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How should i manage my sister?

March 25, 2017

So I usually take care of my sister and I basically taught her pretty much almost everything she knows.

I'm 18 and she's 8. But I told her to sit down due to her acting up and accidently hurting a sibling. I wasn't going to have her seated for a long time. But anyways she got up and took her phone from the table.

I told her she couldn't play with the phone for now and she still stayed on the phone. I took the phone changed the password and while I was doing that she kept asking what I was doing. I told her to stay seated and she kept getting up trying to see what I was doing.

Changed the password and she cried. She stayed seated after that.

I told her "you can't have the phone now because you kept getting up after I told you to stay still. You need to listen."

She was mad and crying but not screaming or any of that. Now the phone is taken away and she's playing with a sibling.

Idk if I was wrong or what to do. What do you think? Idk how to manage a child much.

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[–]donedreadpirate[🍰] 6 points7 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

You did fine. Set standards and enforce them. Consequences for actions. You are the elder. Stay firm.

[–]wayc00ljr points points [recovered] | Copy Link

That was perfect guidance. She lived through it. I truly don't know why she has a phone anyway, but that's not my business. My kids didn't get phones until 16 and I felt that was early.

[–]ForcaRothbard2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

You should explain more. "Now you can't have the phone because you need to understand that you were hurting your sibling. I need you to sit and think about how your actions led to you hurting him/her. If you can explain how you think your actions hurt him and what you will do to prevent that in the future then you are free to go and have your phone back"

Natural consequences are superior and when you give good explanations it helps the younger one learn to reason better and partake in introspection.

Remember it is natural for her to seek freedom and assert her autonomy. You don't want to punish her for that unless it is hurting someone else (or their property) or will seriously hurt her.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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