Hey everyone, I’m new around here and have a simple question. Does marriage make sense from a male’s perspective? I’ve read God’s word and essentially, males are expected to:

  1. Provide for their families, no questions asked. Any man who does not provide for his family is considered worse than an infidel and has denied the faith

  2. Love his wife as Christ loves the church and practice forgiveness, even for tough things to swallow like infidelity.

  3. Obey the laws of the land, which means signing a marriage contract with the state that leaves them open to “divorce rape” and possible loss of their immediate family and house, and finances/standard of living.

Pay attention to that last point. This is all hard to swallow for me, but it’s made worse by the fact that:

-1. I went to private Christian school, church etc. my entire life. Half of these girls were sleeping around by middle/high school, and if they weren’t, they generally were by college. We know that higher partner counts/ n counts leads to higher chances of divorce. I can honestly say that I’ve never met a “Christian” woman that I would trust at this point in my life. Many of these women essentially are living/were living a “prostitute-lite” lifestyle and from what some of them have told me, seem to have a decently high n-count.

  1. Maybe I need to find a new church, but it seems like many evangelical “come as you are” churches are generally down on men and say that men are horrible communicators/big oafs that mess things up, even though our first pastor’s wife left him due to feeling “neglected (while failing to communicate this and she didn’t want to work things out).” They literally had everything, beautiful kids, nice house, built the church together etc. but she presumably ran off with some other guy.

  2. Christian divorce rates and infidelity rates are pretty high. I’ve actually read a few stories of infidelity on this very sub, and I don’t think I could continue a marriage with someone who (please excuse my vulgar language) let another guy have his way with her, probably screaming out his name etc. if I did divorce, I could lose everything.

Bottom line, I truly don’t understand why I should risk everything for one female? I used to be a blue pill oaf who thought that just because you do things God’s way, you’ll get a perfect Christian marriage. The truth is, satan is working overtime, life is messy, and things don’t turn out as we expect them to. Since roughly 50% of marriages have infidelity in them, there is a pretty great chance that I and many on this sub will have to deal with it at some point (and yes, I realize I could be the cheater too).

Why risk it all? If sex was not a thing and celibacy was not my only other option from a Christian perspective, the choice would be abundantly easy for me.