I feel it needs to be said, RPW is not a panacea for every possible relationship problem.

RPW works to correct certain structural attraction problems with normal to high dominance men. it cant overcome drug addiction, alcoholism, mental illness, perennial low dominance weirdo-ness, or a host of other relationship issues (though it CAN help you deal with those things if you are married and make the conscious decision to stick your marriage out.)

If your SO is not a captain, not dominant in general, defectively weird in 100 ways that dont need to be listed, a pretty dress, a BJ and a more yielding state of mind isnt going to fix anything the time to ROOT OUT men who are ill suited for LTR/marriage is BEFORE marriage. men aren't broken toys that can be fixed with RPW superglue. some relationship problems are down to the PEOPLE IN THEM, and the only RPW or PRACTICAL solution is....NEXT!

By /u/Wingnut

I wanted to expand on this great post. That RPW will not fix a relationship with someone who is not willing to do their part to be a good partner for you. It will not work if he is overly selfish, or careless, or stupid. It only works when our men are willing and able to make the best decisions for us, and when we are able to trust them to do so. By accepting RPW, you are saying that you accept that your man is a good man, that you believe he is capable and willing to lead you to a happy life. If you cannot reconcile that statement, you need to consider leaving your relationship. But the part that I want to focus on today is the “happy life” part.

"The Grass Is Greenest Where You Water It"

Now, we don’t control what our men do, but we can control who they are through the vetting process. But more importantly, we need to avoid relying solely on him for our happiness. We need to make happiness wherever we are, either by living a good life by our own standards, or finding that silver lining when things are less than ideal. We need to bring our own positivity to the situation in order to find happiness. That’s what I mean ‘to water your own grass’: appreciate what you have, find happiness in the little things, and in many cases don’t let perfection get in the way of good enough.

Often times when confronted with BPs the conversation comes to this: “well why can’t he be the one to submit in this (or any) situation?” They ask us this because they assume that our happiness hinges on the outcome of this decision. This outlook is adversarial, and not conducive to a happy relationship since it focuses on what he can do to make you happy when as a RPW you have already accepted that he is making you happy. So in our reality, because we have chosen a good man and because we water our own grass, our happiness isn’t in question at every crossroads. It’s much easier to go with his flow because we know we will be happy regardless of what our SOs decide.