Men need to stop blaming themselves for things that’s not their fault.

1) The Bible is clear that sexual satisfaction is a right, NOT something you have to earn.

1 Corinthians 7:5 Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

The Bible does not say “If your frame is totally awesome, you can have some sex”.

The Bible is clear that depriving one another sexually is wrong.

Therefor, if a husband is being constantly rejected, then it is not him who must “improve his frame”, but the wife who must not deprive him. Improving is good, but not a compensation for sinful behaviour.

1 Peter 3 Wives, respect and obey your husbands in the same way. Then the husbands who do not obey the word of God will want to know God. They will want to know God because their wives live good lives, even though they say nothing about God.

The reason you think you need to improve your frame to get sex is because we’re so culturally far from a TRUE red pilled society, that you compensate with self improvement rather than advocate obedience, as almost every church used to do prior to the feminist movement.

2) If your wife cheats on you, steals from you, and constantly lies to you, it’s her fault, not yours. You are not responsible for her action. You may make yourself an authority figure, and thereby allow her to more easily listen to you out of respect, but at the end of the day, it is her choice on how she treats you.

3) An interesting example of self improvement NEVER being enough is Steph Curry.

He’s one of the greatest basketball players today, MVP, attractive, tall, millionaire, muscular, everyone loves him, women are attracted to him, and his fame is beyond measure. His frame is higher than mine, yours, and most men on the planet.

And yet, his wife Ayesha Curry recently said on a talk show that she “wishes I could get more male attention too.”.

If Steph Curry’s self improvement can’t hold down his woman, how can any of ours? Why? Because hypergamy. A woman’s obedience is not dependent on your frame. At any moment, a woman may decide she wants another man. That is NOT your fault. You are NOT responsible for her hypergamous nature.

Red pill states that you may improve your frame so that she is less inclined to act out her hypergamous nature, but at the end of the day, she can do whatever she wants. The Bible teaches her to NOT act out her hypergamous nature and be loyal. That is the true red pill.