Ladies, today is the Eve of my 30th Birthday

teaandtalk · 2017-07-18T23:50:10+00:00

What are you going to do now your life is over and your worth as a woman is gone? /s

Congratulations on (almost) ten years, on weight loss, on a lovely baby, etc! If you keep on the way you're going, your 30s will be even better than your 20s!

No suggestions here (I'm 27) but looking forward to hearing reflections from the slightly older ladies :) (not like 'older ladies' in a bad way, just 'older than me').

[deleted] · 2017-07-19T01:04:04+00:00

Happy (almost) birthday! That oh so scary prospect of aging never seems so bad when you have the perfect partner at your side doesn't it? I'm guessing the bulk of those who are afraid probably have a lot regrets about things!

I'm hoping I approach my 30th next month with your same grace and gratitude, though. Gotta remember all the really, really good stuff! But there are a few things I certainly would have done differently approaching 30 now that I have hindsight but you can't dwell. My biggest would be having my baby earlier. To any of the ladies who are on the fence about children and holding off until their 30s, I wouldn't. Younger 20s bodies are so much kinder post partum bounce back than 30s according to many of the older women I met during my pregnancy. I'm lucky I had this first one before 30 but my plan for another one next year might be tricky. I can't change that, however, so I won't worry too much.

I think that's the biggest takeaway for me, though - live your life each day at a time and don't get so focused on the what ifs of tomorrow. My father has a morbid, but sobering saying of 'you're only promised today, not tomorrow'. Puts things into perspective whenever I feel anxious about things in the future.

TVEMisty · 2017-07-19T00:46:31+00:00

I am loving my 30's over my 20's. I'm actually looking forward to my 40's, still a few years off. I feel more confident in myself than I was in my 20's and I'm sure my 40's will even be better.

[deleted] · 2017-07-19T12:17:49+00:00

Happy Birthday :)

rebeccabrixton · 2017-07-19T15:57:52+00:00

Any woman I know who hated turning 30 didn't have their shit together, we can admit it ladies we're a little smug. Your 30s are awesome when you're secure (touch wood, can't go taking our family and health for granted now). Still young and have beauty on our side, usually a career and have cut the fat from our toxic friends due to wisdom gained through experience. Oh yes I love my 30s. Welcome.

[deleted] · 2017-07-19T16:00:34+00:00

I am so excited to turn 30 in September. I've accomplished everything I wanted in my twenties. I have a master's degree in library and information studies and I'm working full time in a great, well paying, system as a teen librarian. I'm at a healthy weight and I do my makeup and dress cute every day. I married a wonderful man this May and I don't have much debt left, besides my federal student loans, which will be forgiven under Public Service Loan Forgiveness in seven more years.

I spaced things out a bit, so my 30s are going to be when I buy a home and start a family and manage to become debt free (aside from a mortgage). The Red Pill typically preaches young marriage, but it's worked out well for me, getting married at 29. I'm so glad that I'll be in a good place economically and emotionally when I'm a mom.

SigmaAlphaMark · 2017-07-22T03:07:05+00:00

I am excited for you to be thirty- I am 32 and I can tell you that I have so much more confidence/faith in myself than even my late twenties! You're really going to find over the next couple years how you feel secure in yourself and your accomplishments in life! You will find that you know who you are and why you are the way you are, and you will really care less and less what other people think of you, or whether they like you...because you know who you are and you don't need their approval, or have time for their petty issues! It's very freeing!

kekerae · 2017-07-22T21:31:37+00:00

Happy belated birthday! Sounds like an awesome decade of your life that you built some great things upon and as though you learned a lot to use going forward.

I'll be 30 in about a year and a quarter. Since I was 20 I:

Broke up with my high school boyfriend
Met my now husband
Was fired from a job I liked (such a low point)
Travelled (Europe, Alaska, Nevada, Hawaii, etc.)
Started and completed a Bachelor's Degree
Became engaged
Was married!
Bought my first home
Got pregnant and had a baby girl
Moved to the "north" and got to experience true Canadian winters
Got pregnant again with another baby girl (coming soon)

And I've still got another year + to add to that list. Writing it out like that makes me feel really proud.

I've learned that less is more when it comes to close female friends. I really don't have a big quantity of friends and I've realized I just don't have the personality to maintain 20 relationships. I'm focusing on a handful of meaningful relationships and trying to foster better ones with female relatives like cousins and sister in laws.
I've learned to shut up every once in a while. I'm very talkative and this can be hard in my marriage. I'm working on getting better at biting my tongue. Sometimes I have to turn around and make a silly face to keep from making snarky comment, haha.
I've learned I will have to keep working hard on my figure to stay looking great. I gained 45+ pounds with my first pregnancy and losing that weight was a real pain in the you know what...literally. Now I'm on track to gain quite a bit less this time around and I'm just trying to stay focused so I can achieve that goal. Looking to gain 30 or less.

TempestTcup · 2017-07-25T16:27:32+00:00

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Title	Ladies, today is the Eve of my 30th Birthday
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Date	July 18, 2017 9:00 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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