A brother in my bible study txt chat sent this out to our group. I am a part of a bible study men's group and we have weekly meetups. lately on zoom because of the china virus.

"A woman becomes a reflection of how you treat her. If you dont like how she is acting, look at how you are treating her"

I responded to the group:

I touched on this last Friday. I know I kept making your gears turn brothers and I know I frustrate the men sometimes. Our women are an extension of us but that doesn't make them a clear reflection. We in our christian, male ego invested, idealistic world, have this concept that was sold to us by individuals who just didn't cover all grounds in the past. Like the idea of us as men submitting to God, then the wife "will" submit to us, and so forth.....that mentality is no different than saying if you do ABC you will get XYZ.....well in this world it doesn't work like that. Not when two sinners are involved in a relationship.

You can do absolutely everything you know how (at the time) and that doesn't guarantee the "expected" or "guaranteed" outcome.... that train of thought is like saying to the unbeliever, "come to God and your life will be great!"..... that is just not the whole truth. We know you are still going to go through struggles and pain even after you turn to God. The difference now is you have the faith that HE will help you through it and the understanding that when this hard life is done, you will get the supreme life after.... treating a woman a certain way doesn't guarantee a certain outcome.

I know plenty of couples where the man treats his woman like a queen and she treats him like a jester. I know couples where the woman treats him like a king and she gets treated like a jester. .... ultimately I keep referring back to the belief of being the best man you could possibly be, following your God given purpose, and that form of excellence brings the right woman the inspiration to be the best woman she can be. It doesn't guarantee it, but in the end, the man does what he needs to in this life.... just some food for thought.