The theory and understanding section is designed to help men understand how the world works, specifically in the context of intergender relational dynamics. Some of the content is designed for married men, and others more applicable to singles - but both would do well to learn both sides of the coin.

The goal is to look to the Bible as our source of information. What we find is that many of the secular "RP" concepts are not secular at all - they were found in the Bible first. As such, we look not to secular RP as a starting point for which we find biblical support; rather, we look to the Bible as our starting point and are simply not shocked when the secular world has discovered what the Bible already said was true.

  • 101 - Fitness Develops Attraction - This post highlights a biblical foundation for maintaining our bodies in good shape with God as our motivator.

  • 102 - Desire and the Curse - God is the one who designed men and women, so let's look to God's original design and his compensation for the fall to see how our internal desires manifest and can be understood.

  • 103 - Desire Cultivates Intimacy - Explore the Hebrew concepts of love and the Greek koinonia bond that Jesus intended those in a oneness relationship to have. See the influence these concepts can have in fostering physical, spiritual, mental, and emotional intimacy with your spouse.

  • 104 - When She Feels Sexy - Many people are more interested in the concepts of sex, marriage, relationships, etc. than they are in the person they married. When a wife thinks "he wants sex" she's unimpressed; but when she thinks "he wants me" gears start turning. How can you communicate your desire for your spouse in a way that most effectively fosters reciprocal attraction?

  • 105 - Non-Negotiable Attraction - Playing the "this for that" game might get someone to fulfill an obligation, but if you actually want to be desired, it takes something more. Let's look at how Jesus draws his bride to himself through the Gospel as a model for how we can draw our bride to us as well.

  • 106 - What Doesn't Work - We've all seen sitcoms. They give a humorous caricature of what real people try to do to get sex from their spouse. Unfortunately these strategies rarely ever work, yet somehow we are emotionally committed to them. Let's reorient ourselves away from begging, arguing, or demanding sex or from covert tactics we employ that make us feel like we deserve sex ... and just learn to be attractive the way we once were when we were single and first alluring our spouse in the first place.

  • 107 - Comparison Game and Positive Dread - Has your wife every compared you to some other guy or herself to other women she knows? Maybe she doesn't do it overtly, but secretly she's wishing you were more like him or that she could have the life that Bob gives his wife. Why does she do that and how should we respond? How do we win with our wives and girlfriends when we're constantly being compared to other men?

  • 108 - Life Path of a Relationship - This one is a game-changer. It is the first real introduction to how a man's mission can be the only thing that turns a dying marriage into a successful one. Whether you're just starting to get interested in a woman or you've been married for 25 years, this path will probably ring true for where you are and what you can expect down the road.

  • 109 - Pursuit, Seduce, Initiate - How many Christian women demand that men be the ones to pursue them? The distinction between "initiating" a relationship and "pursuing" a woman is a significant one that is addressed countless times in the Bible with the way God interacts with his bride. When we understand the proper orientation of our pursuits, we can more effectively reflect God to the world through our marriage.

  • 110 - Stay Plan is the Go Plan - Some marriages are on the rocks to a degree where divorce seems inevitable. Of course, biblically there is no "stay plan" or "go plan." There is just "the plan" - the orientation of our lives in the direction God would have us go.

  • 111 - Polygamy/Hypergamy - A biblical and historical look at the foundations of male polygamous desires and how hypergamy ascended as the dominant influence on intergender social dynamics. Ultimately, if a man wants his wife to be a good bride, he must model what it looks like to be Christ's bride first.

  • 112 - Alpha Scripture - God doesn't say things out of the blue just because he feels like it. What he tells us is designed to redeem us into the creation he always intended us to be. Looking at the 10 commandments as an example, what can we glean from God's imperatives to us that informs us about the type of people he wants us to become?

  • 113 Part 1 - Introduction to Frame - Who are you in Christ? How does your identity from God shape the way you orient your relationships or marriage? Do you cede God's intentions for you when your wife is angry? These questions hit at the core of what it means to have "frame" and how your framework for viewing the world and operating in it should shape not only your own life, but the direction your family moves.

  • 113 Part 2 - Practicing Frame - Once you know what your frame is, it's a different matter entirely learning to live it out. If our frame is rooted in God's intentions for our lives, then any time we break our frame or cave to the intentions of anyone else, we sin. How can we strengthen our frame to be the godly leaders we're meant to be?

  • 114 - The Learning Cycle - Have you ever found yourself saying, "I know it in my head, but not in my heart"? This post is about taking new concepts and how we can intentionally ingrain them into our character so that we're no longer faking our way through life with tidbits of knowledge; rather, we are being transformed by what we learn into godliness.

  • 115 - Dealing With ONEitis - Can't get your mind off that one girl? Have you made an idol of your spouse or female attention? This is a grave error that virtually every man struggles with at some point in life. How can you stop the idolatry and re-orient your life toward Christ in a way that doesn't sacrifice your ability to build healthy relationships with women?