So basically we're getting a new car. Well, he is. I've been the owner of both of our previous vehicles and now it's his turn (as he is now the main income as well).

I want him to do this process on his own because I find it's making me irrationally angry and nagging. I hate it, I don’t like what this situation is doing to me and after trying to find ways to curb my behaviour I realize the issue is I’m tired of being a part of it. It’s been two months, just buy the damn car already and stop asking me to be your second thought for every flipping question out there!!

I don't mind helping him shop for the cars, or going to look at them. I just don't want to be involved in the entire breakdown of the process, the parking pass, comparing one model of a car to another, the FINANCIALS.

I snapped on him today about the parking pass, swore at him. I'm very ashamed of how I reacted. We've dealt with that, but I realize it wasn't that specific moment that caused me to lose my composure and self, but it's the entire process.

So ladies, help me out here. He is more than capable of doing all of this myself, he doesn't need my second opinion because it can lead to him wanting me to take control. Only he doesn't want me to control this situation and I can't handle being involved and being tugged back and forth between him wanting my help and wanting none of it. I feel like him asking for my opinion/direction is only making the process go slower and I’m starting to hamster.

So I want to opt out completely. I want him to do all of this himself. His dad just bought a car less than a year ago as has his bestfriend. So he could easily ask for their help.

I get he wants my opinion, but this has been going on so long, I'm exhausted, thinking about this car makes me want to scream and cry.