metrics like "universal health care" and that would be assuming that universal care just makes everyone happier by default, and took a lot of questionable data from countries (like Egypt who reported zero rapes) as true.

From what I've seen single women are not happier and get less and less happy as they get older and single, most get desperate to marry even after they have given up on kids. They are if anything pressured by feminist thought to project as happy to justify their life choices. Ask a single woman at 30 who has a OK career, a FWB, and no kids she might be gushing about how happy she is "of course I'm happy!" but at 50 when she's got nothing and her life is pretty much what it is, happiness is a desperate wine fueled quest.

(added most of those 30 year olds I knew eventually got married, usually to a guy who wasn't very good with women so he was single at those ages too and give up getting fat together, its quite odd)

Hell other studies on this sub have talked about the paradox that women are less happy now than in the 1960's despite more access to high paying jobs and the like. Men have stayed about the same.

Mothra3 · 2022-10-15T14:24:39+00:00

Maybe it’s having good friends, you guys need to be there for each other more

Hoopy223 · 2022-10-15T15:20:49+00:00

I’ve read studies going both ways (IE men are happier single).

We are being sold this idea that working hard, making money and buying stuff is the route to happiness. Family and friends are at the bottom (don’t get married til your 30! Work on your career!).

In order for that narrative to work you also have to convince people that they are happier without friends and family.

SupremacyPlays · 2022-10-15T23:52:30+00:00

Women single by choice, opposite of incels

SincereJustice · 2022-10-16T01:05:56+00:00

I don’t believe they are. That’s why they eventually settle

2022-10-16T14:04:50+00:00

I've noticed attractive women can get jobs higher up PayScale wise compared to males and thus can afford to go out more. There is simply more opportunity for them.

failureasaman554 · 2022-10-16T14:47:25+00:00

When women are single, it’s usually by choice

Banestar66 · 2022-10-16T16:43:57+00:00

Probably because being a mother is a lot of work. I’d be interested to see the comparison with childless married women.

2022-10-16T20:40:34+00:00

No reasons are that relationships and families place a lot of responsibility and work onto women. As soon as a women move in with their partner their work often doubles, and if children come along even more so. That leads to women neglecting and loosing friends, getting more and more isolated.

Ankarette · 2022-10-16T22:25:05+00:00

As a 28F I have been single my entire life, never even been on one date, kissed or had sex with anyone. I can say most of the anguish I experience is from society’s expectations of me making me feel less than because I’m single. Especially on Reddit where apparently all women have sex on tap and any who says otherwise is a liar. I’m pretty content, I don’t think I’m even ready for a relationship and if it happens (unlikely) then it happens.

dumbbitchcas · 2022-10-17T02:21:24+00:00

Because relationships for women mean • unappreciated emotional labor • unappreciated domestic labor • general emotional distress • higher likelihood of abuse.

Men treat the women they’re in relationships like shit. Most men don’t want to be in relationships, they want a “bang maid” as frank Reynolds put it. So they treat their partners like shit.

andrewsthnsw · 2022-10-21T20:36:00+00:00

You are kidding, have a look on tictoc & count the women whining about being single, unable to get the guy they deserve, guys not wanting to get into a relationship with them. Listening to them makes me happy I'm single.

IOportA · 2022-10-22T17:53:55+00:00

Women are far more likely to lie about their lack of happiness in order to protect their ego.

If a woman was to admit that she was lonely and desperately single and it was because she isn't desirable to men, she would sink into a very deep depression.

Instead, they lie and say they're living their best life.

Dry-Ad2372 · 2022-12-26T03:37:18+00:00

Women don't need men or love men. They can survive with other females,they have hobbies, pets,and money. Women can take care of themselves very well. Women can get sex whenever they want ,even once they are old. They will always be someone willing to bang her. So the women should stay single as it benefits them more. Naturally women were supposed to remain single. Being married limits women allot and this is why women are much happier single. They can get all thier needs met and not commit. Men on the other hand almost rely on women, they let their penises take over, and need someone to mommy them. Men have been brainwashed to believe the grass is always greener. So they are never satisfied with what they have , single men are lonely because they seek validation from others. Single women don't. Most men once they grow old are in for a shocker. This is also why they hate single women and call them cat ladies.

shabangcohen · 2023-01-10T15:49:25+00:00

No offense but 1,2, and 4 (maybe also 3 but idk) are such terrible takes.

How would it even be possible for straight women to have on average more relationships than men? Also, women are waaayyyy more shamed for being single.

I think women have an easier time finding casual sex and a way harder time finding an actual relationship.

Title	Why single women are happier compared to single men ??
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