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Survived Thanksgiving by Accepting Help

November 29, 2016
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We moved into our new house a week before Thanksgiving, after closing 5 days late. I'm 6 months pregnant and had a bad cold and cough, which I spread to my husband who was just starting to feel awful Thanksgiving morning. We didn't have a sofa or seating in the living room because I'd sold it prior to moving, wanting to pick out new seating for the new house. Didn't have a range or dishwasher until the day before Thanksgiving, and it took my husband and BIL most of the day and 3 trips to Home Depot to install the range. Yet despite all this, we had a lovely Thanksgiving and I didn't lose my cool, or even feel overly stressed. (I had one close call the night before, but with a little time to myself I was able to get my head back on straight.)

It's long been a dream of mine to have a house with a large kitchen and formal dining room, and to have other women in the kitchen helping. I wanted to have all the family events at our house, and have it be a sort of entertainment hub. My husband knows of this dream, and when we were house shopping we picked a house that could support that. So months ago, when our offer was accepted on this house, his family wanted us to host Thanksgiving. I jumped right on that! Once we saw how close the house closing was going to be to Thanksgiving, we tried to back out of hosting, but his family just wasn't having it. They all wanted to help so that we could have Thanksgiving in the new house.

I whipped the house into some sort of shape as fast as I could, picked out a sofa and had it delivered, and did the Thanksgiving food shopping. Figured out when the ladies should come over to help cook and let them know a few days ahead of time. I didn't do any cooking prior to them coming over, just had the recipes out and ready to go.

It was all very smooth and laid back. At one point there were a good five people in the kitchen making various things, everyone had room and was chatting amicably. I gave my husband a big smile, like "this is what I wanted!" He told them a few times that this was my dream, and how much I love hosting. All the food turned out perfectly despite using an untested oven and most everything being out of my control.

Afterwards I had a bit of guilt, thinking that I should have done more. I really let everyone else do the bulk of the work - I wasn't even tired! But the morning after, while at breakfast with his family, everyone wanted to do the same and more at Christmas dinner. They kept throwing out different ways they could help more next time.

So don't be afraid to ask for or accept help, and to share your dreams. You can be a Superwoman Hostess Extraordinaire, or you can have fun with a group of women and have it done in half the time. People want to help, you just have to create a environment where it's welcome. It also helps to marry a man with an awesome, normal family. :)

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Title Survived Thanksgiving by Accepting Help
Author Kittenkajira
Upvotes 15
Comments 11
Date November 29, 2016 7:46 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Great story Kitten!!

I gave my husband a big smile, like "this is what I wanted!"

YAY!!!

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

All the food turned out perfectly despite using an untested oven

ooo risky move there kitten. lol Glad it all turned out. Who'da thunk asking for help could be so rewarding??

[–]Kittenkajira[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I didn't even really think about how risky it was at the time. By then we'd had so many curveballs thrown at us that I was just going with the flow!

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I'm glad the holiday went so well for you! I think it's a lovely dream, and it's wonderful that you've been able to make it a reality. Creating a home full of warmth and love will be such a beautiful backdrop for your baby too.

It sounds like this is only just the beginning of many happy years of laughter, good food, and great company. :0)

[–]Kittenkajira[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

It sounds like this is only just the beginning of many happy years of laughter, good food, and great company.

Yes, I hope so!

[–]QueenBee1262 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Afterwards I had a bit of guilt, thinking that I should have done more. I really let everyone else do the bulk of the work - I wasn't even tired! But the morning after, while at breakfast with his family, everyone wanted to do the same and more at Christmas dinner. They kept throwing out different ways they could help more next time.

Ugh, I can relate so much to this!!! It's like a former feminist guilt "I should be able to do all this myself, I shouldn't be accepting help from others; I am inadequate if I can not do things just by myself"

From the books I have read, so much of being a truly feminine woman is having receptive energy and allowing yourself to be cherished. It sounds like you did this here: by being receptive to others help, you yourself felt cherished; instead of worn out from GIVING so much (masculine energy) you were pleased from RECIEVING (feminine energy)

And from what your man talks about, he seems pretty content that he has been able to give you all that you wanted. Great all around! I hope your Christmas is swell. I've been pinning away recipes :-)

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Aww congratulations! That sounds like such a nice holiday - I bet Christmas is going to be even better.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Aww, I love this! I can't WAIT to have a big kitchen for just this purpose. Super sweet story!

[–]sunfloweriesLate 20s / Engaged / 3 Years1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Thank you for this post! I love this kind of post the most on this subreddit. I'm the kind of person who wants to do it all herself and I have a little trouble letting go of it, so reading this was a nice reminder to just try already!

And Congratulations on successfully hosting!!

[–]Kittenkajira[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Being pregnant is good practice at letting go of control, for me at least. The extra bit of tiredness and crankiness is enough to have me gladly passing the torch to others. Plus you gain weight, weird things happen to your body, and you can't do everything you used to be able to - you just gotta go with it.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Congratulations on the new home! :)

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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