Would you rather have casual sex with a guy out of your league who saw you as beneath him, or sleep with a guy slightly less attractive than you who saw you as the hottest woman he's been with?

quabbicoo · 2021-11-06T21:05:05+00:00

I’ve never sought out the “hottest” guy I could find for casual sex, and I don’t know anyone else whose done this either.. men usually approach women, so if a guy approached me and he was decently attractive and we had immediate chemistry (similar senses of humor), I’d sleep with him. If he was super hot and we had immediate chemistry, I’d sleep with him. If the super hot guy thought he was above me (I interpret this as showing signs of arrogance and negging), then we wouldn’t have the chemistry I need to be aroused/interested.

tiposk · 2021-11-06T20:57:42+00:00

"Slightly less attractive" guy is still attractive to you but deemed less attractive than you by objective raters.

I fail to see how this is a problem. I wouldn't even mind dating someone like this if I'm truly attracted.

I have a hard time wrapping my head around the idea that a lot of people are totally okay with sleeping with someone who just isn't that attracted to them.

People who are in it strictly for the sex don't care about anything except for availability.

blkgrlontheinterwebs · 2021-11-07T04:31:22+00:00

Stacy here. #2 is hot.

ohdiddly · 2021-11-07T01:46:51+00:00

‘As beneath him’? That sounds like a total lack of respect, in which case I would never fuck someone like that. Even if it’s just something casual, having mutual respect for one another is essential. Number 2 for sure.

throwawaylessons103 · 2021-11-06T20:32:02+00:00

This question is framed in a weird way, so obviously women are going to pick #2.

But when you're talking dating apps, it's not like men are making it clear they see a woman as "beneath" them. Plenty of guys play the 'relationship game' on dating apps to get laid, even ones that aren't Chads.

I had a FWB once where it was clear I was more attracted to him than vice versa. He's an alt guy and my ideal type, but I'm more feminine/preppy. He prefers alt girls. But that's okay... The attraction was still there, he still was giving in the bedroom and always got me off via hands and mouth so... No complaints here!

Me not being the "hottest girl he's ever been with" in his mind didn't take away from the experience.

So no, I wouldn't choose #1 under your conditions, but the conditions you gave are more rare.

Reisiluu · 2021-11-07T07:11:25+00:00

I would agree to be the girlfriend of #2 if he asked and if he was nice to me. I'd ask the bouncer to get rid of #1 because they never hear a simple "no".

Mrs_Drgree · 2021-11-07T07:59:41+00:00

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redkoicarp · 2021-11-07T09:11:53+00:00

Of course I'd take the second option. What an incredibly easy choice. I've done that before. As long as I am attracted to him it wouldn't and shouldn't bother me what others think of him anyway. He could be "ugly" by these "objective raters" for all I care (also happened to me before).

Flightlessbirbz · 2021-11-07T01:16:20+00:00

The second, but I’d rather not have casual sex. First sounds depressing and second sounds meh.

GlitteryDonkey · 2021-11-07T02:38:15+00:00

Definitely the second if our personalities clicked. The first option is a hard no. I will never sleep with someone who thinks I’m beneath them. Anyone who thinks that has major personality flaws. Shallow people are not attractive.

stupidrandomuzer · 2021-11-07T08:00:40+00:00

I’d say the latter, sex is much better when the person is actually into you and there’s full on passion. It’s definitely less enjoyable when you know someone isn’t as attracted to you as you are to them

sweetestpineapple · 2021-11-06T20:04:40+00:00

Sometimes people pretend to be more attracted to you than they are just to get laid or to have more options. I’m pretty sure I’ve been in that situation but there’s no way to tell because no one’s actually gonna come out and say that they think you’re below them. As for the less attractive guy they might treat you just as bad because they’re resentful that you’re the best he can get. So neither I guess.

ItIsnt0verYet · 2021-11-06T21:07:58+00:00

Neither. I would want to fuck someone who saw me as i saw them.

CimZim · 2021-11-06T19:36:22+00:00

The second one, no question about it. Why would I even want to be in the same room with a dudebro who thinks I'm inferior, much less have sex with him?

goatismycopilot · 2021-11-06T19:47:28+00:00

Neither choice presented tells me if I enjoy the experience it only tells me whether a man thinks I am hot or not. So the choice hinges on somebody's perception of me as the totality of the experience.

Competitive_Pen2282 · 2021-11-06T20:23:54+00:00

Why would I have casual sex with anyone. I prefer to have relationship with a man who is really into me.

goodpizzapizzagood · 2021-11-06T20:26:08+00:00

I’m not attracted to guys who look at women as beneath them. But I would never think a guy is beneath me. If we’re talking attractiveness level, yeah I would and have had casual sex with a guy less attractive than me, knowing I deserve better. If we’re talking personality, I am currently having casual sex with a guy who is not very bright but I don’t judge him.

SaBahRub · 2021-11-06T19:57:20+00:00

Ugh, that is a horrible choice. I wouldn’t enjoy either, but with a gun to my head, 2. Because of personal safety issue

Also, for the record, fawning worship is more unattractive than borderline looks

Orange_Paisley · 2021-11-06T22:45:15+00:00

If I, personally, found him attractive and he worshipped the ground I walked on that would be enough.

Elevatedheart · 2021-11-07T01:25:31+00:00

I would take the poor guy that had respect for me as a human being.

SnooGrapes7454 · 2021-11-07T02:09:40+00:00

I'd pick the guy out of my league, no question about it. I wouldn't have any moral hangups either. I know i'm supposed to 'pine' afterwards and 'get attached' to him as per the social narrative, cos women are supposed to be the ones who want reassurance. Hasn't very much been an issue yet

redheadbeauty15 · 2021-11-07T02:54:33+00:00

I would never want to sleep with someone who is not attracted to me that's the opposite of hot.

I would want us both to be very attracted to eachother.

Assasinized · 2021-11-07T04:44:35+00:00

If the slightly less attractive guy is attractive to me I don't see why objective raters opinions matter. Sleeping with someone who isn't attracted to you is just you being used but I wouldn't even be having casual sex to begin with.

NarniaFox · 2021-11-07T05:12:10+00:00

Considering that I'm not into casual nor I've ever had it, I wouldn't choose any of them just because casual is out of the table for me. For an LTR I'd prefer the second guy though, because I can't imagine dating someone who isn't into me.

Pigeon-in-Boots · 2021-11-07T05:14:06+00:00

If it's just sex and the assumption is they are equally skilled in the bedroom then give me the hot guy. It's not a relationship, as long as he doesn't tell me how he feels how would I know? I'm just happy I'm with a hot dude havin a good time. At the end of the day I don't care that much how hot a guy thinks I am.

yabbobay · 2021-11-07T10:49:56+00:00

The guy who thinks I'm hot. Hands down. As long as I'm attracted to him a bit I can imagine he would be obsessed with my body which would make a much better night.

I'm not attracted to people who think I, or anyone, are beneath them.

gofigure62 · 2021-11-07T18:56:30+00:00

The only men that I've seen hotter than me have been gay. And I'd give both of my tits and my left labia to have mind blowing consensual sex with a hot gay guy.

But that's literally impossible.

girlindolor · 2021-11-06T19:40:08+00:00

I don't have casual sex but if i did i'd pick option 2, obviously, i wouldn't care that he's slightly less attractive than me. Any woman sleeping with someone knowing that he sees her as beneath him has serious self-esteem issues and needs therapy

januaryphilosopher · 2021-11-06T21:02:30+00:00

I'd rather be alone than with somebody who doesn't see me as and treat me like an equal. I don't care how they look, it's an issue of self-respect. (Although self-respect would prevent me from having casual sex in the first place.)

iamsojellyofu · 2021-11-06T21:54:11+00:00

I do not partake in casual sex, so I am going to answer this as if you asked what guy would I rather date. I would rather date and have sex with guy #2. It would be nice to have a guy in my league think I am the prettiest person he has ever been with.

xQueen-Bx · 2021-11-06T20:04:23+00:00

"would you rather have shit in one hand or dogshit in the other hand" Q for women number 76544567788653334677

Jojotherabbit123 · 2021-11-06T21:12:12+00:00

Long time lurker, to be clear. However I have done the latter and my life has significantly changed for the better. My fiancé has a bone disorder that makes him have bone growths and made him about 5 6”. He’s been bullied for most of his life but I saw how sweet he was. During the 5 years I’ve helped him be more confident/happy which lead to a DRASTIC increase in his looks, he’s more ambitious which lead to more money and he still fucks me like a princess. Now we live together in a gated community and he’s agree to help me with my masters. 10/10 would do again, immediately.

KikiYuyu · 2021-11-06T22:01:16+00:00

Why would I ever subject myself to sleeping with a guy who 1: is a prick 2: thinks I'm beneath him?

Obviously the second one because I don't hate myself.

DoctorTurkelton · 2021-11-07T03:36:53+00:00

WOMEN CARE ABOUT ORGASMS! WOMEN WANT MEN WHO CARE ABOUT THEIR SEXUAL PLEASURE! YES, ALL WOMEN!

-sincerely

A woman who is prepared to die on this hill.

Slipthe · 2021-11-06T19:52:40+00:00

No idea really. Never something I've experienced. But I imagine if I was at a party where a hot guy was like "You look like an easy lay, let's go to my car." Or a super plain guy who says "You are probably one of the hottest girls that's ever spoken to me."

I'm gonna go with the less attractive guy. Sounds like it would feed my ego. Which I rank much higher than my sexual satisfaction.

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reddi2K · 2021-11-07T04:32:17+00:00

How close to ovulation are we?

lunafox999 · 2021-11-07T05:32:37+00:00

Have sex with the guy who I think is hotter

Willow-girl · 2021-11-07T10:31:22+00:00

I want to be your goddess. LOL

Vyrnoa · 2021-11-08T13:53:19+00:00

The latter obviously. Narcissistic abusers who put others on a scale is a major turn off.

"Less attractive" doesnt mean worse. Societal beauty standards arent pleasing to everyone. Your looks arent the only factor in attraction.

The first guy would not only be disrespectful but also impossible to please. You cant please a narcissist.

The latter is someone who values you who you can then in return value back and have a mutually positive experience.

superlurkage · 2021-11-06T20:17:04+00:00

Men don’t treat inferiors well, and often cruelly/abusively/disrespectfully, so 2. Even though I hate, hate, hate being idealized and pedestalized

quiturbitchn · 2021-11-06T19:30:53+00:00

Neither. I can sleep with someone I find attractive who also finds me hot as fuck. Never had this dichotomy in real life

RaspberryJuiceBox · 2021-11-06T20:46:47+00:00

Option two, no contest.

Dapper_Art_8269 · 2021-11-06T21:29:28+00:00

I love feeling like the hottest woman in the world (even thought I'm not one), so I would go for the second option.

Men are cruel to people they find inferior. I don't think that any man is better than me but if a guy thought that I was worse than him, he wouldn't care about my pleasure and he would be a dick.

learn2earn89 · 2021-11-06T19:43:05+00:00

Realistically, neither. However, if I had a gun pointed at my head and had to choose, i would choose the gun shot. Making me sleep with someone I’m not attracted to is akin to death.

SnooCats37 · 2021-11-06T20:36:25+00:00

This question is stupid, only a guy would think of this question because women really don’t give a **** about looks as much as you think we do. And you would have to have some serious self esteem issue if you ever wanted to be anywhere near a guy who saw you as ‘beneath him’. I would rather have meaningful sex and feel just as attracted to the guy and he did to me. But for women attraction is based on personality more so than on outward attraction. So yeah. Stupid question

CatchPhraze · 2021-11-07T03:17:55+00:00

Neither. Fuck why are all these questions just

A. Shit B. Shit

Just so trpa can justifying the "woman only pick shit" narrative. Woman choose to be single. Nearly none of them are making this choice.

flapperfemmefatale · 2021-11-06T21:41:36+00:00

Which one is actually better at sex?

Anantha1996 · 2021-11-06T19:29:17+00:00

It's a false dichotomy, they can do both.

neetykeeno · 2021-11-06T20:36:50+00:00

I don't do casual sex.

lellat · 2021-11-06T23:34:15+00:00

Question: if the genders were reversed, which one would you pick?

Artistic_Guest4386 · 2021-11-07T02:15:44+00:00

You all know the answer lads.

This thread is a hamster wheel.

lostidentity04 · 2021-11-06T22:04:36+00:00

attraction is relative. if they treat me like a queen, i will back it up on that thing

hearyoume14 · 2021-11-06T22:56:17+00:00

From the women I’ve known: B with some A.

The latter group further splits into either if he’s skilled and great to look at I don’t care or something internal they are dealing with.

It I had a sex drive then probably B given my personality.

-Giga- · 2021-11-06T23:06:17+00:00

Neither because I don't entertain casual sex.

If this was about relationships, a slightly less attractive man who adored me would easily have my attention. I don't welcome men in my life who make me feel like shit

Knowing what I bring to someone's life, physical male beauty is not enough to move the needle when it comes to wanting relationships.

Just enough attractiveness with the quality of life I want is worth way more than being with some hot guy.

That person is for a brief experience only so we have no business with each other

gangweedsavedme · 2021-11-06T23:38:54+00:00

Wym, women prefer being the more objectively attractive one in the relationship

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DreamsOfWishes · 2021-11-06T21:19:13+00:00

Slightly less attractive Guy.

Chemical-Ad3703 · 2021-11-06T22:42:20+00:00

I rather

mystomachhurts111111 · 2021-11-07T07:25:15+00:00

The 2nd one

ultranarwhal17 · 2021-11-07T19:37:18+00:00

Id rather sleep with an ugly over weight man then someone who saw me as beneath them.

Cupcakelover1985 · 2021-11-07T23:58:56+00:00

If I had to pick I’d go for the guy who is less attractive than me. It gives me more leverage.

theosamabahama · 2021-11-08T01:03:42+00:00

Now do the same question to guys and watch the answers be reversed.

IcarusKiki · 2021-11-09T06:42:22+00:00

the first bc i feel uncomfortable being put on a pedestal and would feel bad to alpha-widower him if that makes sense. Guy who see you as out of their league are actually a huge pain bc they get needy and insecure fast and constantly demand reassurance. I dont like having that power imbalance. I dont care about looks that much so I would be fine with a hot guy pumping and dumping as long as he was clear about that boundary (not that i do that irl but i could).

Disclaimer I am avoidant attachment style so my answer is prob very different than the norm

BadRevolutionary3034 · 2021-11-10T22:48:04+00:00

Definitely the second one, yeah

Lmfao what do you even get out of sex with an asshole

Slipthe · 2021-11-06T19:44:26+00:00

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anonymousUser1SHIFT · 2021-11-07T07:24:45+00:00

"Slightly less attractive" guy is still attractive to you but deemed less attractive than you by objective raters.

This question has a fallacy as women rate 80% of guys to be less than average attractive.

I say most people are totally fine and don't care about 7+ looking people. It's everyone below that which has the problem.

2021-11-07T10:37:31+00:00

Women want chad. Even if they don’t say it

authenticallyfucked · 2021-11-07T12:05:34+00:00

I have little use for other people's opinions and enthusiasm really rings my bell.

TheElusivePeacock · 2021-11-08T22:34:59+00:00

“Slightly less attractive guy”….. lol let’s be real… men who come up with these scenarios are not “slightly less attractive”……. They are wildly unattractive. Me personally, I’ll sleep with the hottest guy I have chemistry with. These scenarios and narratives are not anything I’ve ever seen in real life and seem to only exist among men on Reddit who want casual sex with women more attractive than them. What hot guy is going to sleep with you but also tells you that you’re beneath him lmao.