I read UncleVasiliys post on /trp regarding marriage versus staying single and then read some /mrp stuff and it pretty much created a tough dilemma.
I want marriage because I want all the good that comes from it. I want to obey God and be pure sexually. I want one woman. I want kids. I want to live in a house but have a home.
But, day by day. Post by post. Observing other marriages. Observing female nature. How 2 people are constantly at war with each other directly and indirectly, no matter if you are the top 5% man in all categories.
I love women, I really do but their solipsistic, passive, narcissistic, hypergamous nature creates more cons than pros. The juice just isn’t worth the squeeze.
I know I’m not alone in this. I’m sure women think similarly about the current state of men.
I really want to do right by God and I also want to have sex but why does it seem like I’d be taking myself to the slaughterhouse?
Maybe I haven’t met a true Christian girl? Whatever that even means nowadays...
Married guys - if you were to redo things, what would you have done differently? Have you weighed out the pros and cons now that you’ve experienced marriage?
I’m just gonna be real, I may just end up smashing all these chicks. You can judge me if you want, I’ll take the criticism/advice. I know it’s not a good thought. Staying celibate for life? Not an option. Marriage? Slowly becoming an unattractive idea.
Before TRP, I literally thought the world wasn’t so bad. I was unaware of all the deceit, the lying, the manipulation. I thought I’d get a girl and have a great marriage and have a great family that’ll strive for the good fruit in life. I thought bad people were here and there, just the crazy ones you hear about on the TV trying to rob someone. And it was all a lie, just a big joke on everyone. Initially, TRP stung, now I just expect it. It’s become mundane like gray matter.
Honestly, there is no biblical verse that can change the reality of modern life. There’s no magic word I can use in prayer for God to send me a Unicorn. This is life. It’s dirty, temporary, and you’ll get burned.
Embracing the suck and slowly growing cold towards the way of man is all I can do. I just roll with the punches and learn how to manage change because change is inevitable and uncontrollable. The days are long and the years are short.
Is it possible to turn things around on a global scale? What would it take to create change for the better?
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