Would you date someone who has a history with sex work?

MyDogLovesCorn · 2019-10-21T16:24:53+00:00

I'd rather cut off my own penis.

oneprettycoolcat · 2019-10-22T05:22:05+00:00

All women sell sex, in one form or another, so I don't care that much.

xXxINCELFAGGOTxXx · 2019-10-21T10:21:30+00:00

No. Just because of that "ick"

TheJim66 · 2019-10-21T10:18:17+00:00

God no.Noone wants to wife up a slut.

I remember a study that said sex worker is the most unnatractive trait for a woman to have when talking about LTR s so I'm happy to see that not all men have become cucks yet.

Gravel_Roads · 2019-10-21T09:56:05+00:00

This question has come up a lot recently, but I'll just keep answering: Yep, I don't care if a girl has done sex work. I've done sex work, too.

It's easy money, if you don't have inhibitions or hang ups, and you get to meet a lot of interesting people in very rare and candid situations that allow for very honest and laid back atmospheres. You drink fine wine, you talk about art and philosophy, you hang out on yachts and in hot tubs, go out to nice restaurants, and admire views from skyrise condos. I had one client take me skydiving.

That said, there are just as many types of people doing sex work as there are any other line or work -- it's a field that has a lot of potential for exploitation, desperation, scarcity mentality, fecklessness, laziness, drug use and mental health problems. So being a sex worker doesn't bump you up on my list, either -- it just doesn't inherently exclude you, either. As long as you're not making your problems my problems, I dont' really care what you do.

whibbleymoondanc · 2019-10-21T09:57:20+00:00

No. It’s a moral thing for me. I’m all for legalizing prostitution for everyone that is voluntary I’ll participation (no sex trafficking, underage, etc) but I don’t want to date someone that does or has done that.

crystal_wb · 2019-10-21T12:09:20+00:00

I mean it depends, as always, but yes.

If he paid for sex a couple of times just for fun or to try something I don't see a problem. It would be a problem if it was a kind of addiction and he went there frequently, spending loads of money on it. But generally speaking it's totally fine.

Yeah I would like to know it. I prefer being as open with my partner as he wants me to be and I'd appreciate the same. Of course sexual history isn't something to talk about on the first date, but at some point I'd like to know.

Ofourkind · 2019-10-21T15:06:07+00:00

Depends on context

Deployed overseas? Young guy visiting Amsterdam and thinking "when in Rome"? Not a big deal to me.

Trolling red light districts or craigslist looking for street walkers? Hard no

QueenCousland86 · 2019-10-21T16:31:22+00:00

For me, it depends on what he paid for. A good old fashioned Las Vegas romp? Pretty harmless, so long as it was not a habit. Going overseas and fucking child slaves? Absolutely not.

MrHerbSherman · 2019-10-21T17:25:04+00:00

sure why not

Wouldn’t marry her tho

catbrainland · 2019-10-23T18:58:09+00:00

You left an important bit: The drug context involved. If she's a weak willed meth junkie to this day, dating is impossible. If she came out stronger out of the experience, people like that can be a keeper as they attain some much needed street grit, and are very commited to never go back to the experience. It's also a bit of responsibility, as you're now part of that commitment.

wtknight · 2019-10-21T17:11:34+00:00

If her sex work job involved touching other men, then no. If her sex work job was just camming or pics, then I might make an exception, but still most likely I would not.

erman88 · 2019-10-21T09:24:04+00:00

You have to have some self respect

Reisiluu · 2019-10-21T12:04:02+00:00

goatismycopilot · 2019-10-21T14:01:02+00:00

mistresswhat · 2019-10-21T17:33:35+00:00

My last serious boyfriend had a history of seeing escorts.

I've been a pro-domme for a long time, which might be part of why I don't care but I don't think I'd care either way. It's nice to be a client sometimes.

NockerJoe · 2019-10-21T17:47:14+00:00

Define "date".

Would I fast track a ring and picket fence? Probably not.

Would I pay for a cup of coffee and maybe some cheap tickets to a local venue? Sure. No harm no foul.

Dating with the intention of marriage isn't the only kind of dating. I'm not saying it couldn't go that way if it's like 5 years later but I'm not gonna demand every girl in the universe be proper.

Pontifex_Lucious-II · 2019-10-22T04:33:02+00:00

Date? As in have sex with a condom on? Sure

Marry? No

[deleted] · 2019-10-22T06:11:27+00:00

Nope. Those women will do things for money that they won't do for love.

DaphneDK42 · 2019-10-22T12:59:14+00:00

Yes. But she takes a big hit to her overall value. So she has to do up for that in some other way.

Chriswiss · 2019-10-22T20:49:13+00:00

I'd like to preface by saying that I respect all lines of work! If sex work is what someone chooses to do then that's perfectly fine.

But no, I don't think it would be in my best interest to date someone who has a history in sex work. It goes against my fundamental principles, and the inherent risk of disease won't give me rest at night. It's nothing against the individual.

cxj · 2019-10-22T22:50:34+00:00

Absolutely not, because eww

Atlas_B_Shruggin · 2019-10-21T16:14:36+00:00

im actually really baffled at the idea of women caring if a man has used a prostitute, i cant understand why anyone would care, i guess unless they had some gay "trafficing" morality?

_Tumbleweed- · 2019-10-21T10:04:53+00:00

No, I think men who pay for sex are mentally ill and/or have an unnerving attitude towards women. Just my opinion though.

I respect the hustle of women who do sex work, just like I respect any working person, but I couldn't imagine anything worse personally than having sex with strange mentally ill men. There's so many much easier things you can do for a lot more money.

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Atlas_B_Shruggin · 2019-10-21T12:55:00+00:00

Dont care

throwawayemotions34 · 2019-10-21T14:17:15+00:00

Don't care

rus9384 · 2019-10-21T17:55:40+00:00

Casual dating, yeah.

couldbemage · 2019-10-22T11:49:43+00:00

I've dated a bunch of sex workers.

CursedSurrogate · 2019-10-22T18:12:05+00:00

Would you date a woman that had sex for money? Why or why not?

I would date any girl that isn't going to cheat on me or treat me badly.

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J_Milton_Jr · 2019-10-21T09:30:45+00:00

No, I dont want a man for whom sex is so important that he makes it his profession.

Besides, I do not want other people to know how my boyfriend looks naked / having sex.

geyejoe7 · 2019-10-21T10:09:39+00:00

The short answer is no.

The problem with this is that a woman might have been in a really tough situation and had to sell her body in order to keep herself fed. And those women deserve love aswell.

But if a woman made porn, was a prostitute for both money and pleasure (aka, she could have worked a real job but decided differently because she could make more money and get fucked in the same time), then I would decide against dating them.

[deleted] · 2019-10-21T09:27:06+00:00

Would you date a man that paid for sex?

Sure. Wouldn't bother me. If he wanted to tell me about it I'd be a little confused about why he couldn't just keep it to himself. We don't talk about our previous sex lives.

Orange_Paisley · 2019-10-21T15:28:30+00:00

If he did it once or twice out of curiosity, sure. If he was a regular, hard pass.

[deleted] · 2019-10-21T17:24:50+00:00

Given that my current plan is to hop on Seeking Arrangements and play Salt Daddy Game, yeah.

Rualatte · 2019-10-21T20:52:32+00:00

As long as she doesn’t have STDs and doesn’t do it anymore, I don’t see the problem. Sex work is just another way to put food on the table.

Edit: I sound like a fucking cuckold.

maljo24 · 2019-10-21T11:12:29+00:00

A woman who in the past had sex for money but not longer does I would happily date.

Nodoxxintoxin · 2019-10-21T15:27:03+00:00

We had this question a while back. I came close to dating a man who had sex for money, but it never timed out right. I have a friend who ended up on the streets at 13 after his father left and his severely schizophrenic mom tried to kill him.

I would date a guy who had sex for money once or twice, to lose his virginity or just to see what it was like. A guy who routinely visited hookers or sugar babies? No. It’s fine with me and should be legal, but most of those guys have attachment disorders or some other mental illness in my humble opinion. Or they are total omegas with no other choices.

slavicgypsygirl · 2019-10-21T17:10:40+00:00

I was a sexual & non sexual sugar baby for three years who has dated two men in porn

Why: Bc I was sexually attracted to them

SmurfESmurferson · 2019-10-21T22:15:30+00:00

I don’t want a man who has to pay for pussy

guy_24601 · 2019-10-23T16:12:50+00:00

Very unlikely. If It would be to easy to assume that they were still a sex worker, they just wanted a contract.

[deleted] · 2019-10-21T19:30:57+00:00

I would date a dude that paid for sex if he was attractive and had money to throw at girls for their time. Not if he couldn't get sex by his own merit. Although that's not necessarily a straight up transaction, most of the time it's like, he fucked a girl, she wants a purse, he's like fuck it here's your purse.

Title	Would you date someone who has a history with sex work?
Author	_Neon_Shadow_
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Date	October 21, 2019 8:07 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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