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[–]gabilromariz6 points7 points8 points 8 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
This is one of my favorite things ever written. I refer to it from time to time to ensure I am working to maximize my looks and recommend it to everyone I know.
Looking good isn't limited to looking sexy. With the exception of the "nakedness" point, everything else applies to every other walk of life where better looking people are given an advantage such as school, work, making friends and generally getting things your way. Everyone is nicer to a good looking person than to a schlub
[–]smallpeachmid-20s, dating3 points4 points5 points 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Yes!
It is very uplifting to me too, since I sometimes feel down about not being genetically blessed with curves or a feminine face.
[–]gabilromariz4 points5 points6 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It has been helpful to me to start seeing beauty in the same way as brains. I may not have the very best on earth but I'm putting what I do have to very good use and it's plenty for my needs :)
[–]dropit_reborn5 points6 points7 points 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
One thing I have found is that many of the barriers are mental rather than practical---which isn't to say they're not real! If when you were younger girls who wore a certain style were mean to you, that could create associations that perhaps aren't necessary now, ten or twenty years later :).
Drawing from the article, "going to the gym" isn't really that hard. Remaking your identity into "someone who regularly goes to the gym" is...well, it's not easy, at any rate.
[–]Camille11325[S] 1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This is so spot on!
[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Anytime I start to feel a bit blah , I re-read this post.
The saying ,"There are no Ugly women, only Lazy ones" is also very true. .
My Grandmother always used to say "You have to suffer to be beautiful".. Good one to remember at the gym when the pain starts to set in.
[–][deleted] 3 points3 points3 points 8 years ago | Copy Link
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Absolutely, especially since there is so much information available for free online. Even genetics isn't that much of an excuse. Your natural features can be managed with makeup, properly fitted and flattering outfits, nice hair styles, plastic surgery or other cosmetic procedures, etc.
[–]Unicorn98624, Married 4 years, 5 total2 points3 points4 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I really love this. One thing I've taken issue with recently is my WHR. Being pregnant the first thing that happens to me (I'm talking that first week I get pregnant) is that my waist thickens even more so than it already is. It makes me feel so unfeminine. So I'm glad to see that whilst of course it matters, it's not a huge portion of your overall attractiveness.
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I reread this and it's always so good! There's no point in spending energy on the minutiae of your facial structure/eyeshadow color/etc when you're overweight/have lank, unattractive hair.
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Replying to myself to add: maybe I should spend less time on making my manicures perfect and more time cooking healthy food/making my hair better, huh. So much of what I do as day-to-day beauty maintenance is more about making me feel better than making me attractive to others.
Yes this is a great way to look at it and I hope you follow through!
[–]BeautifulSpaceCadet 1 points1 points1 points 8 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
People like to be told there is nothing they can do and it's just the luck of the draw; it absolves them of responsibility for being presentable and accountable for their looks.
You are a mean woman for shattering their illusions with this evil article /s.
[–]Camille11325[S] 1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Lol I hope I triggered some people with this submission.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I think this is one of those initial blog posts that made me uneasy when I first joined RPW, because it's one of the biggest things to unlearn if you were raised in today's feminist culture: I can't help how I look, so screw those vain, ungrateful men!!
Yeah, that's BS.
How you present yourself to the world is critical and if you don't take seriously your appearance, demeanor, etc, why should anyone respond in kind? I still feel some resentment that when I am <120 lbs, and wear a sew-in weave, and put on makeup, that men in any room do a 180 and treat me differently (let's be real, they treat me more nicely) but that's LIFE. I just need to get over it.
And really, I had to do some thinking on why it was such a big deal to me to look nice or put more effort into my appearance. If I'm willing to do the song and dance for my career, why not for my potential boyfriend or husband, who is gonna last much longer than some job on my resume??? It's just blatant dismissal of your SO's value in your life when you care more about the vain opinions of strangers than his desire to want you.
Best believe this sew-in is staying SEWED IN, okay?? I have been putting way more effort into my overall look and while it's more work, I definitely feel more confident at work and while dating and it's paying off.
[–]jade_cat1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
How you present yourself to the world is critical and if you don't take seriously your appearance, demeanor, etc, why should anyone respond in kind?
Exactly. The saying "First impressions are half the battle" didn't spring out of nowhere.
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