I've been focusing on cleansing myself of unattractive behavioral qualities lately. I'm trying to make fewer lewd jokes, and am trying to cuss less... though I like to work in profanity the way an artist would work in oils or watercolors.
They say profanity is actually good for a person. I'd like the effect of using profanity for myself, without the crass impact using actual profanity has. What do you substitute cuss words with? What other speaking habits do you have, or would you like to have, in order to present yourself as the graceful woman you are?
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I don't use substitute "bad" words, I think those are silly more often than not. I say "oh my gosh" though, but that's for religious purposes not sexual strategy. Never had an issue with using too many bad words/lewd jokes so I'm not sure what advice to give there other than thinking before you speak and being mindful of why you reach for that language if it's something that bothers you. Is it to get attention? A quick way to increase your value in a social setting? Etc.
Is it hard to say that something was terrible/disgusting/etc instead of "shitty"? Or that something is fantastic/wonderful/excellent instead of "really fucking great"? Obviously these are random examples off the top of my head but using descriptive words will definitely help you come across as more graceful.
Speaking properly, avoiding contractions, using proper terms instead of slang, avoiding words used by proles, speaking softer (or at least not being super loud), having a lighter tone of voice <- is this the type of info you mean re: how to speak more gracefully? Some of these things are pretty universal but others could actually be a disadvantage. It depends on your exact situation, because different groups of people have different norms and standards. And deviating too much could lower your status. Or this could totally be my own biases, I just can't see this question as anything other than being about class instead of femininity.
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General reminder: RPW is not anti profanity. If there were any "rule" about speaking it'd just be to tailor your vocabulary, tone, etc to your audience and the situation at hand. Know what your man likes/expects and do that :)
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