A certain someone on this sub who shall not be named has spent the last week or so insisting that

1. Chads aren't getting harems even though they have far, far more sex than non-Chads.
2. Frustrated men who struggle in the dating market actually want harems because, uh, because REASONS.

To address the first claim, I will start by referring to a dictionary. Consulting Merriam-Webster on the word "harem" offers the following definitions:

1. a usually secluded house or part of a house allotted to women in some Muslim households
2. the wives, concubines, female relatives, and servants occupying a harem
3. informal : a group of women associated with one man
4. a group of females associated with one male —used of polygamous animals

Based on the 80/20 rule, it's safe to say that the average Chad (paradoxical turn of phrase, I know) has 3-4 women that he's sleeping with at any given time. They may know about each other, they may not, but it makes little difference in the end. Chances are that these women are also sleeping with other Chads as well, so technically speaking, they don't meet the definition of a "harem" per se...which is why the use of the term "soft harem" is used to describe this arrangement instead. Chad doesn't care if the women he's sleeping with are also sleeping with other men.

It is important to note as well that unlike traditional harems, which were formed through male restriction of female sexuality, these soft harems have formed as a direct result of female sexual liberation--women are now free to make their own choices, and many choose to join the rotation of Chad's bedwarmers. A Chad doesn't have to collect women--they come to him. And for every additional woman in a Chad's soft harem, there is a non-Chad out there who she rejected and was left out in the cold as a result. Which brings me to the second claim.

This continual insistence that we, the frustrated non-Chad men, secretly want soft harems of our own is quite frankly mind-boggling. Sure, there are a scant few of us to whom this would apply--but the great majority of us don't. We don't want to be doing better than the Chads (or as good as them), and we certainly don't think we deserve to be doing better than them or as good as them. But we do want, and think we deserve, to not be doing so much worse than the Chads. For the great majority of us, we would be satisfied with just one real, lasting success with one woman who truly valued and appreciated us. If you are going to sneer at us as "bitter, entitled incels" for wanting that, and being sad/angry/frustrated that we don't get it despite many of us putting in massive effort trying to find it, fine.

Oh yeah, and inb4 "muh study says that 70% of young men have had sex": and how many of those young men are having it on a steady, consistent, regular basis? Far fewer, I'm willing to bet.