This is a quick post inspired by day dreams and random ponderings of my day. Many of us have grappled, either internally or interpersonally, with the claims that men don't care about your education or career or globetrotting escapades or similar. This is largely true.

"But my man loves that I'm a college graduate, he would never date an uneducated woman!"

No, perhaps not. This isn't to say that these traits aren't valued at all, and they will be by some men more than others, but they are either symptomatic of other positive traits you possess, or augment them. Ultimately a shrew with a Masters degree is, well, still a shrew.

We call it a sexual marketplace, and as is the case in any market: commodities are exchanged. Submission is the one I am honing in on in this post, but that's not to say there aren't many more (add in comments if you please!).

Everything you and your prospective partner brings to the table is a commodity. Men as providers, especially dominant men, will value bringing resources home to his family that engender their well-being and (ideally) advance them forward in society. This is something men are proud to do. I'm not saying a successful dynamic can't exist where the woman is the breadwinner, but by and large this is the commodity men want to provide, not seek. Whether your partner is a 6-figure earner or a blue collar worker, it's a rare situation he is not looking to put the pieces of survival together for himself and his woman and family.

"But we aren't all gold diggers here, and realistically we have a reasonable quality of life to maintain; you can't possibly be suggesting that it's feasible for every woman to not work, or that all men would want women to do that."

No, I'm not suggesting that at all. We live in a thing called the real world and cash may not rule everything, but unfortunately it rules an awful lot. There's also a lot to be said about the good a professional passion can bring you personally, which positive passion applied correctly will always trickle benefits into the relationship. What I am suggesting is to not conflate your value with your external successes, and fool yourself into thinking they are bartering pieces to secure a quality relationship. This line of thinking is where the mistake lies.

Commodities quality men do want is companionship: quality companionship. They want someone to make their day lighter and more enjoyable. They want a pleasant person to be around. They want someone who can care for them (not mother them). They want someone who can be understanding of how hard they work, and to be supportive. They want someone to show them they love them by doing and being what a quality and feminine partner can bring them.

They want someone who loves them, who respects them, who demonstrates that love through their respect. They want someone who can lift him to higher heights, rather than stepping on them to get there themselves. They want someone who would follow them into the dark with faith he would never do wrong by them. A faithful and loving follower and their greatest supporter. A submissive woman, this is one of the most precious commodities (and gifts) a woman can offer a man.

These are the commodities you can bring to the table that they cannot otherwise acquire by themselves. No matter how down and out a man can be, the poorest of the poor, the one you could never say "well he doesn't care if his woman doesn't work" because that simply isn't an economic option -- it is always on the table in some form of reality (whether it comes to pass or not) that he can acquire money or tangible resources. He can never acquire a quality companion without a quality woman. A masculine man can only be revered as such by the grace of a woman who truly looks to him as her rock and leader. This cannot be accomplished alone, and it cannot be accomplished by use of your degree or earning power either.

They don't care about your job or how much money you make. It's not important to them. Your deference and treatment offer what nothing else can.