I think a fatal flaw of these kinds of subreddits is the idea that you have to play games, calculate statistics, compare facial bone structure (or whatever), blah blah. It's all just a distraction from what dating should be: finding your best friend. The person you will spend most of your time with, do everything with, travel with, and do all the normal boring stuff with for the rest of your life.

I see a lot of guys talking about not wanting a girl who has slept with X amount of guys, who has this or that physical feature, and tons of other shallow stuff. I literally never see a guy talking about what kind of personality traits he wants in his best friend.

I think a lot of people would be happier here if they didn't see the other gender as an enemy or adversary, but earnestly looked for the qualities they'd like to see in their future best friend.

- Where is your best friend hanging out? Go there to meet them.

- What kind of personality do they have? Work towards being that kind of person.

If you don't think you want a future partner to be your actual best friend or don't think you can earnestly develop that kind of relationship with a person of the opposite gender, you're not ready for a relationship.