I’m 20, M, Catholic, and recently have been on a couple of dates with a 20 year-old, non-Catholic Christian woman. Met online and had been talking almost every day and finally a couple weeks ago had our first in-person date. It went as well as it possibly could have. I really enjoyed talking to her and being with her. Our second date was earlier this week and we began talking about sex, purity, waiting until marriage, etc. Without disclosing here too much of what she said, she revealed to me that she experienced abuse roughly two years ago. Tough, traumatic situation. She had a close male friend (not Christian) who helped her through this tough time in her life and it brought them very close together. About a year after the abuse and a year ago from today, she told me that he had convinced her to sleep with him. For her, he came from a place of trust and abused that for his own pleasure. She was very upset with him, repented to the Lord, and stopped talking to him. Later on he apologized, she forgave him, and they started to become friends again. To this day, they are still friends (while not as close as they once were) and he still checks in on her to see how she’s doing. This made me uncomfortable, as a virgin who is saving myself for marriage. I expressed to her that long term I would not be able to move forward with her if she remained friends with him. Like I said, I’d only known her for a month and a half. I feel like she shouldn’t have to end friendships for me, but I feel like it is something she should do just for the benefit of her future spouse, even if it isn’t me. I told her that I can’t expect her to end a friendship for me but it is a dealbreaker and she said she couldn’t do that, so I said it is probably best then to end things. We were both kind of upset about that but I think it was best. Tell me if I’m wrong, but I don’t think I’m crazy for wanting to move forward with a clean slate and wanting her to forget about the mistakes in her past. I recognize that she shouldn’t have to end the friendship for me, but I also think it’s for her own good. In other words, I think that this friendship is not good for her and that she should want to end the friendship on her own. Thoughts?