Stats: 21m, full-time student,163 lbs, 5'11", 14% bf, 48% muscle, 23 BMI
About four months ago, I asked out a Christian girl I know somewhat well from my university. She said that "we were friends" and that she was "not at that headspace right now." With her response, I moved on, but lately I find myself hoping that she'll come around. I guess part of me hopes that she would be interested but she just wasn't in a healthy position to date (one of her friends told me that she was still processing a breakup). I made it clear that I wanted to respect her as a friend first if that's how she viewed things. After this, I kinda felt guilty because I stopped interacting with her as much and wasn't sure if I would come off as shallow for interacting with her as a crush and not as a friend as well. But I also feel guilty interacting with her because I don't want to become "the nice guy friend," and didn't want to further pursue a friendship with me hoping that it would eventually turn into something.
I know that if anything, the ball is in her court, but I'm finding myself thinking about her a lot, and I recognize that this is an unhealthy mindset.
I think part of the problem is that I'm not finding myself being able to meet other Christian women in communities. I don't know a ton of strong Christian women at my college, and it's harder to meet people with covid (student organizations aren't meeting in person, classes are online, etc). And a lot of strong Christians and friends that I do know are Catholic (i have nothing against Catholicism, but it's harder to see myself marrying a Catholic because of the sacrifices/differences involved in a relationship). I like to compliment women when I'm around campus and stuff, but asking out women who aren't involved in campus ministry is a crapshoot.
Another question I have is how should single guys approach friendships with women? I have a few women that I'm closer friends with, but I'm much more close with my guys. Should simple friendships with women develop mostly in group settings? I'm not attracted to the women I'm friends with, but is it a bad idea to pursue friendships with attractive women? I cant say Ive done that outside of group settings.
Anyways, I would appreciate feedback. God bless!
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