Men, would you deny you're attracted to the following qualities?

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Intelligence, charisma, humour, shared interests, being fun, being interesting, ambition, strength of character, mannerisms and behaviour? Would you DENY that those things are attractive in women when they display versions of those things compatible to you?

Of course you do. Men DO find personality attractive in women, they DO find qualities that aren't skin deep attractive in women. In fact, those things can make a woman who isn't actually physically attractive to you to start with attractive enough to date....(if this isn't true then you're admitting to being superficial, which is fair, if that's true then own it and stop hypocritically calling out women for being shallow)

But you're also very attracted to physically attractive women. In fact, you could argue it's initially the most attractive aspect of a woman. And you find a lot of women physically attractive, at least a handful each day when you're out and about...

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Now women's attraction is EXACTLY the same. They are as attracted to looks as men. They are also attracted to the personalities of men, especially when they have those qualities above.

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The only difference is they simply find far less men physically attractive, so they're literally almost forced to make most of their dating choices off of personality. Men think women's attraction is different, it's not, it's the same. It's just there's a whole lot less attractive men, physically, so we mostly see examples of women being attracted to other things, and assume because the majority of the time women are with their partners based on those other qualities, that THAT's how female attraction works, but it's not, it's just what we see most of because the physical attraction is much rarer, but it's definitely there.

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To flip it on it's head, if you as a man were thrust into a society with mostly unattractive women, and the odd pretty one, women would begin to thing male attraction is based on personality and status, not looks, because most of the time you're dating unattractive women who have attractive personalities but in reality its simply because that's the only option there is (but you still fantasise and stare at the very few attractive women walking around, and would date them if you could)

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TLDR; Women find less men physically attractive so the examples of attraction men see in women are mostly based on personality or status etc, not looks, but it's not because women's attraction to looks isn't as strong or takes as high a priority as mens, it's simply because it's rarer because physically attractive men are much rarer