So since this is a new subreddit, with a somewhat different perspective than MRP and TRP, I wanted to ask what brought you to the Red Pill in the first place?

  • What was the issue you were looking to solve?

  • Can you summarize the advice you were given?

  • How did it differ from the advice the church gives (or gave, if you took your problem to them)?

  • If you got advice that you put into practice, was it successful?

  • Where did you look first, or what did you Google that led you to Married RP and Christian RP? How much searching did you have to do before you made it here?

  • Did your faith in Christ have any bearing on what you wrote (or didn't write) there? Did you feel comfortable speaking about your faith, or did you feel compelled to hide it or ignore that part of your story?

  • How much of a part do you think the church / your faith contributed to the problems in your marriage? What are you doing, or considering doing, differently as a result?

  • If you've already posted in MRP, AskMRP or TRP sharing your story, please link it so we can see the advice you were given.

I'll start with mine. I've been a member of MRP for almost 2 years now. Here is my original post.

  • The issue I was looking to solve was a lack of respect from my wife.

  • The advice I got was to fix my frame, and since I was so clueless about ANY of this, the explanations I got as to why it was happening in the first place were key to bringing about change. I was basically told to man up and have a backbone - that I needed to be a leader in my home (I thought I was, but I really wasn't) and in my life, and stop letting people walk all over me. I was told by one flaired user that "you've spent your whole life setting yourself on fire to keep other people warm." That was like a punch in the gut for me.

  • The advice I've always gotten from the church goes something like "Take it to the Lord in prayer (I did - Oh, how I did!), communicate your needs more to your wife (as if I hadn't been), submit to one another (funny, I was always the one who ended up submitting), compromise to keep each other happy and work together (sure, because I, the master of compromise, could compromise EVEN MORE, RIGHT?).

  • The advice I was given has been VERY successful. But it has taken time. u/BluePillProfessor says one month for every year you've been married, but I've found in my marriage that the change has taken much longer. Maybe that's due to me, but the pace I've been keeping has worked for me (going on 24 months now, married for 9 years). I think most of us have a tendency to go Rambo at first, so taking it nice and slow made the changes naturally fall into place.

  • I looked online for answers for a couple years before I came here. I looked at mainstream Christian-based advice, manipulation tactics, control tactics, deep conversion / long term relationship stuff, Christian blogs, you name it. But I finally Googled "How do I get my wife to respect me?" and it led me to MRP. I immediately dove in to the sidebar and started reading, but ended up posting earlier than I thought I should because it hit the fan at my house right about that time. I'm glad I did, because I never would have figured out where I was going wrong specifically without the insight provided in the comments to my post.

  • I didn't feel compelled to "hide" my faith per se, but I didn't mention it in my post either because I didn't want the criticism of my faith to overshadow any useful advice I would receive. I would've answered honestly if anyone asked, but I just didn't feel that it was an appropriate venue to bring up the subject of faith in Christ.

  • The church didn't contribute to the problems in my marriage beyond the "Happy wife, happy life" advice I was given. I was a Career Beta and as blue as they come, regardless of my faith. My faith itself was the typical "turn the other cheek" Christian mindset, which I believe contributed significantly to everything. I think having a more Red Pill perspective toward the Bible has helped me see that Jesus wasn't weak - He was quite the opposite, speaking boldly to His opposition. I have a file of Red Pill truths that I refer to daily, edited for curse words and brevity. It is stuff that I feel specifically applies to my weak areas, and it has been modified as needed to match Biblical truth. What is not Biblical gets discarded if I cannot align it with what I believe (get a mistress on the side, for instance).

So let's hear your story, fellow Christians.