As we move forward as a new community, it is important that we are all on the same page about our focus and purpose. I have copied the "All About RPW" post from the wiki so that we can discuss! Please also ask any questions you may have. Thank you so much for your support and welcome to /r/RedPillWives <3

The women of /r/RedPillWives are self-aware individuals that work to identify and correct their weaknesses, while increasing their value as much as possible in order to attract (or keep) a quality masculine man. This subreddit is a space where novices, naturals, and everyone in between can exchange ideas with like-minded people.

We align ourselves with the thinkers of the early years of the manosphere, and continue in the tradition of developing theory and strategy, this time specifically for women. We agree with the original Red Pill ideas presented nearly a decade ago, which rest on the differences in male and female nature, as well as the competing sexual objectives of each gender. We believe that embracing traditional dynamics within our relationship yields harmony, and that mainstream relationship advice is unable to provide realistic pathways to happiness.

This community is for women of all ages, who are either married or interested in marriage. It is most applicable to those in the West, specifically Americans, as the issues that Red Pill ideas deal with are a direct result of Western feminism and other modern trends.

What does it mean to be an /r/RedPillWives member?

  • /r/RedPillWives subscribers seek to understand how and why men and women are different, so that we can approach our SO’s (or dating in general) with open eyes. We prioritise our men, and allow them to be themselves. We defer to their leadership and fully trust them to have the best interest of the relationship in mind.

  • RPWs recognize that as women, we have a lot of advantages when it comes to dating, attracting and keeping a mate. We understand and sympathize with the hoops men have to jump through, and the fact that masculinity is often discouraged and attacked in today’s world.

  • Single RPWs work to minimize negative characteristics, and improve their physical and emotional appeal. Casual sex, FWBs, and no-strings dynamics can be harmful to women, so we encourage women seeking marriage to be cautious, careful, and patient when it comes to dating.

  • We emphasize femininity and reject the modern, feminist conception of an ideal woman. Psychological femininity is the core of RPW. Your appearance can be a reflection of who you truly are, or it can be a superficial attempt to be something you are not. Authentic femininity starts on the inside. Cosplaying as a feminine woman only prevents true, lasting change.

What is /r/RedPillWives not about?

  • RPW is not about being a stay at home mother. If you have a job, handle the finances, or are the breadwinner, that does not mean that you cannot apply RP ideas to your life.

  • RPW is not about being a woman who wears exclusively vintage clothing, or wants to return to the 1950s.

  • RPW is not a sexual fetish, kink, or lifestyle. It has nothing to do with BDSM, OTK, Gor, or anything remotely similar.

  • RPW is not about repressing your sexuality, or being a prude. We advise that women choose who they sleep with selectively and that they understand the potential consequences of a high partner count or rushing into bed with the wrong person.

  • RPW is not about wearing makeup, pink, bows, glitter, or any other superficial indication of femininity. If you naturally enjoy that, wonderful! But it is in no way a requirement to have a successful relationship, and most women need to spend more time improving their personality and behaviour above all else.

  • RPWs are not doormats. We only defer to one man, our SO, and we can only do this because we trust and respect him completely. Everyone must earn our trust, kindness, and respect.

  • RPW is not about missing out on life. What is most important is that you acknowledge reality, accept responsibility for yourself, and deal with the consequences of your choices. So have fun, use “bad” words, drink, take risks! Be a pleasant and enjoyable person that your SO loves to spend time with :)