Women are often harsher, ruder, more dismissive, and more uncaring to male strangers than the other way around

Brave_Eye6001 · 2022-10-24T05:15:15+00:00

Being nice to men makes you a target. Ask any woman how many times she’s been sexually assaulted. I took a surfing class through Air Bnb just last week and the guy tried to kiss me and was touching me. Very uncomfortable and scary.

I stayed at my exes house a month ago after my dog died and woke up to him touching me without my consent. I can think of countless instances where men have tried to or have touch(ed) my genitals because I was polite to them. They’ve humiliated and objectified me my entire life. I can think of 3 instances where I was almost raped.

Once held down while they tried to strip off my pants I was 13 he was 18. I was 12 when an acquaintance stuck his hand down my pants and started touching my vagina I screamed and my cousin got him off of me. I was 15 when my sister’s boyfriend’s father late 40s cornered me and tried touching me and kissing me. I was 16 when my ex boyfriend raped me. I was 18 when my manager grabbed my ass and cornered me at work.

Imagine just having a good time and smiling because you’re happy and someone tries to touch you sexually or rape you. That’s what it feels like. I cried last week because I feel like I have to walk around with a guard up around men, it makes me so sad and frustrated. I’m 27 now and I can count at least 20 times where I’ve been assaulted. Shame on you.

CrackedAnus · 2022-10-23T14:35:39+00:00

I’m a fairly harsh critic of the opposite gender, however they get a pass on this one.

Men see politeness from women as interest. Ask any cashier or waitress.. just being “customer service nice” gets you hit on by clueless guys.

Imagine if every guy you were polite to wanted to have gay sex with you. You would stop being polite REAL fast.

The9thElement · 2022-10-23T15:59:42+00:00

Because being nice to random strange men often gets misinterpreted and opens you up to harassment

Steakman1 · 2022-10-23T13:45:11+00:00

I get why women feel like they have to be more cautious around men who are strangers. I think it’s pretty undeniable that men overall are stronger than women. I mean if some body builder dude approached me without even like smiling and looking all serious, I would probably be a little on edge even if his intentions later show to be good. I won’t deny that there’s some women who have huge egos and are insulted by the audacity of a guy they don’t deem attractive approaching them. But I don’t think that’s most.

Also if a woman overall has had bad experiences with men, she’s probably going to have an overall negative view of men. It’s like how a lot of men who find TRP find it after having negative experiences with women. I mean I personally found it after getting cheated on with the guy she told me not to worry about. Luckily I never got sucked into it.

Edit: Others pointed out how men can often interpret politeness from a woman as her being attracted. Which I think is also a good point.

AstronautLoveShack · 2022-10-23T14:49:46+00:00

Men approach women in the hopes of gaining sexual access. Women become conditioned to this at a very young age (~12 years old or even younger). As a child this male behavior can be intimidating or even frightening. It threatens our personal safety at worst and is an annoyance at best. Some women internalize that childhood fear and set up walls for all but the men they are into. And other women just know that's the easiest way to get those men to leave us alone.

eth_trader_12 · 2022-10-23T15:00:14+00:00

Kindness is the luxury of those who feel safe.

If you try approach and pet a street cat, that thing will hiss and scratch at you like the world is ending.

If you approach and pet a house cat, it will purr.

Katelyn89 · 2022-10-23T16:04:35+00:00

I live in a North African country where street harassment is a daily, and I mean literally daily, occurrence. If I even look at men or make slight eye contact, they will follow and yell at me or physically assault and grab me.

If men as a whole took rejection well or let women exist without expecting or demanding their attention and more, this wouldn't be an issue.

If I'm anything less than a steel-eyed bitch 100% of the time, odds are massively increased that some dude is going to grab my ass or follow me home. And I'm not even hot.

Women are more dismissive because we have to be.

Cat_Lover259 · 2022-10-23T15:32:24+00:00

Well it’s been the exact opposite in my experience. When I was on dating apps the men I matched with were super pushy in trying to get me to come to their place or go on a date as soon as we started chatting. This always gave me a bad vibe so I politely rejected them and they usually went off the rails. Cussing, calling me names, all that jazz when I would usually just say “I’m not feeling it anymore, take care.” I matched with women too since I’m bi and they were relatively nicer but would ghost more frequently. I know I’m not a man but I feel like my experience is relevant as well.

MyLastBestChance · 2022-10-23T14:01:11+00:00

There are men who will interpret anything short of a complete shut down as being a sign of encouragement and interest. Some women who have experienced that and / or are sick and tired of being approached by strangers who have a clear agenda (sex) have learned that an unambiguously cold response is necessary.

In other cases, some people are just rude to everyone 🤷‍♀️.

entrepreneurkslay13 · 2022-10-23T19:42:44+00:00

Being too friendly to men sends mixed messages

NakedStreets · 2022-10-23T14:46:46+00:00

I think women are as open and friendly to being approached by a male stranger as men are.

Men are just as wary and cautious when approached by a male stranger.

Everyone is aware than men have a greater capacity to cause harm, and acts accordingly.

throwaway_72752 · 2022-10-23T21:12:43+00:00

I do not owe a stranger my attention for a single second because they found me attractive. If a stranger approaches me without a reason, I shut it down immediately.

Best_Illustrator_137 · 2022-10-23T13:54:22+00:00

I mean can you blame em? Men are physically stronger and do far more crime to women then the other way around so it would make sense that women constantly have their guard up near strangers. It sucks but the less attractive the more you are perceived as a creep and in turn disgusting to women..I don’t think it’s unjustified but I will say when it comes so social interaction I have seen a lot of women being more nasty to both men and women then the other way around.

AquaChip · 2022-10-23T14:01:35+00:00

Yes. Most male strangers are invisible but so are most female strangers. Why would I care about a male stranger beyond me holding the door open if he’s behind me or holding the elevator for him?

Do you genuinely care about every female stranger you meet? Even the ones you find physically unattractive?

BigZaddyZ3 · 2022-10-23T14:06:51+00:00

This is at least partially due to the fact that most men are delusional and bluepilled asf. So they interpret the slightest bit of kindness/politeness from a woman as sexual interest.

Most women adapt to this by being dry as possible with male strangers. Unfortunately this creates a loop where whenever a young woman does decide to be warm and friendly to a stranger, he will incorrectly interpret it as interest. Then the cycle starts all over again…

luvMaxWane_or_AlGawd · 2022-10-23T14:18:39+00:00

Often people, men and women , don't feel the need to be open and friendly with some random stranger that happens to want a conversation with them. A lot of times women are considered rude because they don't want to engage and state that immediately and succinctly. It happens with men ,with women with everyone sometimes. People are allowed to be dismissive and indifferent when they don't want to bother with having to be careful with someone they didn't know nor have given any indication that they wanted to do so.

Elegant-Historian961 · 2022-10-23T14:48:53+00:00

The reason some women are rude and harsh to a random stranger may also be to keep creeps away. You know, look like a rude person who can get aggressive and fight, so you are not a victim.... this strategy is even taught in self defence training...tbh

KingOnixTheThird · 2022-10-23T21:00:53+00:00

I think one reason is because adult men are seen as more of a physical/sexual threat than women are. Because of that, some women will put up a "wall" around men, meaning they act cold, rude, standoffish to men who they don't know. This is something that I have experienced a lot and it's definitely a thing.

MyLastBestChance · 2022-10-23T20:51:08+00:00

Consider this real life scenario:

Standing in line in the grocery store. Old woman in front of you starts pulling out handfuls of expired coupons from a different grocery store for things she isn’t even buying. After a few minutes you glance around and the guy behind you is giving you the “FFS can’t we just GIVE her the $0.45?” eye roll. You both smile and shrug and life goes on. A few minutes later you’re putting groceries in your car and line eye roll guy walks up offering to help. You say “Oh, thanks but I’ve got it” and finish up. He’s still standing there and starts trying to make conversation, you say, “Well, thanks again, I really need to get going”, he steps between you and your car door and asks if you’d like to get a coffee sometime. You say “No thank you. I’m married and I really do need to get going.” He gets that look and says “Hey, I just asked you to go for coffee, not to Hawaii, c’mon, what do you say?”. “I said no thank you, now can you please move, I really need to pick my kids up at school”. “Fine! BITCH”. Bangs the hood of your car with both hands and stomps away.

Was that a “dangerous” situation? Not really. Daylight, busy parking lot, plenty of people around. Was is unpleasant, uncomfortable, intimidating and completely uninvited? Absolutely. But he felt entitled based on 2 seconds of eye contact and a smile.

This is not an extreme example AT ALL. Women know this.

Maybe most men wouldn’t do this. Men who wouldn’t act this way don’t understand how common it is. Unfortunately the ones who do behave this way do not have signs on their foreheads so that we can tell who they are.

If you really don’t understand why women will avoid interacting or seem rude to strangers or avoid eye contact with strangers , talk to your mothers, sisters, cousins, I guarantee they have the same kind of experiences and sometimes much much worse.

GoldSignal · 2022-10-23T16:31:53+00:00

This comes across as OP complaining that female strangers won't be friendly/warm to him. Spolier alert, women don't owe you their time or attention, especially when they perceive you as a threat.

Oli_love90 · 2022-10-23T16:24:34+00:00

Are you incredible sympathetic to strangers? At most people are mildly nice or dismissive. Strangers don’t exist to anyone unless you live in a small town and “tip your hat” to every face. This kind of feels like you’re expecting a level of care that strangers have no obligation to have for you.

Anyway, You’re not acknowledging that a lot of women have had weird experiences Interacting with men. That is what elicits these negative responses. As humans prior experiences manifest all types of unusual responses. Some women will be mean, standoffish, overly polite because that’s how they protect themselves.

howdoiw0rkthisthing · 2022-10-23T16:53:11+00:00

most male strangers practically don’t exist in many women’s minds and this is simply the truth (lol)

Of course strangers are basically invisible to people, they’re strangers. Do you go up to every person you see on the street and say hi? Do you ponder the personal life of every person you pass in a crowd? Maybe these seem like dumb questions but I’m curious. If men really do have more empathy for women they’ve never met than women have for men they’ve never met, I have to assume it’s rooted just as much in men’s sexual or protective instincts as it is in women’s inclination toward disgust.

bunnakay · 2022-10-23T15:42:03+00:00

Wanting to fuck someone does not mean you care about them.

Apprehensive_Cut_146 · 2022-10-23T16:12:28+00:00

And why wouldn't we be? If anything happens to us, same men will be accuzing US for not being careful enough.

hear4comments · 2022-10-23T14:24:33+00:00

Sometimes you’re dude number 10 who’s approached a girl and her politely say no meter is empty. Is it fair that dude number 10 gets the mean shut down? No, but it is what it is.

vertr · 2022-10-24T00:11:54+00:00

OP's actual argument: women should accept more emotional and physical risk in dating interactions because failed propositions hurt men's feelings too much.

hungrychick404 · 2022-10-23T19:45:54+00:00

My friend gave a small smile back to a man at the club this weekend and then he wouldn’t leave her alone or stop touching her even after we were yelling at him to go away. I used to be a lot more openly sweet of a person, but it gets scary sometimes when men think that your kindness is attraction towards them.

Ok_Razzmatazz_1751 · 2022-10-23T23:06:53+00:00

Don't know about other women, but I know my personal experiences have been that being nice in real life to just whomever gets unwanted attention from people who you are not into at all. I've had this experience numerous times and still deal with it due to dealing with the public.

Why would you be empathetic towards complete strangers who you don't know, Having compassion for a situation is different but putting yourself into a position of being open to strangers is asking for trouble in my opinion, nothing wrong with boundaries Nothing wrong with being cautious, and wary of strangers. Infact we all are taught this from a young age to be wary of strangers. Starting in elementary school.

shockedpikachu123 · 2022-10-24T02:29:45+00:00

There’s really nothing for women to gain by being polite to strange men unless it’s her safety

Arrathall · 2022-10-25T11:01:37+00:00

Solution: Be ruder to women. If they are rude, be rude back.

medlabunicorn · 2022-10-23T16:00:53+00:00

I am WAY bitchier now than I used to be, after having men take even shreds of common courtesy as come-ons.

AcanthocephalaNew947 · 2022-10-23T17:42:32+00:00

Women don’t want to be approached by desperate unattractive men. Color me shocked.

Pilling_it · 2022-10-23T14:59:58+00:00

I mean, maybe ?

But let's be real, people can't be bothered to care about most of their neighbors, it's not weird they would be uncaring towards strangers.

Which is different from being rude, even if it's not a rare association.

The_Entertainer217 · 2022-10-23T16:25:41+00:00

Maybe it’s just where I live or how I approach people in general, but I’m a man and I almost never have women react this way if I talk to them.

a_popful_mail · 2022-10-23T16:50:10+00:00

I think there is a pretty big aspect not considered really here, maybe overlooked by accident or not. This doesn't really account for how women are affected by the far more frequent amounts of unwanted attention they receive. Say, even if it was just once, by a man who forced himself into her life first with kindness and then becomes hostile and violent when she refuses his advance. This can be said of both men and women who have dealt with even something like that, to as far as dealing with the aftermath of sexual assault or outright rape.. its usually a response of both disgust and fear, harshness and rudeness is a weapon to pretty much immediately shutdown someone who approaches you when you know any other possible outcome could end pretty bad for you. You may note someone who hasn't dealt with those things is generally a lot less worried and guarded and hostile on first introductions than someone who has been hurt through them would be. Makes sense, no? This, of course, isn't universally the reason. But with how many women over men get effected by this aspect of socialization, I can't imagine it doesn't play quite a large role. Especially having experienced it.

As for the work related thing, it seems odd to just delegate shitty behaviour to just women. Men in the work place can be awful to each other and their employees. Look at the people on top, often men, who always fuck over their employees or try to hurt them. Bezos is a good example that is widely known. Heck look at antiwork or amitheasshole and you'll see plenty of that over time. Men and women at work being entitled and hostile and awful.

ClaraBow01 · 2022-10-23T19:45:43+00:00

How are those male strangers behaving?

SoIlikeMangos · 2022-10-23T20:27:10+00:00

Because being nice to male strangers makes you more vulnerable

kingpinkatya · 2022-10-24T05:02:13+00:00

Women get approached by men a lot more than men get approached by women.

So yeah, we're tired. And no one owes you niceness. You are not entitled to nice interactions from anybody, esp if you are interrupting their day.

Men interrupt women's days a lot more than women interrupt men's days.

neetykeeno · 2022-10-23T15:58:30+00:00

Yeah whatever.

If men aren't whining about us being too honest for their sensitive feelings they are whining about us sugar coating the truth so much that the insensitive perceptions of autists can't work out what is going on. To paraphrase Ricky Nelson, women can't please everyone so they might as well please themselves. There's always gonna be some guy telling you you aren't being fair to him, whatever you do.

14ers4days · 2022-10-23T14:59:16+00:00

Strangers don't exist in my mind. They are bodies that get in my way or might be a potential threat. I could walk through any city all day every day and never see the same face twice. That's stressful, and dehumanizing. But we have no choice. It's easier to live and maintain sanity if you just don't see the faces at all.

gymbro718NYC · 2022-10-23T15:03:06+00:00

Oh my a woman rejected you. Take it like a man you man baby.

MetalPrincess14032 · 2022-10-23T18:08:15+00:00

As a young woman, 23, I often have to appear non caring and standoffish as guys will hit on me and chat me up like they know me or try to take me to their places when I’m just not interested

chuggMachine · 2022-10-23T18:34:13+00:00

Lack of accountability.

Ohyarlysmiles · 2022-10-23T23:35:35+00:00

Look at the figure from your study regarding the sexual disgust women feel from unattractive men: https://www.researchgate.net/figure/Mean-disgust-ratings-per-behavior-and-attractiveness-All-differences-were-statistically_fig2_317273311

Turns out they feel disgust from being sexual with attractive men too! Just less than they do with unattractive men.

Women are seen as polite, nice, and warm. And they certainly can be. And I would argue that they are...for men they're attracted to or know.

Except women feel the same level of disgust at the thought of talking to an attractive or unattractive stranger. Oops. Data you used flatly contradicts your conclusion.

remaininyourcompound · 2022-10-24T01:21:13+00:00

I'm standoffish to the point of rudeness with strange men because experience has taught me that anything less is likely to be interpreted as interest. It's a shame, and isn't in my nature as an otherwise warm and friendly person, but the risk simply isn't worth it. On the other hand, I'm perfectly polite and friendly to women because as yet none of them have taken this as an invitation to assault/harass/stalk/bother me.

Kitchen_Apartment · 2022-10-24T02:55:19+00:00

Worst case scenario a man gets rejected by said woman. Worst case scenario for women.. she’s assaulted. I don’t think the vulnerable and physically weaker sex needs to go on being nicer to strangers.

womandatory · 2022-10-23T23:18:59+00:00

99% of men I have encountered on dating apps over the years initiate a ‘conversation’ with some variant of ‘hey’ or ‘wow’. I rejected every one of these low effort starters, saying (very politely and simply) that I wasn’t interested, or I was only looking locally, or I didn’t think we were a match. I replied to every single one and said ‘all the best’ or ‘good luck in your search’.

Around 80% of those men turned abusive, 10% pleaded for me to reconsider and 10% said thanks and wished me luck too.

That’s why women are abrupt with men we don’t know. We can’t tell by looking at you which of you are abusive or dangerous, and most in that environment are. The men who can appreciate that and are courteous and respectful are the ones who have long-term success with women.

inkiwitch · 2022-10-23T16:23:30+00:00

This couldn’t be more false.

When is the last time you heard about a man having acid thrown in his face for rejecting a marriage proposal?

How many stories have you heard of men being raped and murdered on a date?

How many men have needed to order an angel shot to get away from a woman who won’t take no for an answer? Do you even know what an angel shot is?? A lot of men don’t because they literally will never need one.

You’re goddamn right women are more dismissive towards men in general because even after being cold and rude, women will STILL have creepy dudes who don’t get the hint. If you think men have it worse because they get the cold shoulder, you might have more in common with the creeps than the men who can empathize and understand all the bullshit women go through without complaining how hard it actually is for them

Peacesquad · 2022-10-23T17:30:46+00:00

Men and women are not the same

New_Engineering3987 · 2022-10-23T17:47:58+00:00

Last week a woman asked where I live because I refused a taxi and said I would walk home, after telling her the area I live in I asked where she lives. Next thing you know her and her three friends are going BALLISTIC calling me a creep and that you never ask a woman where she lives. Was so shocked I didn’t even know what to say just turned round and walked home

supershotmd · 2022-10-23T17:56:05+00:00

I understand this behavior when a guy approaches them randomly.

But there's no excuse in school, at work, as a cashier at a supermarket, etc. These are well-lit areas surrounded by many people (I suppose someone could corner someone in an empty classroom or breakroom - but I've never done that). I would say the vast majority of the people who were casually rude to me were women.

I'm sure fear/protection is a factor, but these cases highlight what your studies show - disgust plays a much bigger role than just fear.

Jared35 · 2022-10-23T21:34:45+00:00

Wait, you get a conversation? Hmm…

take_number_two · 2022-10-23T22:02:15+00:00

If you actually read the study on disgust that you linked, it explains several theories on why this may be.

Old-Tumbleweed8645 · 2022-10-24T07:37:26+00:00

I was about to take your post seriously until I read the word "dating app". The internet isn't real. But real life threat is.

alchemist10000 · 2022-10-24T15:30:55+00:00

I totally understand the women here who say they started out being kind but based off negative real life experiences, then changed their behavior to being cold and standoffish.

However I do wonder if women take this thought a level further, and realize that if they can change their behavior based off negative experiences, that men can change their behavior based off negative experiences too, and become what women call misogynistic.

And when they realize that their behavior is what causes misogynistic men, whether they'd be willing to change that then, or call out behavior that causes it, the same way men are encouraged to call out behaviour that causes women to fear/avoid men.

DarkKirby9970 · 2022-10-24T15:55:34+00:00

I'm in firm agreement with this. The fact is that too many women are brainwashed to think that men are potential rapists or wanting to sleep with them.

Men don't really do themselves any favors because their sex drive is so damn powerful. Too many men are so starved for female attention to where they'll just go for anything, and women know this.

Still, women today also hurt their reputations by being so apathetic and assuming the worst out of men. No wonder the state of modern dating and relationships has hit an all-time low. Because most men are single today and facing unprecedented apathy from women to the point where they'd rather go abroad than stay in the West. I myself did the same for this reason.

The problem is that many men today still only want easy sex instead of actual relationships or marriage and children for that matter and those same men hurt the reputations of most men. I also blame Hollywood and the mainstream media for this too.

Western Culture created a monster.

jackedsoon · 2022-10-23T15:53:18+00:00

being kind to a random guy can probs get her killed or raped. it aint safe on the streets. why u want a chick to be friendly to u if she dont know u

ghostly_shark · 2022-10-23T20:02:00+00:00

Men kill women strangers about 10,000,000× than women kill men strangers. Women are only about 300× ruder than men to opposite-gender strangers. Checkmate sexists.

CouldYouExplainMore · 2022-10-24T12:31:16+00:00

Western women: I'm justified in being an asshole because 0.005% of men murder teehee

☕

SeaWolf24 · 2022-10-23T20:10:18+00:00

Rightfully so. A lot of weirdos out there misunderstanding kindness for sex.

monkymonkk · 2022-10-23T18:47:43+00:00

One time I was polite to this man at the store and he followed me home.

Are men empathetic to women they don’t know? Are men even empathetic to begin with?

It’s honestly funny that women get bashed for preserving their physical safety and not coddling a stranger male’s ego 🤡

dumbbitchcas · 2022-10-23T13:44:57+00:00

We are afraid of getting murdered, raped, trafficked, etc. i don’t care if we’re “mean”. It’s life or death, we have to be standoffish to be safe

TankieSappho · 2022-10-23T19:25:39+00:00

Consider this a strange man is much more of a threat to a woman than a strange woman is.

sunifunih · 2022-10-23T19:47:51+00:00

You are right. Just ask yourself why. What makes women aware, insecure, unpolite, rude and distant about stranger men? There might be a reason. Really, look around you with open eyes.

eth_trader_12 · 2022-10-23T21:41:25+00:00

It’s interesting how no one in the thread addresses women being more mean to women than men. If women can be mean to other women without having to worry about safety reasons, women can be mean to men even if they’re not worried about their safety. I specifically included examples where there’s not an obvious mode of danger yet almost every reply here is “but men are dangerous”

blockboii190 · 2022-10-23T15:00:56+00:00

The comments by the red pillers are actually depressing that people can believe that

luvMaxWane_or_AlGawd · 2022-10-23T15:19:51+00:00

Never claimed that I was. I already said that I wasn't laughing. Just offering a perspective on the topic. I gather that you don't agree .

KayRay1994 · 2022-10-23T17:16:11+00:00

women are also (on average) smaller, physically weaker, more likely to be sexually harassed, and are more likely to get unwelcomed interactions - they kinda have to be more guarded

Esterwinde · 2022-10-23T18:15:16+00:00

I have some girl friends who tend to get hit on by guy strangers all the time (especially old dudes with thicker skin), to the point that they have to either invite a guy friend out to dinner all the time, or like be more cold to stranger approaches.

Anyways if you living in a major city that's not the southern USA, you'll bound to find everyone you approach hostile lol. Don't ever talk to us city folks.

Also someone on reddit DMed my private account with him filming himself approaching women on the streets of London all the time (not really putting the camera on their face, but more of recording the vid and shoving his phone in his pocket). He wanted to ask me for advice on how to get women because his street talking schick isn't effective (he wanted to fate these women he approached on the fking street), and I told him to stick his small talk to pubs and bars or tinder and stop approaching strangers on the fking street thinking they'll just drop they pants on you.

TauregPrince · 2022-10-23T18:22:04+00:00

As a man you are innately viewed as aggressively dangerous by default.

ThorLives · 2022-10-23T18:39:09+00:00

It reminds me of another video from years ago: https://youtu.be/DmP1ier3R30

In women's defense, I think men rarely get approached by women so they're much more sympathetic towards her. Women get approached a lot, so it's just "noise" in her world. I do the same thing with Street salesmen - they're trying to get me to donate to some charity or sign some petition or something, and I'm typically avoiding their eye contact and giving them a short "no thanks". For women, men approaching them is probably similar to guys getting approached by street salesmen.

Admittedly, I'm not rude. Don't tell them to fuck off or anything, but I'm doubtful how often women are outright rude like that to men trying to talk to them, either.

belachewhm · 2022-10-23T19:46:56+00:00

This is why you don’t owe ANY woman chivalry, protection, or help.

Disdain of the opposite gender works both ways. I’m at the point where I won’t lift a finger to help a woman unless maybe she’s a close friend who has earned that privilege, or an elderly member of my family. Other than that it’s a no for me.

Also, the whole “kill all men” thing was laughable at best. It’s usually liberal women with blue or purple hair advocating for that sort of nonsense. I wouldn’t pay it too much attention

greenifuckation · 2022-10-23T18:25:23+00:00

Because we fear men & have every right to do so. It's common sense.

luciclover · 2022-10-24T01:41:00+00:00

No one was saying they are blaming all men but, your pseudo psychology is blaming all matriarchal and female figures in a woman’s life. I’m glad you know the women who have come from the same privileged background as yourself have opened up about their emotional trauma thrust upon them by other women. I don’t think your female “friends” have experienced trauma because that’s exactly what it’s like. Something “happens” and you ARE all of the sudden afraid.

Next time you’re spouting your armchair psychology try and flip to the area where it explains what trauma does to brain and especially the developing brain

RealAmericanWeasel · 2022-10-23T15:50:59+00:00

I didn’t need a lot of research to confirm my life.

Conscious_Ad_6572 · 2022-10-24T01:08:32+00:00

No one gives a Shit about young males,

Jordan Peterson tried to help, but Olivia Wilde called him a loser pandering to lonely men

alchemist10000 · 2022-10-24T09:47:02+00:00

While men wanting women for access to sex is a thing...the real redpill here is that if all men were gay and uninterested in women sexually, women wouldn't have all the privelleges and power in society that they currently have.

Snivelingincel · 2022-10-23T22:49:52+00:00

Women will refuse to accept unpleasant truths about their gender no matter how much evidence is presented. Even in a sub like this they try to spin it like it’s the man’s fault. It’s hard to not be a misogynist when women are literally allergic to taking accountability…

Snivelingincel · 2022-10-23T22:59:34+00:00

The amount of women in this comment section who can’t differentiate between fear and disgust is justification for misogyny

Seabears2006 · 2022-10-23T18:29:01+00:00

100 percent - men are routinely emotionally abused by women. Because the men they abuse are seen as low status, they see it as “obviously okay” to treat them that way.

Many women will emotionally abuse men who don’t intimidate them because they think they deserve it.

resultsmatter1 · 2022-10-23T16:08:23+00:00

I think women have become inherently more unfriendly. I have tons of examples

urukshai3 · 2022-10-23T16:19:19+00:00

Women have always been very classist. It is not something new and honestly I would have no problem accepting that as part of their nature if they were not such in denial about it.

Various-Storm2143 · 2022-10-23T13:57:17+00:00

This is a correct analysis.

Women will justify being "rude" by claiming false rape statistics or other BS to justify their bad behavior.

Men have no ability to excuse their bad behavior that is held accountable by both men and women.

Men are also punished far harsher for the same crimes as women.

Slootendo · 2022-10-23T17:39:55+00:00

I’m all for people being wary of crime statistics and differential offender rates across groups, and using such information to keep themselves safe—as long as they’re consistent about it.

Many people who justify women avoiding and being rude to men based on crime statistics would object to applying this standard to other groups, including other groups who are much higher in violent crime than men as a whole. Who? Whom?

ThrowawayYAYAY2002 · 2022-10-23T18:36:09+00:00

Way fucking more.

Some women have zero self awareness.

I will say that I feel sorry for their bf's. If you're speaking to a stranger like shit, hubby is getting verbally assaulted on the daily.

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smallstarseeker · 2022-10-23T15:00:20+00:00

PPD women can say whatever they want but.

I heard so many women IRL saying how much they prefer male friendship and male friends groups.

I myself find communicating with stranger men a much more pleasant experience then with other women.

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Abject-Ad7312 · 2022-10-24T00:02:00+00:00

How are apps not real life? I met people from them? Are they real?

Prairie_Strange · 2022-10-24T05:11:58+00:00

Don't have to be a stranger to experience it.....

Extra_Flamingo_4774 · 2022-10-24T08:19:14+00:00

A polite no is taken as a form of hesitation or indecisiveness which practically pushes a woman to be harsh and rude to anybody who doesn't interests her. This can also be a defense tactic.

localmicrodosechamp · 2022-10-24T15:47:14+00:00

ok but men rape and murder women.

lalelu2727 · 2022-10-24T19:31:44+00:00

Yes because women are afraid of getting murdered

EugeneCezanne · 2022-10-24T20:08:44+00:00

(yes, I'm aware apps aren't real life, but for now, it's better than nothing).

Umm... real life still exists.

This is possibly explained by women feeling far more innate, natural disgust at men

Lol, or the other way around.

Yet what kinds of societal gender stereotypes exist when it comes to rude behavior? Men are seen as rude, brash, and impolite. Women are seen as polite, nice, and warm.

Gender stereotypes of rude behavior and women are more like: nagging, b***hy, Karen, etc.

In all honesty, most male strangers practically don't exist in many women's minds and this is simply the truth.

Do most strangers exist in your mind? There are very few strangers, male or female, that I want to have a completely random interaction with on a normal day.

Unable_Deal_5254 · 2022-10-25T18:04:49+00:00

Because being nice means> l like you If l praise men or say something nice to them they think l am interested in them So l just avoid men

Squiddy201 · 2022-10-26T23:12:49+00:00

It's cause women represent the egg and the body. They don't identify with the nervous system and brain (sperm cell) which is all we are truly

Additional_Speech164 · 2022-10-27T00:52:38+00:00

Usually , for me, as a woman it’s for safety reasons. I don’t like being approached at the gas station or grocery store, and nipping it in the bud seems to work wonders: if I’m nice it seems to encourage the unwanted attention. This is also why I took down online photos. I was getting way too many messages from these kinds of guys.

Title	Women are often harsher, ruder, more dismissive, and more uncaring to male strangers than the other way around
Author	eth_trader_12
Upvotes	277
Comments	483
Date	October 23, 2022 1:37 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/PurplePillDebate
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