You DO NOT have to do well with women.

I was only this way once in my life and briefly. I sort of came into my own about 20-21, lost my V card at 19 to a total slut who thought I was a player hehe jokes on her, but I was a late bloomer physically so I was at 21 where most guys are at 18.

And it sucked, sex thoughts were constant, I figured out the "girl code" and knew how to get a gf, so I did, but I basically self taught myself PUA and basic RP before either were things, PUA won't hit those obscure online forums for a few more years and RP wasn't even a glimmer.

(And for those of you wondering, its literally acting like you don't give a shit about actually dating the woman. Its not being mean, its just having her know shes not your focus).

I fixed my problem, dating 3 women, and finding a gf who became an LTR, who became wife, and who still is. All in about 6 months.

But... I can put myself in the shoes of guys who didn't figure out the code so to speak. Who were less good looking (not that I was ever hot, at best "kinda cute"), or less able to evaluate the situation and self reflect.

That version of me would have been far more obsessed and driven and resentful.

Its easy to say after you have something, you don't need it. I enjoy sex and validation from women, its my hobby, but if I didn't have it anymore I could do other things, but if I never had it, I'd probably be obsessed with it.

Its like you need to be rich to understand why money isn't everything and why so many people who aren't rich don't believe you when you say it.

Until you have had it, you don't know what you are missing. Literally. This is often used as a way to say you NEED to do something but it can cut both ways.