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What would you do if you were suddenly single?

June 20, 2020
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Whether by some tragic accident or unforeseen circumstance, imagine you found yourself single tomorrow. If all of a sudden you found yourself back in the sexual market place (SMP), would you be ready? For most men in LTRs, the answer is no.

So what would you do if you suddenly had to compete in the SMP again?

Would you start taking lifting seriously? Actually track your eating to lose weight? Take the time to dress better and not just wear athletic clothes? Shave that patchy half-beard lab experiment gone wrong?

For most of us something comes to mind when considering this hypothetical. Whatever that something is, it is the something you should be doing now.

So get to it.

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Title What would you do if you were suddenly single?
Author OsmiumZulu
Upvotes 38
Comments 20
Date June 20, 2020 11:37 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit /r/RPChristians
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[–]Ecosure118 points9 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

My wife works in Assisted Living world, so this is not an uncommon discussion for us. First, understand if you are 40,50,60 and you are a guy, you are a rockstar in this setting. It can almost be overwhelming. I go to events at different facilities and the single women quiz my wife, who are unaware that I'm her husband, about me. I understand how the prom queen feels. Only difference, the bar is set a bit lower. I'm in pretty good physical shape, have most of my teeth, a house, and can dance. That puts you into the Sean Connery bracket with these ladies. I really love my wife and it is difficult to see life without her. So I have no desire to want to be in the position of being back as a commodity dating. But my wife says she has no plans to life long enough to go to Senior living so she may be shoving me out on the dance floor!

[–]Red-CuriousMod | 35M | Married 12 yrs5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

This comment makes me smile.

[–]Ecosure112 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Thanks!

[–]sliprymdgt3 points4 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Clarifying: you’re saying if you’re 40 - 60 and can dance... you’re a hit with elderly ladies in assisted living situations?

Well, that’s not nothing to look forward to I guess!

[–]Ecosure112 points3 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Well, yes I should have clarified there is a range of expectations with younger women. But here is a strange twist regarding younger women and older men. We live in major University town and know quite a few young women in their late 20's to 30's. We were a bit surprised last year when a young woman who we are very close to, at age 29 married a guy 58. She is bright, attractive and had dated a number of guys in her age range. She found them immature and more threatened by her intelligence and drive. So, in this man she found someone pretty comfortable with himself who supported her desire to get more education and pursuit of different paths in life. He is in great physical shape and looks 10 years younger. They get along very well and his "kids" all supported and loved her well. So, I posed the question to a number of single young women "if you found a man that was 15 or even 20 years older than you that was mature in life, in his faith, and deeply loved and respected you, would you marry him? Every single one has said yes. There is research supporting it as well. So it seems once you hit a certain point, you can go either young or older. Pretty crazy.

[–]sliprymdgt0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Thanks for that clarification +, I figured you meant something like that but there’s some really good insight there.

Do you have an estimate of how many young women you asked that question to?

[–]Ecosure110 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Six...and I still ask when the situation is right. What they are looking for is someone who doesn't live in their parent's basement, play video games, want to exist on easy mac and energy drinks. Their sense is the good ones are taken.

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[–]OsmiumZuluMod | Tulip Peddler | Married 7y[S] 13 points14 points  (8 children) | Copy Link

You're a Christian all the time and most Christians men are unattractive most of the time.

This shouldn't be the case.

[–]DWargz2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Definitely depends on your group of friends. I feel like most Christians I meet these days are practically models, and yes I'm referring to the men mainly.

[–]Bearman6373 points4 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

Depends on if your gunning for a partner or not. I dont think the apostle paul was an attractive man. Nor did he need to be.

[–]verticalquandry9 points10 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Paul wouldnt necessarily be attractive in face but he would be fit, clean, strong of mind, and devoted to god.

[–]Bearman6371 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

None of what you stated gets a man a girl. Godliness isnt attraction. Thats the number one thing i learned here.

Paul was a dweeb and thats ok. Lets not pretend he was some CHAD.

2 Cor 10:10

For some say, "His letters are weighty and forceful, but his physical presence is unimpressive, and his speaking is of no account."

1 Cor 2:3

3 I came to you in weakness and fear, and with much trembling.

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Paul was not an attractive man by RPChristian standards.

[–]verticalquandry2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Godliness isn't attraction? Have you ever met a man who is fit, clean, and one of the brightest people on the planet? I bet tons of people would find that attractive

[–]ZacMac214 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Whether your gunning for a partner or not, you should still take care of yourself. But yes you're right

[–]RemingtonSloan9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Garbage. He was probably the most attractive of men, covered in manly scars, bearing a manly beard and a shaved head. Probably had to beat the ladies off with a Torah. That's the thorn in his side.

(I'm being facetious.)

[–]Red-CuriousMod | 35M | Married 12 yrs5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I've literally asked myself this exact question a few dozen times over the last couple years. I'm glad you put up a post on it. It's the proper frame of mind for married men to be processing their sexual goals and why they may not be achieving them.

[–]soundwavecollector1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I married an Aspie who needs unusually blunt communication. If I were suddenly single, relearning how to communicate with a woman without mowing her over with bluntness would likely be my biggest challenge.

Physically, mentally, and spiritually I’ve never been in a better place, now in my 40s.

[–]Willow-girlParticipation Trophy Wife0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

That would be my worst nightmare, lol.

[–]PraexologyEndorsed0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Grieve, I might be a narcissistic sociopath, but I still have at least 1 feeling for my wife.

Lol.

To answer the question you're looking for, I'd just hit up any of the girls that lurk on my FB or Insta, or any of my past or current clients that came onto me.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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