How does a man go about escalating and keeping inline with God's laws.

Verbally only? Non sexually? How different would it be for dates 1,2, and 3

Also, what are some good guidelines about topic conversations on dates 1,2 and 3. I'm guessing number of desired kids on date 1 is too fast, and what color does she like on date 3 too boring.

What do you suggest?

Happy New year everyone.