Given the very large influx of people we've had over the last month (from 850 to over 1,250), it's worth drawing attention to our rules, which are located on the sidebar. I know the new redesign of reddit is not sidebar-friendly and often cuts things off or just doesn't show it at all. This is a frustration to us all. Nevertheless, that's the only way I know of posting community-wide standards.

To that end, we have just added a new standard to ensure that the quality of posts and discussion remains high and each new post isn't flooded with (1) requests for more information or (2) bad advice because it's predicated on false assumptions about how far along in his MAP each poster may be. Here it is:

ALL posts asking for dating/marriage help must include the following:

  • Stats: body fat, height, weight, lifts, etc.

  • Reading: Which sidebar content you've read (RPC and/or MRP)

  • Finances: Current job and income quality, future prospects, debt issues

  • Spiritual: How mature you are, how often you pray, have quiet times, share your faith, memorize Scripture, etc.

If you do not follow this rule, your post will be removed with a request from one of the mods that you edit it to include this information before we will re-approve it. If you have already given the information in a past post, you're free to link to your past post unless there have been updates worth noting (and if your post is over 2 months old, I seriously hope there are!). Of course, exceptions may apply if the above information is totally irrelevant to the question being asked, such as asking about Scriptural interpretation or how hypergamy works or some other theory-based content that is unrelated to specific dating/marriage help.

The reason we need this information is because it is impossible to give an accurate answer without it. If you're asking why your wife blew her lid when you didn't take out the trash and how to handle it if that happens again ... if you're fit, make good money, OYS, godly, etc. then it's probably one answer and we will give you a tailored solution ... but if you're obese, unemployed, and fight her every Sunday morning because you don't feel like going to church, there's a totally different answer that would not be appropriate at all to tell the other guy. If you leave us to make assumptions, then I'm going to ask you to make one too: assume we will make the wrong assumptions every time. Don't get mad when we do. That's on you if you don't give us enough information, not us.

If anyone has more suggestions on how to further improve the quality and quantity of content posted on this sub, please use this thread as an open forum for making such suggestions and discussing new ideas!