I need some advice on my situation and hoping that someone here has been through something similar.

Up until we married about 1 year ago, everything was great. My husband has always been a take charge kind of man, who had a vision for himself and our family. We had a strong and productive RP dynamic and he was always pushing himself and me to be better.

Since we married, it's like a fire in him just went out. Almost like he's become too comfortable?

He's stopped making active and challenging plans for us. Where in the past he would have taken us out to do something adventurous on the weekend, now he'd rather sit on his phone on the couch.

He used to be careful with what he ate, and between active hobbies and the gym kept in great shape. Nowadays he'd eat burgers for every meal if he could, and isn't doing any physical activity at all. He's drinking a lot of beer, every day. He's lost so much muscle and has put on fat. Where he used to take pride in his appearance, he's now wearing ratty old clothes with stains.

Our sex life has dwindled. He hardly ever initiates anymore. When I initiate, he'll just roll on to his back and tell me to get on top and do all the work. I'm getting the equivalent of starfish sex.

A weird one, but he's started talking to me in this weird baby voice. Like, all our conversations feel childish and cutesy, which over time has just become annoying.

He's stopped helping out around the house at all. We both work full time, so used to both pitch in where we could to keep our house running. This has stopped entirely. If I don't cook, he'll order in. If I don't do the laundry, he'll just leave dirty clothes on the floor. I don't mind doing the majority of the housework, but I'm feeling worn out and disrespected having to do it all entirely on my own.

I can't for the life of me figure out what's changed in him. He doesn't appear to be depressed. He's cheerful and upbeat and spends plenty of time with his friends. He tells me all the time that he's so happy with me and that I'm a wonderful and supportive wife. I've stayed in shape and take a lot of pride in looking after my hair, makeup, diet, etc. It's just like he's become overly comfortable and just stopped trying. I hate to say it, but my attraction to him has started to dwindle as a result of this and I feel us becoming more like roommates than husband and wife.

His work has become busier and more over the last year, but it's a job that he loves and I don't feel like this alone could account for the huge shift in personality that I've seen.

I'd love some tips on how to best deal with this. I feel like I'm steering the ship right now, and never expected to be in this position. He doesn't take well to criticism, so I don't want to say something that's taken the wrong way. I just feel like something really needs to change before this dynamic becomes our new normal. It's making me really unhappy and I don't feel it's good for him either.

Thank you!